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Dr Adil Mustafa, gjinekolog, shpjegon k\u00ebt\u00eb fenomen akoma t\u00eb p\u00ebrhapur.<\/p>\nDr Adil Mustafa, gjinekolog, shpjegon k\u00ebt\u00eb fenomen akoma t\u00eb p\u00ebrhapur.<\/p>\n
Fabjola Kuburi<\/u><\/strong>\u00a0: -Kemi d\u00ebgjuar se jan\u00eb shtuar rastet kur vajza u drejtohen klinikave obstetrike-gjinekologjike p\u00ebr t\u00eb qepur ose rind\u00ebrtuar himenin e virgj\u00ebris\u00eb. E v\u00ebrtet\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb kjo? <\/strong><\/p>\n Dr.Adil Mustafa<\/u><\/strong>\u00a0: – Nuk mund t\u00eb them se \u00ebsht\u00eb shtuar, ose pak\u00ebsuar numri i k\u00ebtyre rasteve, por \u00ebsht\u00eb e v\u00ebrtet\u00eb se ka mjaft vajza q\u00eb u drejtohen spitaleve, apo klinikave mjek\u00ebsore p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb. Edhe sot, kur t\u00eb gjith\u00eb ul\u00ebrasim se kush e kush \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb shum\u00eb modern e i emancipuar, edhe pse deklarojm\u00eb se kemi ecur p\u00ebrpara drejt Evrop\u00ebs, ka \u00e7ifte t\u00eb reja q\u00eb e bazojn\u00eb jet\u00ebgjat\u00ebsin\u00eb e marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnies s\u00eb tyre pik\u00ebrisht n\u00eb faktin n\u00ebse vajza ishte apo jo e virgj\u00ebr. Dhe, n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb situat\u00eb, vajzat pranojn\u00eb m\u00eb mir\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb gjejn\u00eb nj\u00eb zgjidhje tek mjek\u00ebsia, sesa t\u2019i rr\u00ebfejn\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00ebn partnerit t\u00eb tyre…<\/p>\n –\u00c7far\u00eb thon\u00eb vajzat q\u00eb vijn\u00eb tek ju\u00a0? Kaq e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme \u00ebsht\u00eb p\u00ebr to\u00a0?<\/strong><\/p>\n -Derisa marrin rrug\u00ebn dhe trokasin p\u00ebr t\u00eb k\u00ebrkuar ndihm\u00ebn e doktorit, do t\u00eb thot\u00eb se kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb shum\u00eb e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme p\u00ebr to. Mosq\u00ebnia e virgj\u00ebr, mungesa e himenit (cip\u00ebs s\u00eb virgj\u00ebris\u00eb), mund t\u2019i kushtoj\u00eb edhe t\u00eb ardhmen nj\u00eb vajze… Por nuk vijn\u00eb vet\u00ebm vajzat n\u00eb klinik\u00eb. Ka shum\u00eb raste q\u00eb vijn\u00eb edhe \u00e7ifte\u2026<\/p>\n – \u00c7ifte\u00a0?!<\/strong><\/p>\n – Po, \u00e7ifte t\u00eb cilat prisnin q\u00eb vajza t\u00eb kishte gjakderdhje gjat\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnies s\u00eb par\u00eb, n\u00eb dit\u00ebn e dasm\u00ebs, ose m\u00eb par\u00eb, por kjo nuk kishte ndodhur. Dhe, n\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb shumt\u00ebn e rasteve, ka q\u00ebn\u00eb vajza q\u00eb ka ngulur k\u00ebmb\u00eb e i ka k\u00ebrkuar djalit q\u00eb t\u00eb shkojn\u00eb bashk\u00eb me t\u00eb te doktori p\u00ebr ta v\u00ebrtetuar q\u00eb ishte e virgj\u00ebr\u2026<\/p>\n – Dhe ju, \u00e7far\u00eb b\u00ebni n\u00eb k\u00ebto raste\u00a0?<\/strong><\/p>\n – N\u00eb k\u00ebto raste, un\u00eb si mjek gjinekolog, n\u00eb prani t\u00eb mamis\u00eb dhe partnerit t\u00eb vajz\u00ebs, b\u00ebjm\u00eb vizit\u00ebn gjinekologjike dhe kur na k\u00ebrkohet, japim edhe nj\u00eb v\u00ebrtetim me n\u00ebnshkrimin tim dhe t\u00eb mamis\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb mund t\u00eb p\u00ebrdoret si dokument edhe p\u00ebr ekspertiz\u00eb gjyq\u00ebsore… Por, n\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb shumt\u00ebn e rasteve, ata nuk vijn\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb marr\u00eb dokumente t\u00eb tilla, por p\u00ebr t\u2019u sqaruar p\u00ebr t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00ebn…<\/p>\n – Dhe dalin t\u00eb sqaruar? Si ka q\u00ebn\u00eb e v\u00ebrteta n\u00eb shumic\u00ebn e rasteve?<\/strong><\/p>\n -Gjat\u00eb gjith\u00eb eksperienc\u00ebs sime 20 vje\u00e7are, kam v\u00ebn\u00eb re se n\u00eb mbi 99 p\u00ebr qind t\u00eb rasteve kur vajza ka k\u00ebrkuar q\u00eb t\u00eb shkoj\u00eb te gjinekologu, del q\u00eb vajza ka patur t\u00eb drejt\u00eb. Ajo ka q\u00ebn\u00eb e virgj\u00ebr, por nuk ka patur gjakderdhje gjat\u00eb kontaktit t\u00eb par\u00eb…<\/p>\n – Pse ndodh k\u00ebshtu?<\/strong><\/p>\n – Sepse nj\u00eb fem\u00ebr nuk gjakoset gjithmon\u00eb kur kryen marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie seksuale p\u00ebr her\u00eb t\u00eb par\u00eb. N\u00ebse himeni \u00ebsht\u00eb shum\u00eb i ngusht\u00eb, nj\u00eb grua mund t\u00eb gjakoset pak. Por ka edhe lloje t\u00eb tjer\u00eb humen\u00ebsh q\u00eb nuk japin gjakderdhje, sidomos ndodh kjo te vajzat me himen elastik, me vrim\u00eb t\u00eb gjer\u00eb. Dhe nuk jan\u00eb pak. Sipas statistikave mbi 50 p\u00ebr qind e femrave kan\u00eb nj\u00eb himen t\u00eb till\u00eb. Mjek\u00ebt thon\u00eb se vet\u00ebm 43 p\u00ebr qind e grave n\u00eb bot\u00eb e humbasin virgj\u00ebrin\u00eb duke pasur rrjedhje gjaku n\u00eb kontaktin e par\u00eb seksual, pjesa tjet\u00ebr nuk kan\u00eb asnj\u00eb shenj\u00eb t\u00eb k\u00ebtij kontakti.Ve\u00e7 k\u00ebsaj, ka edhe mjaft femra q\u00eb e \u00e7ajn\u00eb himenin aksidentalisht, duke drejtuar bi\u00e7iklet\u00ebn, nga hypja n\u00eb kal\u00eb, ushtrimet fizike, apo gjate jet\u00ebs f\u00ebminore nga kruajtja, apo mastrubimit. K\u00ebto t\u00eb fundit arrijn\u00eb n\u00eb 30 p\u00ebrqinde t\u00eb rasteve, sipas statistikave.<\/p>\n Me durim ne ja shpjegojm\u00eb t\u00eb gjitha k\u00ebto partnerit. I shpjegojm\u00eb se gjat\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnies s\u00eb par\u00eb seksuale n\u00eb himen, kur ka gjakderdhje, zakonisht, paraqiten dy ose tre t\u00eb \u00e7ara… I themi, p\u00ebr shembull, se vajza ka lindur me k\u00ebt\u00eb lloj himeni dhe kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb normale, madje ja tregojm\u00eb edhe q\u00eb ta shikoj\u00eb vet\u00eb q\u00eb ai \u00ebsht\u00eb ende i pa\u00e7ar\u00eb dhe ai mund t\u00eb \u00e7ahet vet\u00ebm kur ata t\u00eb lindin f\u00ebmij\u00eb; I nxjerrim dhe literatur\u00eb ta lexoj\u00eb dhe vet\u00eb dhe t\u00eb bindet. Dhe, pothuajse gjithmon\u00eb, n\u00eb 99 p\u00ebr qind t\u00eb rasteve, ata jan\u00eb bindur, i kan\u00eb k\u00ebrkuar falje partneres dhe jan\u00eb p\u00ebrqafuar n\u00eb prezenc\u00ebn ton\u00eb. Dhe e bukur \u00ebsht\u00eb q\u00eb edhe pse kan\u00eb ikur t\u00eb p\u00ebrqafuar, kan\u00eb marr\u00eb edhe v\u00ebrtetim p\u00ebr t\u2019ua treguar prind\u00ebrve n\u00eb vend t\u00eb \u00e7ar\u00e7afit me gjak…<\/p>\n – Desha t\u2019ju pyesja m\u00eb posht\u00eb p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb zakonin e \u00e7ar\u00e7afit, por me q\u00eb e p\u00ebrmend\u00ebt po ju pyes tani: Ekziston akoma ky zakon?<\/strong><\/p>\n – Po, edhe pse \u00ebsht\u00eb zakon shum\u00eb posht\u00ebrues p\u00ebr femr\u00ebn, ai ekziston ende n\u00eb shum\u00eb zona fshatare e malore, n\u00eb vendet ku ka shum\u00eb ndikim feja e sidomos n\u00eb komunitetin rom… N\u00eb shum\u00eb raste, nata e par\u00eb e martes\u00ebs kthehet n\u00eb nj\u00eb dram\u00eb, pasi t\u00eb nes\u00ebrmen n\u00eb m\u00ebngjes burri i ri, \u201ei mashtruar\u201c k\u00ebrkon t\u00eb kthej\u00eb n\u00eb sht\u00ebpin\u00eb e saj vajz\u00ebn, pasi nuk e ka gjetur t\u00eb virgj\u00ebr dhe nuk ka mundur dot t\u00eb nder\u00eb \u00e7ar\u00e7afin n\u00eb dritare, si\u00e7 e do zakoni. Shpesh ndodh q\u00eb na vijn\u00eb n\u00eb klinik\u00eb, her\u00ebt n\u00eb m\u00ebngjes h\u00ebret, pa dal\u00eb mire drita, edhe vjehhra q\u00eb kan\u00eb pritur t\u00eb nderin \u00e7ar\u00e7afin, por s\u2019kan\u00eb mundur, p\u00ebr t\u00eb pyetur pse nusja nuk ka nxjerr\u00eb gjak… Jam munduar t\u00eb luaj rolin e mediatorit duke ja v\u00ebrtetuar dhe dokumentuar q\u00eb gjaku n\u00eb \u00e7ar\u00e7af\u00a0 nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb siguri p\u00ebr ndershm\u00ebrin\u00eb.<\/p>\n – Po a binden?<\/strong><\/p>\n – N\u00eb shum\u00eb raste jo. Ata q\u00eb k\u00ebrkojn\u00eb gjakun n\u00eb \u00e7ar\u00e7af <\/strong>e duan at\u00eb, qoft\u00eb edhe me nj\u00eb virgj\u00ebri fallco. Ata k\u00ebmb\u00ebngulin n\u00eb virgj\u00ebrin\u00eb e nuses, m\u00eb shum\u00eb jo sepse duan at\u00eb, por sepse duan t\u00eb tregojn\u00eb shenj\u00ebn q\u00eb ajo \u00ebsht\u00eb e till\u00eb. Por ka edhe t\u00eb tjer\u00eb q\u00eb edhe pse nuk e nderin \u00e7ar\u00e7afin m\u00eb n\u00eb dritare e k\u00ebrkojn\u00eb ende njoll\u00ebn n\u00eb \u00e7ar\u00e7af, si shenj\u00eb ndershm\u00ebrie… K\u00ebto kategori njer\u00ebzish i detyrojn\u00eb vajzat m\u00eb shum\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb vijn\u00eb \u201et\u00eb qepen\u201c …<\/p>\n – Po tjet\u00ebr, \u00e7far\u00eb e shtyn vajz\u00ebn t\u00eb vij\u00eb tek ju p\u00ebr t\u00eb kthyer virgj\u00ebrin\u00eb :<\/strong> Duan t\u00eb ndjehen mir\u00eb me vehten, se b\u00ebhen pishman p\u00ebr di\u00e7ka t\u00eb kryer , apo si nj\u00eb nevoj\u00eb e domosdoshme p\u00ebr t\u00eb krijuar familje apo p\u00ebr t\u00eb finalizuar me fejes\u00eb nj\u00eb lidhje me nj\u00eb djal\u00eb konservator? Pse e b\u00ebjn\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb? \u00c7far\u00eb thon\u00eb vajzat?<\/strong><\/p>\n – <\/strong>Arsyet jan\u00eb t\u00eb ndryshme, sa \u00e7\u2018jan\u00eb t\u00eb ndryshme edhe vajzat. Ka raste q\u00eb lidhen me faktin se martesa e ardhshme \u00ebsht\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb me shkuesi, ku shkuesi, zakonisht nj\u00eb i af\u00ebrt i dy pal\u00ebve, ka hyr\u00eb garant p\u00ebr \u201endershm\u00ebrin\u00eb\u201c e vajz\u00ebs, pa pyetur m\u00eb par\u00eb vajz\u00ebn n\u00ebse ka pasur apo jo nj\u00eb lidhje dashurie, pasi p\u00ebr nj\u00eb pjes\u00eb t\u00eb madhe t\u00eb shqiptar\u00ebve marr\u00ebdh\u00ebniet paramartesore jan\u00eb tabu. E gjendur n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb situat\u00eb, ku vajza nuk ka guximin t\u00eb zhg\u00ebnjej\u00eb njer\u00ebzit e fisit, pranon n\u00eb heshtje q\u00eb s\u2019ka patur njeri dhe p\u00ebrfundon te doktori. Ka edhe raste t\u00eb tjera, kur vajza \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb finoke dhe i p\u00eblqen djali dhe vendos t\u00eb realizoj\u00eb \u00ebndrr\u00ebn e saj. Shtiret si e virgj\u00ebr dhe nd\u00ebrkoh\u00eb thurr planin. Gjith\u00e7ka \u00ebsht\u00eb e planifikuar mir\u00eb. Vet\u00ebm pak dit\u00eb p\u00ebrpara martes\u00ebs, vajza shkon tek nj\u00eb profesionist, i cila i rind\u00ebrton cip\u00ebn e himenit, e qep, pra, si\u00e7 thuhet n\u00eb gjuh\u00ebn popullore dhe nusja \u00ebsht\u00eb ashtu si\u00e7 e donte dh\u00ebndri. Fatkeq\u00ebsisht ndodh edhe k\u00ebshtu. \u00c7ifte t\u00eb reja, q\u00eb n\u00eb vend t\u00eb s\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00ebs, preferojn\u00eb ta nisin jet\u00ebn me nj\u00eb g\u00ebnjesht\u00ebr t\u00eb madhe. Kam par\u00eb shpesh vajza q\u00eb k\u00ebrkojne himenorafi (qepje t\u00eb himenit), p\u00ebr t\u00eb \u201e\u00a0rilindur\u201c t\u00eb virgj\u00ebra, pa \u00e7ar\u00eb kok\u00ebn fare, sikur asgj\u00eb t\u00eb mos kishte ndodhur m\u00eb par\u00eb\u2026Eshte ky nj\u00eb fenomen q\u00eb v\u00eb n\u00eb dyshim moralin e nj\u00eb shoq\u00ebrie q\u00eb e sheh veten konservatore e ku duket se njolla e gjakut n\u00eb \u00e7ar\u00e7af\u00eb ka mbetur pik\u00eb e fort\u00eb reference, por q\u00eb shpesh \u00ebsht\u00eb n\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb \u201cm\u00ebkati\u201d i dyfisht\u00eb i t\u00eb kaluar\u00ebs dhe mashtrimit t\u00eb s\u00eb tashmes. Por ka patur raste kur m\u00eb kan\u00eb ardhur edhe vajza viktima t\u00eb nj\u00eb dashurie t\u00eb parealizuar, t\u00eb ndonj\u00eb mashtrimi apo edhe t\u00eb ndonj\u00eb aksidenti nga ato q\u00eb p\u00ebrmenda m\u00eb lart. Kan\u00eb ardhur edhe vajza q\u00eb i ka vrar\u00eb nd\u00ebrgjegja p\u00ebr at\u00eb \u00e7\u201akan\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb pa u menduar shum\u00eb dhe duan t\u00eb rikthehen si m\u00eb par\u00eb n\u00eb virgj\u00ebrin\u00eb e tyre. Jan\u00eb pik\u00ebrisht k\u00ebto vajza q\u00eb, ashtu si edhe meshkujt, mendojn\u00eb q\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebniet seksuale duhet t\u00eb kryhen vet\u00ebm pas martese dhe se ato q\u00eb b\u00ebjn\u00eb seks para martese nuk jan\u00eb t\u00eb ndershme… Por, si\u00e7 thon\u00eb, shum\u00eb prej tyre e b\u00ebjn\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb edhe q\u00eb burri i tyre i ardhsh\u00ebm t\u00eb mos ua p\u00ebrmend\u00eb gjith\u00eb jet\u00ebn q\u00eb ai nuk ka q\u00ebn\u00eb i pari dhe se ato nuk kan\u00eb q\u00ebn\u00eb t\u00eb ndershme…<\/p>\n Po ka raste te \u00e7uditshme si i nje vajze, per te cilen partneri e dinte qe nuk ishte e virgjer, por e donte shume dhe per hater te prinderve, qe deshironin te shikonin \u00e7ar\u00e7afin me gjak, solli te dashuren te qepej para martese….<\/p>\n Pra, te ne ende p\u00ebr shum\u00eb njer\u00ebz, \u00ebsht\u00eb turp t\u00eb kesh marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie seksuale para martesore dhe ende prishja e himenit quhet kjo si nje shenj\u00eb p\u00ebrdaljeje… Ndodh qe edhe vajza te virgjera qe kane lexuar se jo cdo kontakt i pare ka gjakderdhje, vijne te kontrollohen para martese… Madje, ka dhe vajza me himen elastik qe vertetohet nga gjinekologu se nuk munde te nxjerri gjak, kerkojne t\u2019ja rregullojme himenin qe te nxjerre gjak…<\/p>\n <\/p>\n – Nje pyetje konkrete: himeni ka lidhje t\u00eb drejtp\u00ebrdrejt\u00eb me virgjerine? <\/strong>Natyra ose Zoti e ka bere kete si tregues virgjerie p\u00ebr femr\u00ebn?<\/strong><\/p>\n – Lidhja midis himenit dhe virgj\u00ebris\u00eb nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb aq e v\u00ebrtet\u00eb sa e shpreh miti jo vet\u00ebm p\u00ebr faktin se ai nuk tregon gjithnj\u00eb q\u00eb ka patur marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie seksuale. N\u00eb fakt himeni \u00ebsht\u00eb thjesht nj\u00eb membran\u00eb mukoze q\u00eb mbetet pasi vagina formohet plot\u00ebsisht dhe sh\u00ebrben p\u00ebr mbrojtjen e vagin\u00ebs nga infeksionet e ndryshme. Himen kan\u00eb edhe kafsh\u00ebt si pela etj, pra, s\u2019ka t\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb me virgj\u00ebrin\u00eb e njeriut. As me at\u00eb q\u00eb ne e quajme \u201ecip\u00eb e ndershm\u00ebris\u00eb\u201c<\/p>\n -Tek ne n\u00eb fakt nd\u00ebrsa n\u00eb disa shtresa njer\u00ebzisht mbeten ende tabu marr\u00ebdh\u00ebniet seksuale paramartesore, vihet re edhe fenomeni tjet\u00ebr : Gjithnj\u00eb e m\u00eb tep\u00ebr po ulet mosha mesatare e kryerjes s\u00eb aktit t\u00eb par\u00eb seksual nga vajzat\u2026<\/strong><\/p>\n – Po, kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb e v\u00ebrtet\u00eb. Mosha mesatare e humbjes s\u00eb virgj\u00ebris\u00eb n\u00eb bot\u00eb varion nga 16.4 vje\u00e7 n\u00eb SHBA deri n\u00eb 22 vje\u00e7 n\u00eb Indi. Por sipas anketimeve, tek ne ka raste q\u00eb b\u00ebhet edhe m\u00eb shpejt, sidomos n\u00eb qytete. Seksi n\u00eb adoleshenc\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb n\u00eb rritje dhe kjo, m\u00eb shum\u00eb se shqet\u00ebsim p\u00ebr \u201enderin\u201c e tyre, \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb problem p\u00ebr sh\u00ebndetin, mendoj. Fenomeni i lindjeve n\u00eb mosh\u00eb t\u00eb re dhe marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnive seksuale n\u00eb mosh\u00eb t\u00eb mitur \u00ebsht\u00eb \u00e7\u00ebshtje bot\u00ebrore nd\u00ebrkoh\u00eb, dhe mjek\u00ebt k\u00ebmb\u00ebngulin n\u00eb sensibilizimin e t\u00eb rinjve, p\u00ebr sa u p\u00ebrket s\u00ebmundjeve seksualisht t\u00eb trasmetueshme, masave mbrojt\u00ebse kund\u00ebr shtatzanis\u00eb s\u00eb pad\u00ebshiruar dhe pasojave t\u00eb tjera t\u00eb kontakteve t\u00eb hershme seksuale.<\/p>\n – \u00c7far\u00eb moshash jan\u00eb zakonisht vajzat q\u00eb vijn\u00eb te ju p\u00ebr kthimin e virgj\u00ebris\u00eb?<\/strong><\/p>\n – T\u00eb gjitha moshat, por zakonisht 18-30 vje\u00e7.<\/p>\n – Cilave shtresa shoqerore i p\u00ebrkasin?<\/strong><\/p>\n – M\u00eb shum\u00eb shtresave shoq\u00ebrore t\u00eb varf\u00ebra, me pak arsimim, komunitetit rom dhe fshatrave dhe zonave malore t\u00eb thella, ku ka me shum\u00eb ndikim feja!<\/p>\n -Ndikon besimi fetar n\u00eb tabun\u00eb e virgj\u00ebris\u00eb?<\/strong><\/p>\n – Po, sidomos ai mysylman. Kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb trash\u00ebgimi nga e kaluara. Koh\u00eb m\u00eb par\u00eb te shqiptaret dhe musliman\u00ebt ekzistonte nj\u00eb betim q\u00eb vajzat e reja ua b\u00ebnin prind\u00ebrve, duke u premtuar se do ta ruanin virgj\u00ebrin\u00eb dhe nderin e familjes. I nj\u00ebjti rit vlente edhe p\u00ebr meshkujt, por ndryshe nga femrat, k\u00ebta betoheshin se nuk do t\u00eb b\u00ebjn\u00eb seks, sepse personi tjet\u00ebr do t\u00eb b\u00ebhej nj\u00eb dit\u00eb gruaja e dikujt ose mund t\u00eb d\u00ebmtonin reputacionin e vajz\u00ebs s\u00eb dikujt.<\/p>\n –\u00a0 Esht\u00eb \u201eqepja\u201c nj\u00eb fenomen vet\u00ebm shqiptar tani?<\/strong><\/p>\n -Jo, nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb fenomen vet\u00ebm shqiptar. Madje p\u00ebr kuriozitet, mund t\u2019ju them se kinez\u00ebt kan\u00eb shpikur nj\u00eb himen artificial q\u00eb mund ta blesh p\u00ebr rreth 20 dollar\u00eb. M\u00eb her\u00ebt ata e importonin k\u00ebt\u00eb nga Japonia dhe zakonisht njihet me emrin e virgj\u00ebresh\u00ebs franceze Zhan d\u2019Ark. Ai prodhon t\u00eb nj\u00ebjt\u00ebn ndjesi si virgj\u00ebria, si dhe nj\u00eb njoll\u00eb t\u00eb kuqe menj\u00ebher\u00eb pas kontaktit t\u00eb par\u00eb. Produkti \u00ebsht\u00eb n\u00eb shitje n\u00eb t\u00eb gjith\u00eb bot\u00ebn dhe p\u00ebrmes internetit, reklamohet n\u00eb forume dhe kompanit\u00eb zakonisht ofrojn\u00eb \u201edy n\u00eb nj\u00eb\u201c, q\u00eb ju t\u00eb keni mund\u00ebsin\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebni nj\u00eb prov\u00eb. Ve\u00e7 Kin\u00ebs, ku rivirgj\u00ebrimi me an\u00eb t\u00eb kirugjis\u00eb plastike dhe himenit artificial \u00ebsht\u00eb thuajse normal, p\u00ebr shkak t\u00eb normave morale q\u00eb k\u00ebrkojn\u00eb nga nj\u00eb grua t\u00eb jet\u00eb e virgj\u00ebr nat\u00ebn e par\u00eb t\u00eb martes\u00ebs, dhe kjo t\u00eb provohet p\u00ebrmes gjakut, mjaft i p\u00ebrhapur fenomeni \u00ebsht\u00eb edhe n\u00eb vende t\u00eb Lindjes s\u00eb Mesme, Arabis\u00eb Saudite, n\u00eb Indi dhe n\u00eb pjes\u00eb t\u00eb Europ\u00ebs ku ka emigracion nga vende konservatore t\u00eb Afrik\u00ebs, nga India apo zona t\u00eb tjera. Mjek\u00ebt n\u00eb k\u00ebto vende aplikojn\u00eb tarifa \u201eluksoze\u201c dhe mjaft vajza detyrohen t\u00eb hyjn\u00eb n\u00eb borxhe p\u00ebr t\u00eb mbuluar parat\u00eb q\u00eb u duhen p\u00ebr t\u00eb paguar virgj\u00ebrin\u00eb e re. N\u00eb nj\u00eb shkrim t\u00eb Nju Jork Tajms, pak koh\u00eb m\u00eb par\u00eb, nj\u00eb vajz\u00eb me prejardhje marokene q\u00eb jetonte prej koh\u00ebsh me familjen n\u00eb Franc\u00eb, dhe q\u00eb m\u00eb her\u00ebt kishte pasur marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie me meshkuj e tani priste martes\u00ebn, nd\u00ebrsa \u00ebsht\u00eb n\u00eb radh\u00eb p\u00ebr nj\u00eb nd\u00ebrhyrje t\u00eb rikthimit t\u00eb virgj\u00ebris\u00eb, citohet t\u00eb thot\u00eb: \u201cTani virgj\u00ebria \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme se jeta ime\u201c<\/p>\n – Esht\u00eb i v\u00ebshtir\u00eb si proces p\u00ebr mjekun qepja?<\/strong><\/p>\n \u2013Jo, p\u00ebr mjekun gjinekolog nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb nd\u00ebrhyrja. Ajo zgjat m\u00eb pak se 10-15 minuta dhe konsiderohet si mjaft e thjesht\u00eb dhe pa kosto. Nuk sjell asnj\u00eb efekt an\u00ebsor dhe mund t\u00eb b\u00ebhet m\u00eb shum\u00eb se nj\u00ebher\u00eb, t\u00eb pakt\u00ebn, para se gruaja t\u00eb ket\u00eb lindur. M\u00eb e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb, ve\u00e7 faktit se b\u00ebhesh pjestar n\u00eb nj\u00eb mashtrim, \u00ebsht\u00eb t\u00eb bind\u00ebsh femr\u00ebn q\u00eb ky \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb mashtrim dhe q\u00eb duhet t\u2019i tregoj\u00eb partnerit t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00ebn, po shumica e vajzave nuk binden. Ndihen m\u00eb t\u00eb sigurta t\u00eb b\u00ebjn\u00eb qepje t\u00eb himenit p\u00ebr t\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb \u00e7ar\u00e7afin me gjak, thon\u00eb, se sa t\u00eb kemi ndonj\u00eb mosmarrveshje n\u00eb t\u00eb ardhmen\u2026<\/p>\n – Frekuentohen m\u00eb shum\u00eb spitalet publike apo private? Pse p\u00ebr secil\u00ebn?<\/strong><\/p>\n – Frekuentohen edhe spitalet publike, edhe private, por me se shumti private se kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb gj\u00eb sekrete, nj\u00eb gj\u00eb mir\u00ebbesimi dhe vajzat duan t\u00eb duken sa m\u00eb pak, bile perve\u00e7 mjekut dhe mamise mos t\u2019i shoh\u00eb askush tjet\u00ebr. Ato nuk d\u00ebshirojn\u00eb t\u00eb regjistrohen madje\u2026Ndaj shkojn\u00eb me shpesh te privati.<\/p>\n -Sa mund t\u00eb varioj\u00eb \u00e7mimi i k\u00ebsaj nd\u00ebrhyrjeje?<\/strong><\/p>\n – Ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb, kur vijn\u00eb nga zonat e varf\u00ebra dhe m\u00eb k\u00ebrkojn\u00eb t\u2019ua b\u00ebj k\u00ebt\u00eb pa e marr\u00eb vesh familja, ua b\u00ebj edhe falas\u2026 Ajo kushton 20 mij\u00eb lek\u00eb, por ka edhe q\u00eb paguajn\u00eb edhe me shum\u00eb sidomos kur vijn\u00eb para martese, s\u00ebbashku me t\u00eb dashurin dhe pages\u00ebn e b\u00ebn ai\u2026<\/p>\n -A \u00ebsht\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb si e virgj\u00ebr nj\u00eb vajz\u00eb pas nd\u00ebrhyrjes?<\/strong><\/p>\n -Po, sepse kapen me pe dy-tre pikat e \u00e7ara te himenit dhe gjat\u00eb penetrimit t\u00eb penisit, peri \u00e7an pjes\u00ebt e kapura dhe nxjerr gjak. Nd\u00ebrhyrja ka afat 5 dit\u00eb, pra, duhet q\u00eb brenda 5 dit\u00ebsh femra t\u00eb kryej\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie. M\u00eb pas penjt\u00eb shkrihen\u2026<\/p>\n – A ka patur raste ne praktik<\/strong>\u00ebn tuaj q<\/strong>\u00eb nj<\/strong>\u00eb fem<\/strong>\u00ebr <\/strong>\u00ebsht<\/strong>\u00eb qepur dy her<\/strong>\u00eb?<\/strong><\/p>\n – Po, m\u00eb ka ndodhur disa her\u00eb. Ka patur raste qe vajzat kan\u00eb dashur q\u00eb t\u2019i tregojn\u00eb partnerit para se martohen q\u00eb jane te virgjera dhe nuk kane arritur te realizojne kontaktin seksual brenda afatit 5 deri 7 dit\u00eb\u00a0 dhe jan\u00eb detyruar qe te riqepen. Ose ka patur raste qe vajza e qepur njehere nuk perputhet me ate partner dhe ndahen e pastaj detyrohet te riqepet pasi te gjej\u00eb njeriun e besushem per martes\u00eb…<\/p>\n –\u00a0 A \u00ebsht\u00eb i aft\u00eb nj\u00eb mashkull me eksperienc\u00eb seksuale dhe jet\u00eb aktive seksuale t\u00eb kuptoj\u00eb n\u00ebse nj\u00eb fem\u00ebr ka b\u00ebr\u00eb nj\u00eb nd\u00ebrhyjre t\u00eb till\u00eb?<\/strong><\/p>\n -N\u00eb raste shum\u00eb t\u00eb rralla edhe mund t\u00eb kuptohet kjo nd\u00ebrhyrje se garanci t\u00eb sigurt ka vet\u00ebm n\u00eb matematik\u00eb, por un\u00eb mendoj se po te ket\u00eb nj\u00eb dashuri t\u00eb v\u00ebrtete dhe nj\u00eb gjakderdhje , po ashtu, mashkulli nuk \u00ab\u00a0g\u00ebrmon\u00a0\u00bb m\u00eb shum\u00eb\u2026<\/p>\n – Thuhet se shumica e atyre q\u00eb e k\u00ebrkojn\u00eb partneren e virgj\u00ebr jan\u00eb emigrant\u00eb q\u00eb jetojn\u00eb jasht\u00eb. Nuk duket pak si paradoksale kjo\u00a0? Pse ndodh keshtu\u00a0?<\/strong><\/p>\n -Esht\u00eb e v\u00ebrtet\u00eb q\u00eb ata q\u00eb jan\u00eb jashte e k\u00ebrkojn\u00eb m\u00eb s\u00eb shumti k\u00ebt\u00eb. Ndoshta sepse ata nuk jan\u00eb af\u00ebr vajzave ne vendlindje dhe nuk i njohin ndoshta mir\u00eb. Ndaj q\u00eb t\u00eb sigurojn\u00eb k\u00ebrkojn\u00eb \u201egjakderdhjen\u201c gjat\u00eb aktit t\u00eb par\u00eb…<\/p>\n – Dhe s\u00eb fundit \u00e7\u2018do t\u2019i thoshit lexuesve p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb problem?<\/strong><\/p>\n – E vetmja m\u00ebnyr\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb l\u00ebn\u00eb pas mitet e krijuara mbi virgj\u00ebrin\u00eb dhe iluzionet q\u00eb mund t\u00eb keni rreth saj, \u00ebsht\u00eb marrja e informacionit dhe bisedimi me miqt\u00eb apo me njer\u00ebzit tuaj t\u00eb af\u00ebrt. Bisedat rreth seksit, jan\u00eb tabuja e par\u00eb q\u00eb duhet t\u00eb thyeni p\u00ebr t\u00eb pasur nj\u00eb jet\u00eb seksuale t\u00eb sh\u00ebndetshme n\u00eb t\u00eb ardhmen. Nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb virgj\u00ebria gjithshka p\u00ebr nj\u00eb fem\u00ebr. Njeriu duhet t\u00eb kryej\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie kur e ndjen t\u00eb nevojshme. Ky mentalitet ka ndikuar q\u00eb 40 p\u00ebrqind e shqipar\u00ebve t\u00eb ken\u00eb probleme impotence. Dhe kjo vihet re m\u00eb s\u00eb shumti te njer\u00ebzit q\u00eb mendojn\u00eb se \u201cna d\u00ebnon Zoti po t\u00eb kemi marr\u00ebdhenie seksuale me ndonje fem\u00ebr tjet\u00ebr para martese, ose po t\u00eb masturbojm\u00eb\u201d. K\u00ebta njer\u00ebz q\u00eb nuk kan\u00eb ndjer\u00eb orgaz\u00ebm nj\u00eb koh\u00eb t\u00eb gjat\u00eb, i humbin ndjenjat. Po ashtu edhe nj\u00eb fem\u00ebr e ndershme q\u00eb ruan virgj\u00ebrin\u00eb pa njohur orgaz\u00ebm deri ne moshe te madhe mbi 30 vje\u00e7, i humb ndjenjat dhe ka probleme seksuale. Rekomandimi im si gjinekolog \u00ebsht\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebni sa m\u00eb shpesh seks. Ai \u00ebsht\u00eb k\u00ebnaq\u00ebsi dhe antistres. T\u00eb gjith\u00eb \u00e7iftet q\u00eb kan\u00eb kontakte t\u00eb rregullta seksuale, jan\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb sh\u00ebndosh\u00eb psiqikisht dhe fizikisht. Kurse burrave fetar\u00eb dhe vajzave t\u00eb ndershme q\u00eb duan t\u00eb ruajn\u00eb virgj\u00ebrin\u00eb, ju them q\u00eb t\u00eb pakt\u00ebn nj\u00eb her\u00eb n\u00eb jav\u00eb t\u00eb masturbojn\u00eb. Nd\u00ebrkoh\u00eb ata q\u00eb kan\u00eb kontyakte seksuale, kujdes mos nd\u00ebrroni shum\u00eb partnere. Kujdes\u00a0 nga s\u00ebmundjet seksualisht t\u00eb trasmetueshme dhe nga shtatzanit\u00eb e pad\u00ebshiruara !<\/p>\n <\/p>\n Dr.Adil Mustafa, mjek obesteter-gjinekolog. poliklinika \u201cSh\u00ebndeti\u201d, Tiran\u00eb tel 0696349892 dhe 045605789, e-mail: dradilmustafa@yahoo.com<\/strong><\/p>\n <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Dr Adil Mustafa, gjinekolog, shpjegon k\u00ebt\u00eb fenomen akoma t\u00eb p\u00ebrhapur. Fabjola Kuburi\u00a0: -Kemi d\u00ebgjuar se jan\u00eb shtuar rastet kur vajza u drejtohen klinikave obstetrike-gjinekologjike p\u00ebr t\u00eb qepur ose rind\u00ebrtuar himenin e virgj\u00ebris\u00eb. E v\u00ebrtet\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb kjo? Dr.Adil Mustafa\u00a0: – Nuk mund t\u00eb them se \u00ebsht\u00eb shtuar, ose pak\u00ebsuar numri i k\u00ebtyre rasteve, por \u00ebsht\u00eb e […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":14326,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[40],"tags":[1018,1019],"class_list":["post-14325","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-aktualitet","tag-adil-mustafa","tag-virgjeria"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/14325","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=14325"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/14325\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/14326"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=14325"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=14325"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=14325"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}