Po sikur t\u00eb mjaftonin disa k\u00ebshilla t\u00eb mira q\u00eb nj\u00eb \u00e7ift t\u2019i rezistonte koh\u00ebs? P\u00ebr t\u00eb njohur sekretet e nj\u00eb \u00e7ifti q\u00eb ka jet\u00ebgjat\u00ebsi, ne kemi takuar seksologen Karolin\u00eb L\u00ebru. Nj\u00eb lidhje mund t\u00eb zgjas\u00eb edhe pa seks? A mund t\u00eb falet gjith\u00e7ka n\u00eb nj\u00eb lidhje; edhe tradhtia apo xhelozia? A zgjat 3 vjet dashuria? Si ta mbash gjall\u00eb flak\u00ebn edhe pasi kan\u00eb kaluar vite? Gjeni recet\u00ebn magjike t\u00eb nj\u00eb \u00e7ifi q\u00eb ka jet\u00ebgjat\u00ebsi. <\/p>\n
– A mund t\u00eb zgjas\u00eb lidhja n\u00eb \u00e7ift pa seks?
\n– Ndryshimi mes nj\u00eb \u00e7ifti dhe nj\u00eb lidhjeje miq\u00ebsore \u00ebsht\u00eb pik\u00ebrisht seksi. N\u00ebse nuk ka marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie seksuale mes dy partner\u00ebve, a mund t\u00eb flitet realisht p\u00ebr \u00e7ift? Seksi \u00ebsht\u00eb ai q\u00eb \u00e7imenton nj\u00eb lidhje. Me nj\u00eb fjal\u00eb, n\u00eb p\u00ebrgjith\u00ebsi, pa seks, \u00e7ifti \u00ebsht\u00eb i destinuar t\u00eb d\u00ebshtoj\u00eb. Sigurisht, nuk flasim k\u00ebtu p\u00ebr \u00e7iftet e vjetra n\u00eb mosh\u00eb…
\n– Ka t\u00eb ardhme nj\u00eb lidhje n\u00eb distanc\u00eb?
\n– Kur flitet p\u00ebr dashuri n\u00eb distanc\u00eb, at\u00ebher\u00eb kjo nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb nj\u00eb lidhje. N\u00eb fakt, kur je n\u00eb \u00e7ift, duhet t\u00eb banosh bashk\u00eb me tjetrin dhe ta jetosh me t\u00eb jet\u00ebn e p\u00ebrditshme. Kur p\u00ebrjeton nj\u00eb lidhje n\u00eb distanc\u00eb, nuk e ke m\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb gj\u00eb, pra, nuk b\u00ebhet m\u00eb fjal\u00eb p\u00ebr nj\u00eb lidhje. Kjo mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb nj\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb e mir\u00eb njohjeje, por me kalimin e koh\u00ebs, k\u00ebto \u00e7ifte nuk zgjasin. \u00cbsht\u00eb mir\u00eb n\u00eb fillim, por \u00ebsht\u00eb shum\u00eb m\u00eb mir\u00eb n\u00ebse m\u00eb pas keni mund\u00ebsi t\u00eb jetoni s\u00eb bashku.
\n– \u00cbsht\u00eb normale n\u00eb nj\u00eb \u00e7ift t\u00eb ket\u00eb periudha dyshimi?
\n– Normalisht, kur je n\u00eb \u00e7ift dhe ke besim te tjetri, nuk ke pse i b\u00ebn vetes pyetje. N\u00ebse i b\u00ebn vetes pyetje t\u00eb tilla, at\u00ebher\u00eb ka gj\u00ebra t\u00eb vogla q\u00eb nuk shkojn\u00eb n\u00eb \u00e7ift. N\u00eb k\u00ebto raste, duhet diskutuar me partnerin\/en. N\u00ebse situata nuk rregullohet me biseda, at\u00ebher\u00eb lidhja s\u2019e ka t\u00eb gjat\u00eb…
\n– A mund ta fal\u00ebsh tjetrin kur b\u00ebn nj\u00eb gabim?
\n– Kjo varet nga njeriu. G\u00ebnjeshtrat jan\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebshtira p\u00ebr t\u2019u pranuar, sidomos tradhtia. A mund ta fal\u00ebsh at\u00eb? Disa arrijn\u00eb ta b\u00ebjn\u00eb, por \u00e7far\u00ebdo q\u00eb t\u00eb ndodh\u00eb, dijeni se duhet koh\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb rifituar besimin te tjetri. N\u00ebse nuk arrin ta fal\u00ebsh krejt\u00ebsisht partnerin, do ta kesh shum\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebshtir\u00eb ta vazhdosh lidhjen.
\n– Q\u00eb nj\u00eb \u00e7ift t\u00eb zgjas\u00eb, i duhet th\u00ebn\u00eb gjith\u00e7ka tjetrit?
\n– Jo, \u00e7do pjes\u00ebtar i \u00e7iftit duhet t\u00eb ket\u00eb sekretet e tij. Sekrete quajm\u00eb gj\u00ebrat q\u00eb kan\u00eb ndodhur para lidhjes. Sigurisht, mund t\u2019i thuash tjetrit q\u00eb ke qen\u00eb i lidhur me filanin dhe sa koh\u00eb kan\u00eb zgjatur lidhjet e m\u00ebparshme, por duhet t\u00eb mbash p\u00ebr vete detajet e lidhjes e duhet t\u00eb evitosh krijimin e xhelozive t\u00eb kota.
\n– \u00c7far\u00eb nevojitet p\u00ebr t\u2019i shtuar jet\u00ebgjat\u00ebsin\u00eb nj\u00eb \u00e7ifti?
\n– \u00cbsht\u00eb shum\u00eb e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb t\u2019i p\u00ebrgjigjesh k\u00ebsaj pyetjeje sepse \u00e7do njeri \u00ebsht\u00eb i ndrysh\u00ebm. Gj\u00ebja kryesore mbetet komunikimi, t\u00eb mos e tradhtosh tjetrin dhe t\u00eb p\u00ebrpiqesh gjithmon\u00eb ta d\u00ebgjosh at\u00eb. Por, n\u00eb realitet, nuk ka nj\u00eb zgjidhje mrekullib\u00ebr\u00ebse p\u00ebr ta b\u00ebr\u00eb lidhjen t\u00eb zgjas\u00eb.
\n– Si ta mbash flak\u00ebn gjall\u00eb, edhe me kalimin e viteve?
\n– Q\u00eb t\u00eb zgjas\u00eb flaka, thelb\u00ebsor, p\u00ebrve\u00e7 seksit, mbetet sensualiteti. Nuk mund ta thyesh rutin\u00ebn, por mund t\u00eb gjesh pak koh\u00eb p\u00ebr ta kaluar vet\u00ebm p\u00ebr vet\u00ebm me partnerin. Duhet mbajtur gjall\u00eb erotizmi n\u00eb lidhje, sensualiteti dhe p\u00ebrkujdesjet e vogla q\u00eb p\u00ebrb\u00ebjn\u00eb ndryshimin.
\n– Thon\u00eb se dashuria zgjat tre vjet… Ky, \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb mit, apo realitet?
\n– Disa thon\u00eb tre vjet, t\u00eb tjer\u00eb 18 muaj, ose nj\u00eb vit. N\u00eb fakt, ekziston nj\u00eb afat, nj\u00eb moment n\u00eb nj\u00eb lidhje kur ka konflikte dhe tensione t\u00eb vogla. Arsyeja? Rutina. Dhe, n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb rast, duhen b\u00ebr\u00eb ca kompromise. P\u00ebr fat t\u00eb mir\u00eb, ka \u00e7ifte q\u00eb zgjasin m\u00eb shum\u00eb se tre vjet. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Po sikur t\u00eb mjaftonin disa k\u00ebshilla t\u00eb mira q\u00eb nj\u00eb \u00e7ift t\u2019i rezistonte koh\u00ebs? P\u00ebr t\u00eb njohur sekretet e nj\u00eb \u00e7ifti q\u00eb ka jet\u00ebgjat\u00ebsi, ne kemi takuar seksologen Karolin\u00eb L\u00ebru. Nj\u00eb lidhje mund t\u00eb zgjas\u00eb edhe pa seks? A mund t\u00eb falet gjith\u00e7ka n\u00eb nj\u00eb lidhje; edhe tradhtia apo xhelozia? A zgjat 3 vjet dashuria? […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":13529,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[50],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-13528","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-intimitet"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/13528","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=13528"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/13528\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/13529"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=13528"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=13528"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=13528"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}