N\u00eb p\u00ebrgjith\u00ebsi, njeriu e kupton kur merr fund nj\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie sentimentale. Z\u00ebnka, m\u00ebrm\u00ebritje n\u00ebn z\u00eb, depresion, munges\u00eb komunikimi, munges\u00eb jete seksuale (e p\u00ebrbashk\u00ebt), k\u00ebto jan\u00eb disa nga shenjat q\u00eb tregojn\u00eb se lidhjes i ka ardhur fundi. Megjithat\u00eb, ka raste kur, edhe pse e dim\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00ebn, ne zgjedhim t\u00eb q\u00ebndrojm\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb lidhje t\u00eb till\u00eb. Ja, cilat jan\u00eb pes\u00eb arsye t\u00eb gabuara q\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebjn\u00eb t\u00eb q\u00ebndrosh n\u00eb nj\u00eb lidhje t\u00eb d\u00ebshtuar.<\/p>\n
1. Sepse k\u00ebshtu t\u00eb volit
\nNj\u00eb lidhje e keqe mund t\u00eb shnd\u00ebrrohet leht\u00ebsisht n\u00eb nj\u00eb zakon t\u00eb keq. Mbase nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb ajo q\u00eb prisje, por t\u00eb pakt\u00ebn e di \u00e7far\u00eb pret prej saj. Sa m\u00eb e keqe t\u00eb jet\u00eb lidhja, aq m\u00eb e keqe edhe volitja. K\u00ebsaj i bashkangjitet edhe frika e ndryshimit. Megjithat\u00eb, t\u00eb flesh dhe t\u00eb zgjohedh n\u00eb krah t\u00eb nj\u00eb njeriu q\u00eb urren mund t\u00eb vazhdoj\u00eb p\u00ebr vite me radh\u00eb. \u00cbsht\u00eb shum\u00eb e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme t\u00eb kuptosh se ky q\u00ebndrim do t\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb t\u00eb mbetesh prapa. Mos ki frik\u00eb nga periudha e tranzicionit q\u00eb do t\u00eb kaloj\u00eb pas pak koh\u00ebsh. Ajo do t\u00eb t\u00eb ndihmoj\u00eb t\u00eb shp\u00ebtosh nga vitet e humbura duke sakrifikuar n\u00eb krah t\u00eb dikujt vet\u00ebm nga zakoni dhe volitja.
\n\u00c7far\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebsh: Ulu dhe mendo se cilat karakteristika do t\u00eb doje t\u00eb kishte lidhja ideale p\u00ebr ty dhe mos i nd\u00ebrpre p\u00ebrpjekjet e tua derisa t\u00eb arrish objektivat e tua.<\/p>\n
2. \u00cbsht\u00eb nj\u00eb situat\u00eb praktike
\nShum\u00eb vet\u00eb nuk ndahen sepse lidhja e tyre, megjith\u00ebse e keqe, mund t\u2019u siguroj\u00eb nevojat e p\u00ebrditshme ekonomike dhe praktike. Mbase ti mendon se nuk i ke t\u00eb ardhurat e duhura p\u00ebr ta l\u00ebn\u00eb dhe p\u00ebr t\u00eb jetuar vet\u00ebm. Mbase t\u00eb nevojitet nj\u00eb \u201cshofer\u201d p\u00ebr t\u00eb t\u00eb \u00e7uar \u00e7do m\u00ebngjes n\u00eb pun\u00eb. Mbase thjesht t\u00eb vjen turp t\u00eb t\u00eb quajn\u00eb t\u00eb divorcuar, ose t\u00eb jesh vet\u00ebm n\u00eb nj\u00eb shoq\u00ebri me \u00e7ifte.
\n\u00c7far\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebsh: Mendo thjesht se p\u00ebr \u00e7do problem, ekziston edhe nj\u00eb zgjidhje. Nganj\u00ebher\u00eb nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb zgjidhja m\u00eb e leverdisshme, por \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb mir\u00eb sesa t\u00eb rrish me nj\u00eb partner q\u00eb e sheh si taksist.<\/p>\n
3. Jan\u00eb edhe f\u00ebmij\u00ebt n\u00eb mes
\nSigurisht, kjo arsye \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb e nd\u00ebrlikuara dhe m\u00eb seriozja nga t\u00eb gjitha arsyet q\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebjn\u00eb t\u00eb q\u00ebndrosh n\u00eb nj\u00eb lidhje t\u00eb gabuar. N\u00ebse lidhja jote \u00ebsht\u00eb aq e keqe saq\u00eb keqtrajtimi (me fjal\u00eb apo gjeste) \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb fenomen i p\u00ebrditsh\u00ebm, mund t\u00eb marr\u00ebsh vendimin t\u00eb ik\u00ebsh, jo p\u00ebr vete, por m\u00eb shum\u00eb p\u00ebr f\u00ebmij\u00ebt q\u00eb rrezikojn\u00eb t\u00eb mbartin trauma psiqike p\u00ebr gjith\u00eb jet\u00ebn p\u00ebr shkak t\u00eb saj.
\n\u00c7far\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebsh: Jeni prind\u00ebr dhe duhet ta merrni s\u00eb bashku mbi vete p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsin\u00eb e lidhjes. N\u00ebse realisht nuk do t\u00eb ndahesh, foli hapur p\u00ebr lidhjen tuaj, tregoi si ndihesh dhe l\u00ebre edhe at\u00eb t\u00eb thot\u00eb se si ndihet. Vet\u00ebm si prind\u00ebr t\u00eb p\u00ebrgjegjsh\u00ebm do t\u00eb merrni vendimin e duhur p\u00ebr lidhjen tuaj.<\/p>\n
4. Ke frik\u00eb se nuk do t\u00eb t\u00eb doj\u00eb m\u00eb njeri
\nVet\u00ebbesimi i ulet mund t\u00eb b\u00ebhet nj\u00eb penges\u00eb shum\u00eb e madhe n\u00eb heqjen qafe t\u00eb zgjedh\u00ebs s\u00eb nj\u00eb lidhjeje t\u00eb keqe. Ajo q\u00eb nuk t\u00eb shkon n\u00ebp\u00ebr mend \u00ebsht\u00eb se mund ta ket\u00eb fajin pik\u00ebrisht lidhja p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb vet\u00ebbesim t\u00eb ulur. Ose mbase mungesa e besimit n\u00eb vetvete ishte ajo q\u00eb t\u00eb shtyu se pari n\u00eb krah\u00ebt e k\u00ebtij burri.
\n\u00c7far\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebsh: Mendo thjesht se ai q\u00eb tani t\u00eb duket si skenari m\u00eb i keq, me nj\u00eb fjal\u00eb t\u00eb mbetesh vet\u00ebm, mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb n\u00eb fund m\u00ebnyra m\u00eb e mir\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb qen\u00eb mir\u00eb me veten t\u00ebnde, e qet\u00eb dhe e lumtur.<\/p>\n
5. Ke frik\u00eb t\u00eb jesh vet\u00ebm
\nNganj\u00ebher\u00eb ajo q\u00eb kemi m\u00eb shum\u00eb frik\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb se do t\u00eb mbetemi vet\u00ebm, pa partner. Por, \u00e7far\u00eb t\u00eb keqeje ka n\u00eb t\u00eb qenit e lir\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb vendosur se \u00e7far\u00eb do n\u00eb jet\u00eb, pa ndikimin e nj\u00eb partneri tiran? Kushtoji pak koh\u00eb edhe vetes dhe b\u00ebj m\u00eb n\u00eb fund at\u00eb q\u00eb nuk munde ta b\u00ebje kur ishe n\u00eb nj\u00eb lidhje t\u00eb keqe.
\n\u00c7far\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebsh: Vet\u00ebm kur t\u00eb kuptosh se \u00e7far\u00eb do, do t\u00eb gjesh edhe burrin e duhur q\u00eb do t\u00eb ket\u00eb t\u00eb nj\u00ebjtat \u00ebndrra p\u00ebr jet\u00ebn me ty.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
N\u00eb p\u00ebrgjith\u00ebsi, njeriu e kupton kur merr fund nj\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie sentimentale. Z\u00ebnka, m\u00ebrm\u00ebritje n\u00ebn z\u00eb, depresion, munges\u00eb komunikimi, munges\u00eb jete seksuale (e p\u00ebrbashk\u00ebt), k\u00ebto jan\u00eb disa nga shenjat q\u00eb tregojn\u00eb se lidhjes i ka ardhur fundi. Megjithat\u00eb, ka raste kur, edhe pse e dim\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00ebn, ne zgjedhim t\u00eb q\u00ebndrojm\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb lidhje t\u00eb till\u00eb. […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":13637,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[50],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-13636","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-intimitet"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/13636","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=13636"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/13636\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/13637"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=13636"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=13636"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=13636"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}