{"id":1349,"date":"2014-07-14T10:05:09","date_gmt":"2014-07-14T10:05:09","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/?p=1349"},"modified":"2014-07-14T10:05:09","modified_gmt":"2014-07-14T10:05:09","slug":"mos-eshte-homoseksuale-gruaja-ime","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/2014\/07\/mos-eshte-homoseksuale-gruaja-ime\/","title":{"rendered":"Mos \u00ebsht\u00eb homoseksuale gruaja ime?!"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><strong>&#8211; Jam 60 vje\u00e7 dhe gruaja ime \u00ebsht\u00eb 51 vje\u00e7e. Kemi patur marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie t\u00eb mira intime dhe lind\u00ebm dy f\u00ebmij\u00eb, por kam v\u00ebn\u00eb re se bashk\u00ebshortes sime, prej 2-3 vjet\u00ebsh, nuk i p\u00eblqen t\u00eb kryej\u00eb m\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie seksuale. Mund t\u00eb them pa e tepruar se m\u00eb tep\u00ebr e \u201cp\u00ebrdhunoj\u201d sesa b\u00ebj dashuri me t\u00eb. Dua t\u2019ju pyes: Mos \u00ebsht\u00eb homoseksuale dhe nuk e kam kuptuar apo \u00ebsht\u00eb shfaqur tani kjo dukuri? Me respekt, Ismaili.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong><em>Dr. Jashar Demiri, psikolog klinicist:<\/em><\/strong> &#8211; Rrofsh zoti Ismail 60 vje\u00e7ar q\u00eb m\u00eb b\u00ebre t\u00eb qesh sepse ne psikolog\u00ebt, \u201csebep\u201d duam p\u00ebr t\u00eb qeshur pasi i k\u00ebshillojm\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt se nj\u00eb e qeshur, e fundos depresionin. Mos dysho kot te gruaja 50 e ca vje\u00e7are se mos \u00ebsht\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb homoseksuale, pra, lesbike, se ajo do t\u00eb habitej po ta d\u00ebgjonte k\u00ebt\u00eb gj\u00eb e do t\u00eb t\u00eb quante t\u00eb \u00e7mendur. D\u00ebgjo, Ismail! Nuk mund t\u00eb b\u00ebhet njeriu homoseksual pa qen\u00eb i till\u00eb, i \u201cgatuar\u201d q\u00eb n\u00eb rritje. \u00c7far\u00eb kam parasysh n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb? Kam parasysh identitetin seksual i cili p\u00ebrcaktohet mjaft qart\u00eb gjat\u00eb fillimit t\u00eb pjekuris\u00eb seksuale e m\u00eb pas, kur organizmi fillon e \u201cul\u00ebret\u201d p\u00ebr seks&#8230; Eh, sa djem e vajza nxitohen e g\u00ebnjehen n\u00eb p\u00ebrcaktimin e identitetit seksual dhe pastaj, me vones\u00eb, m\u00eb vijn\u00eb mua me lot n\u00eb sy duke e kujtuar veten p\u00ebr homoseksual\u00eb kur testet i nxjerrin hetero t\u00eb past\u00ebr! Po ec e bindi ata! Kjo quhet homofobi dhe \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb tortur\u00eb e v\u00ebrtet\u00eb shpirt\u00ebrore, nj\u00eb si \u201cdar\u00eb psikologjike\u201d kur njeriu q\u00eb ka neveri, bezdi apo urrejtje p\u00ebr homoseksualitetin, kujton se \u00ebsht\u00eb vet\u00eb gej apo lesbike&#8230; Edhe student\u00ebt e mi, ende psikolog\u00eb pa shum\u00eb p\u00ebrvoj\u00eb, e kan\u00eb m\u00ebsuar te l\u00ebnda ime \u201cPsikologjia dhe psikopatologjia e sjelljes seksuale\u201d k\u00ebt\u00eb test t\u00eb thjesht\u00eb i cili p\u00ebrcakton shum\u00eb sakt\u00eb identitetin seksual t\u00eb t\u00eb riut apo t\u00eb res\u00eb. Ja, testi:<\/p>\n<p>1. Gjat\u00eb pjekuris\u00eb seksuale, t\u00eb ka t\u00ebrhequr gjinia tjet\u00ebr? \u2013 P\u00ebrgjigjja \u201cpo\u201d!<\/p>\n<p>2. Gjat\u00eb masturbimit, je masturbuar duke imagjinuar gjinin\u00eb tjet\u00ebr? Ta z\u00ebm\u00eb se p\u00ebrgjigjja \u00ebsht\u00eb \u201cpo\u201d.<\/p>\n<p>3. Shumic\u00ebn e \u00ebndrrave erotike i ke par\u00eb me seks me gjinin\u00eb tjet\u00ebr? P\u00ebrgjigjja: \u201cPo\u201d! At\u00ebhere, i themi nuk e luan as topi se nuk je e nuk mund t\u00eb jesh homo e as biseskual, por je i past\u00ebr heteroseksual, pra, i rregullt dhe pik\u00eb! Kjo lloj frike vjen se t\u00eb rinjt\u00eb e t\u00eb rejat nuk kan\u00eb informacion t\u00eb sakt\u00eb p\u00ebr k\u00ebto probleme. Te ne, t\u00eb rinjt\u00eb nuk kan\u00eb njohuri p\u00ebr dyseksualitetin e vet, t\u00eb cilin e ka \u00e7do njeri dhe nuk duhet t\u2019i trembet fenomenit, pasi dyseksualiteti nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb homoseksualitet. Me k\u00ebt\u00eb shpjegohet edhe pyetja e tret\u00eb e testit kur pyesim se shumic\u00ebn e \u00ebndrrave me cil\u00ebn gjini i keni par\u00eb, pasi \u00ebsht\u00eb normale q\u00eb njeriu t\u00eb shoh\u00eb edhe \u00ebndrra erotike me t\u00eb nj\u00ebjtin gjini apo si incest, pasi k\u00ebto i nxit ose i prodhon dyseksualiteti q\u00eb duhet ta ken\u00eb t\u00eb gjith\u00eb ose frika nga homoseksi apo filmat porno me homoseksualitet etj. T\u00eb gjith\u00eb k\u00ebta q\u00eb kan\u00eb homofobi, dismorfobi (parehati me veten, q\u00eb nuk u p\u00eblqen vetja) apo fobi t\u00eb tjera, duhet t\u00eb ven\u00eb te psikolog\u00ebt, pasi n\u00eb fakt nuk kan\u00eb asnj\u00eb lidhje me homoseksualitetin p\u00ebrve\u00e7se frik\u00eb e madhe dhe e paarsyeshme ndaj tij, ku rolin m\u00eb t\u00eb madh e luan psikosomatikja, tamam si p\u00ebr t\u2019i trembur ata.<\/p>\n<p>Psikoterapia i heq k\u00ebto vuajtje t\u00eb tmerrshme, k\u00ebto fobi pik\u00eblluese, pasi t\u00eb gjitha fobit\u00eb jan\u00eb sjellje e m\u00ebsuar, t\u00eb cilat me hipnoterapi e terapi psikologjike, \u00e7m\u00ebsohen e zhduken me sukses, por me disa seanca. Tani, edhe nj\u00eb her\u00eb p\u00ebr ty dua t\u00eb them, i dashur Ismail, se m\u00eb vjen keq kur thua se ke patur me gruan marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie t\u00eb mira intime, por tani ajo nuk t\u00eb p\u00ebrgjigjet dhe m\u00eb tep\u00ebr e \u201cp\u00ebrdhunon\u201d at\u00eb. Sa p\u00ebr p\u00ebrdhunimin, ta dish se t\u00eb kap ligji edhe me gruan t\u00ebnde po t\u00eb denoncoi ajo dhe asaj i thon\u00eb \u201cdisa minuta ohoho, e disa vite obobo\u201d, por ti ke t\u00eb drejt\u00eb si bashk\u00ebshort q\u00eb t\u2019i k\u00ebrkosh asaj q\u00eb, n\u00eb mos nuk mundet, t\u00eb pakt\u00ebn t\u00eb vini e t\u00eb trajtoheni pasi ne e b\u00ebjm\u00eb t\u00eb sh\u00ebndetshme jet\u00ebn seksuale me psikoterapi dhe ila\u00e7e 100 % bimore! Un\u00eb do t\u2019i lexoja gruas suaj nj\u00eb th\u00ebnie fetare q\u00eb thot\u00eb se \u201cn\u00ebse burri i k\u00ebrkon seks e gruaja si p\u00ebrgjigjet, edhe e s\u00ebmur\u00eb po t\u00eb jet\u00eb at\u00eb gjith\u00eb nat\u00ebn e mallkojn\u00eb edhe melek\u00ebt (engj\u00ebjt mbrojt\u00ebs)\u201d, por ti p\u00ebr mua je burr\u00eb i nderuar edhe p\u00ebr faktin se nuk b\u00ebhesh xheloz p\u00ebr gruan dhe k\u00ebnaqjen seksuale e k\u00ebrkon vet\u00ebm n\u00eb \u201cbah\u00e7en t\u00ebnde\u201d. Sipas meje, gruaja jote po vuan at\u00eb q\u00eb quhet \u201csindromi i foles\u00eb boshe\u201d i cili vjen te femrat n\u00eb periudh\u00ebn e menopauz\u00ebs. N\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb periudh\u00eb, gruaja ndjen \u201cboshll\u00ebqe\u201d e ftoht\u00ebsi nga t\u00eb gjitha an\u00ebt si p\u00ebr shembull: 1. Prind\u00ebrit jan\u00eb t\u00eb vjet\u00ebr e t\u00eb s\u00ebmur\u00eb ose t\u00eb vdekur. Boshll\u00ebk nga f\u00ebmij\u00ebt e rritur e t\u00eb larguar fizikisht ose shpirt\u00ebrisht, sipas parimit: \u201cU rrit zogu, do t\u00eb fluturoj\u00eb\u201d. Boshll\u00ebk, nga martesa e gjat\u00eb e pa fuqi \u201cgravitacioni\u201d si dikur. Boshll\u00ebk nga humbja e pun\u00ebs, r\u00ebnia e bukuris\u00eb fizike dhe fuqive etj. E shikon pra, Ismail, se ajo as nuk t\u00eb tradhton e nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb kthyer n\u00eb lesbike, por ka ato lloj vuajtjesh q\u00eb duan trajtim t\u00eb kujdessh\u00ebm nga ti, por me siguri, edhe nga psikologu. Edhe vet\u00eb Zoti ka th\u00ebn\u00eb: hyzmeti-kesmeti. Jeni t\u00eb mir\u00ebpritur p\u00ebr trajtim falas p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb letr\u00ebn tuaj t\u00eb sinqert\u00eb.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>&#8211; Jam 60 vje\u00e7 dhe gruaja ime \u00ebsht\u00eb 51 vje\u00e7e. Kemi patur marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie t\u00eb mira intime dhe lind\u00ebm dy f\u00ebmij\u00eb, por kam v\u00ebn\u00eb re se bashk\u00ebshortes sime, prej 2-3 vjet\u00ebsh, nuk i p\u00eblqen t\u00eb kryej\u00eb m\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie seksuale. Mund t\u00eb them pa e tepruar se m\u00eb tep\u00ebr e \u201cp\u00ebrdhunoj\u201d sesa b\u00ebj dashuri me t\u00eb. 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