E dim\u00eb tashm\u00eb se, n\u00ebse k\u00ebrkon partner n\u00eb internet, duhet t\u00eb respektosh disa rregulla t\u00eb arta. N\u00eb shkrimin e m\u00ebposht\u00ebm ne kemi p\u00ebr q\u00ebllim t\u2019jua kujtojm\u00eb edhe nj\u00eb her\u00eb k\u00ebto rregulla, sepse, si\u00e7 thot\u00eb fjala e urt\u00eb, \u201cnjeriu i paralajm\u00ebruar, gjysm\u00eb i shp\u00ebtuar\u201d…<\/p>\n
1. T\u00eb v\u00ebsh nj\u00eb \u201cduckface\u201d (sikur po puth dik\u00eb) n\u00eb foton e profilit
\nSeriozisht, nuk jemi m\u00eb n\u00eb vitin 2014 dhe tani, vet\u00ebm Kim Kardashiani ia lejon vetes t\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb \u201cselfie\u201d t\u00eb tilla. Edhe n\u00ebse \u201cselfie\u201d nuk kan\u00eb marr\u00eb fund ende, \u201cduckface\u201d ka marr\u00eb fund, gjithsesi. Nuk ka m\u00eb mir\u00eb se nj\u00eb foto e bukur, e marr\u00eb nga dikush tjet\u00ebr, e cila do t\u00eb tregoj\u00eb se keni t\u00eb pakt\u00ebn nj\u00eb shok\/shoqe, ose q\u00eb guxoni t\u2019i k\u00ebrkoni nj\u00eb kalimtari t\u00eb panjohur t\u2019ju b\u00ebj\u00eb nj\u00eb foto!
\nEvitoni gjithashtu: Fotot tuaja fallco, n\u00eb err\u00ebsir\u00eb, t\u00eb paqarta, apo t\u00eb b\u00ebra me fotoshop. Q\u00ebllimi final \u00ebsht\u00eb t\u00eb takosh dik\u00eb n\u00eb jet\u00ebn reale dhe k\u00ebt\u00eb nuk duhet ta harroni.
\n2. T\u00eb l\u00ebsh takimin e par\u00eb n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi
\nOse ju nuk keni par\u00eb mjaft filma horror, ose jeni rrip i zi n\u00eb taekuondo, por n\u00eb t\u00eb dyja rastet, \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb mir\u00eb t\u00eb jeni t\u00eb matura, sesa guximtare. At\u00ebher\u00eb, takimin p\u00ebr her\u00eb t\u00eb par\u00eb me dik\u00eb q\u00eb e keni njohur n\u00eb Tinder (aplikim takimesh q\u00eb p\u00ebrdor Facebook-un), l\u00ebreni n\u00eb nj\u00eb vend publik, n\u00eb sy t\u00eb t\u00eb gjith\u00ebve, si n\u00eb nj\u00eb bar, p\u00ebr shembull…
\nEvitoni gjithashtu: Takimet fshehurazi n\u00eb nj\u00eb park t\u00eb izoluar. Jo p\u00ebr gj\u00eb, por kjo tregon se ai tjetri k\u00ebrkon nj\u00eb lidhje t\u00eb fsheht\u00eb.
\n3. T\u00eb harrosh ta pyes\u00ebsh p\u00ebr mbiemrin
\n\u00cbsht\u00eb e v\u00ebrtet\u00eb, \u00ebsht\u00eb pak e mod\u00ebs s\u00eb vjet\u00ebr, por nd\u00ebrkoh\u00eb q\u00eb i d\u00ebrgoni sms n\u00eb telefon, mos harroni edhe pyetjen klasike: \u201c\u00e7far\u00eb mbiemri ke?\u201d, me q\u00ebllim q\u00eb t\u00eb informoni shoqen tuaj t\u00eb ngusht\u00eb se n\u00eb or\u00ebn 21.00 keni l\u00ebn\u00eb takim n\u00eb filan kafene me Aleks Amokun. Megjith\u00ebse ky em\u00ebr mund t\u2019ju duket qersharak, ky informacion mund t\u2019ju hyj\u00eb n\u00eb pun\u00eb n\u00eb rast se vendosni t\u00eb rrini kat\u00ebr dit\u00eb n\u00eb shtrat me k\u00ebt\u00eb personin. Paralajm\u00ebrojeni shoqen tuaj pra, p\u00ebrndryshe do t\u00eb fillojn\u00eb t\u2019ju k\u00ebrkojn\u00eb me polici.
\nEvitoni gjithashtu: T\u00eb harroni t\u2019i merrni numrin e telefonit dhe t\u00eb \u00e7atoni vet\u00ebm n\u00ebp\u00ebrmjet Facebook-ut, ose aplikimit. Ia vlen ta filloni intimitetin tuaj me nj\u00eb num\u00ebr klasik, q\u00eb fillon me 06…
\n4. Ta takosh n\u00eb nj\u00eb distanc\u00eb m\u00eb shum\u00eb se 20 kilometra larg sht\u00ebpis\u00eb
\nCila gj\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb e keqe sesa t\u00eb ngec\u00ebsh n\u00eb takimin m\u00eb t\u00eb keq t\u00eb jet\u00ebs t\u00ebnde, me djalin m\u00eb t\u00eb m\u00ebrzitsh\u00ebm, t\u00eb trishtuar, me komplekse, t\u00eb \u00e7uditsh\u00ebm apo t\u00eb tmerrsh\u00ebm t\u00eb bot\u00ebs? P\u00ebrgjigjja \u00ebsht\u00eb t\u00eb ngec\u00ebsh me k\u00ebt\u00eb djal\u00eb, me dhjet\u00ebra kilometra larg! Megjith\u00ebse dashuria nuk ka kufij, mir\u00ebsjellja i ka disa rregulla, q\u00eb thon\u00eb se djali n\u00eb fjal\u00eb mund t\u2019i l\u00ebviz\u00eb pak k\u00ebmb\u00ebt q\u00eb t\u2019ju takoj\u00eb dhe jo ju t\u00eb shkoni ta takoni at\u00eb. K\u00ebshtu, \u00ebsht\u00eb ai q\u00eb rrezikon t\u00eb kaloj\u00eb nj\u00eb dit\u00eb t\u00eb keqe larg sht\u00ebpis\u00eb… ose jo.
\nEvitoni gjithashtu: T\u00eb merrni flak\u00eb pa e par\u00eb n\u00eb Skype. Larg\u00ebsi po, por jo \u00e7menduri.
\n5. T\u00eb gjykosh me nxitim
\nJu \u00ebsht\u00eb dashur koh\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb gjetur k\u00ebt\u00eb djal\u00eb, ndaj mos \u201ci vini viz\u00ebn\u201d n\u00ebse ai ka veshur atlete me ngjit\u00ebse, pi l\u00ebng pjeshke, apo ka nj\u00eb pun\u00eb t\u00eb keqe. Ideja \u00ebsht\u00eb t\u00eb zbaviteni, t\u00eb shk\u00ebmbeni idet\u00eb dhe pastaj, ku i dihet? N\u00ebse nuk gjeni dot dashurin\u00eb, mund t\u00eb gjeni nj\u00eb shok t\u00eb mir\u00eb…
\nEvitoni gjithashtu: T\u00eb ndaheni prej tij pa takt kur nuk ju p\u00eblqen. B\u00ebjeni k\u00ebt\u00eb me nj\u00ebfar\u00eb diplomacie, duke pretenduar se keni nj\u00eb urgjenc\u00eb n\u00eb familje, n\u00eb pun\u00eb, apo p\u00ebr arsye personale. Ai nuk do t\u2019ju besoj\u00eb, por do ta vler\u00ebsoj\u00eb delikates\u00ebn tuaj.
\n6. T\u00eb luash rolin e nj\u00eb inspektori policie
\nN\u00eb \u00e7do takim, ndodh e nj\u00ebjta gj\u00eb: Ju b\u00ebni nj\u00eb mij\u00eb pyetje, q\u00eb shkojn\u00eb nga situata e tij profesionale, te shoq\u00ebria, prind\u00ebrit, ish-\u00ebt… Pse t\u00eb mos e pyesni m\u00eb mir\u00eb direkt se sa e ka rrog\u00ebn?! Sinqerisht, \u00ebsht\u00eb mir\u00eb t\u00eb mos ndiqni bised\u00ebn klasike t\u00eb dy t\u00eb panjohurve, ku secili prej t\u00eb dyve b\u00ebn t\u00eb nj\u00ebjtat pyetje dhe p\u00ebrgjigjet pothuajse mekanikisht.
\nEvitoni gjithashtu: T\u00eb tregoni g\u00ebnjeshtra, sepse kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb zbavit\u00ebse. Si t\u2019i thoni pastaj, pas 6 muajve q\u00eb ju jeni 34 vje\u00e7e e jo 29 dhe q\u00eb nuk keni origjin\u00eb italiane?
\n7. T\u00eb lidhesh direkt me t\u00eb
\nNuk duam t\u00eb tregohemi cinik\u00eb. \u00cbsht\u00eb e v\u00ebrtet\u00eb q\u00eb ekzistojn\u00eb \u201cf\u00ebmij\u00eb Tinder\u201d (me nj\u00eb fjal\u00eb, familje reale dhe t\u00eb lumtura, ku prind\u00ebrit jan\u00eb njohur n\u00ebp\u00ebrmjet siteve t\u00eb takimit). Sido q\u00eb t\u00eb jet\u00eb, t\u00eb gjesh princin e kalt\u00ebr n\u00ebp\u00ebrmjet k\u00ebtyre siteve \u00ebsht\u00eb e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb, pasi 95% e kandidat\u00ebve duan lidhje t\u00eb nj\u00eb mbr\u00ebmjeje dhe ata ka gjas\u00eb t\u2019ia arrijn\u00eb k\u00ebsaj, n\u00ebse ju nuk ua vini viz\u00ebn q\u00eb n\u00eb fillim…
\nEvitoni gjithashtu: T\u00eb tregoheni edhe m\u00eb cinik\u00eb se ne dhe t\u00eb mos i jepni asnj\u00eb shans sepse ai nuk di t\u00eb shkruaj\u00eb mir\u00eb shqip: \u201cun\u00eb t\u00eb du, ti e di\u201d. I shkreti djal\u00eb!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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