Tradhtia \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb e shpejt\u00eb dhe e menj\u00ebhershme p\u00ebr t\u00eb shkat\u00ebrruar nj\u00eb lidhje, por, ashtu si e ka treguar nj\u00eb studim i fundit n\u00eb internet, ka plot gj\u00ebra t\u00eb tjera q\u00eb jan\u00eb shum\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb fuqishme p\u00ebr t\u00eb shk\u00ebputur edhe lidhjet m\u00eb t\u00eb forta. Disa nga k\u00ebto gj\u00ebra fillojn\u00eb pak nga pak dhe nuk vihen re, gj\u00eb q\u00eb i b\u00ebn ato edhe m\u00eb t\u00eb rrezikshme!<\/p>\n
1. T\u00eb g\u00ebnjesh dhe t\u00eb fsheh\u00ebsh gj\u00ebra nga partneri\/ja
\nEdhe n\u00ebse i b\u00ebni k\u00ebto nga dashuria dhe p\u00ebr t\u00eb mbrojtur ndjenjat e tij\/saj, mbajtja e t\u00eb fshehtave t\u00eb vogla mund t\u00eb shkaktoj\u00eb probleme t\u00eb m\u00ebdha, si ato t\u00eb besimit reciprok, q\u00eb mund ta shkat\u00ebrrojn\u00eb nj\u00eb lidhje. Nj\u00eb grua ka shkruar: \u201cJu duhet t\u00eb jeni t\u00eb aft\u00eb t\u2019i tregoni partnerit\/es pothuajse gjith\u00e7ka. N\u00ebse po fshihni di\u00e7ka, q\u00eb ai\/ajo t\u00eb mos l\u00ebndohet, at\u00ebher\u00eb nuk duhet ta b\u00ebni fare at\u00eb gj\u00eb\u201d. <\/p>\n
2. Mungesa e shenjave t\u00eb dashuris\u00eb
\nDashuri nuk do t\u00eb thot\u00eb vet\u00ebm prekje dhe p\u00ebrk\u00ebdhelje, por edhe t\u00eb ndihmosh tjetrin p\u00ebr t\u00eb kap\u00ebrcyer pengesat n\u00eb jet\u00eb, ta pyes\u00ebsh p\u00ebr gj\u00ebra thelb\u00ebsore dhe t\u00eb marr\u00ebsh p\u00ebrgjigje. N\u00ebse ai\/ajo nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb i pranish\u00ebm dhe nuk e shpreh dashurin\u00eb me nj\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb apo nj\u00eb tjet\u00ebr, kjo shkakton dyshime q\u00eb mund t\u00eb jen\u00eb t\u00eb pariparueshme n\u00eb nj\u00eb lidhje. <\/p>\n
3. T\u00eb mbash m\u00ebri t\u00eb heshtur
\nAshtu si shkruan dikush n\u00eb internet \u201ckur m\u00ebria fillon t\u00eb shprehet, d\u00ebmi i \u00ebsht\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb tashm\u00eb lidhjes\u201d, m\u00ebria fillon heshturazi, por zmadhohet me kalimin e koh\u00ebs. P\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb arsye, ajo shkakton kaq shum\u00eb d\u00ebme. <\/p>\n
4. Munges\u00eb komunikimi
\nKjo nuk do t\u00eb thot\u00eb t\u00eb mos i \u00e7osh asnj\u00eb sms gjith\u00eb dit\u00ebn, por t\u00eb mos flisni me nj\u00ebri-tjetrin p\u00ebr gj\u00ebra t\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme, apo q\u00eb ju bezdisin, ose t\u00eb lini jasht\u00eb detaje q\u00eb ju mendoni se mund t\u00eb shkaktojn\u00eb probleme. T\u00eb gjith\u00eb k\u00ebto gj\u00ebra grumbullohen dhe nj\u00eb dit\u00eb dalin n\u00eb shesh, por kur ndodh kjo, situata ka dal\u00eb jasht\u00eb kontrollit. <\/p>\n
5. T\u00eb jesh kok\u00ebfort\u00eb p\u00ebr disa gj\u00ebra, ose t\u00eb q\u00ebndrosh n\u00eb pozita t\u00eb pal\u00ebkundura
\nKjo \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb th\u00ebn\u00eb \u201crefuzim kompromisi\u201d. N\u00ebse ju p\u00eblqen dikush, ju duhet t\u00eb jeni t\u00eb gatsh\u00ebm t\u00eb bini n\u00eb kompromis. Partner\u00ebt q\u00eb duan t\u2019u shkoj\u00eb gjithmon\u00eb e vetja, jan\u00eb n\u00eb thelb t\u00eb lidhur vet\u00ebm me vetveten. <\/p>\n
6. Grindjet p\u00ebr gj\u00ebrat e p\u00ebrditshme dhe pun\u00ebt e sht\u00ebpis\u00eb
\nSigurisht, debatet q\u00eb b\u00ebni gjithmon\u00eb se kush ka radh\u00ebn t\u00eb derdh\u00eb plehrat nuk duken shum\u00eb t\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme tani, por k\u00ebto lloj gj\u00ebrash b\u00ebhen problem me kalimin e koh\u00ebs, bile edhe m\u00eb keq, b\u00ebhen si municion p\u00ebr grindje m\u00eb t\u00eb m\u00ebdha dhe serioze q\u00eb lindin gjat\u00eb jet\u00ebs s\u00eb p\u00ebrbashk\u00ebt. <\/p>\n
7. Mosp\u00ebrfillja
\nUlja e partnerit \u00ebsht\u00eb thjesht nj\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb tjet\u00ebr p\u00ebr t\u00eb ngritur m\u00eb lart veten, nd\u00ebrkoh\u00eb q\u00eb nj\u00eb \u00e7ekuilib\u00ebr pushteti \u00ebsht\u00eb gj\u00ebja e fundit q\u00eb do t\u00eb donit n\u00eb nj\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie t\u00eb sh\u00ebndetshme dhe afatgjat\u00eb. P\u00ebrbuzja \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb e keqe se tradhtia, sepse \u201cajo ul n\u00eb minimum vet\u00ebvler\u00ebsimin\u201d, k\u00ebshtu q\u00eb edhe pasi lidhja mbaron, ju p\u00ebrs\u00ebri e ndieni d\u00ebmin.<\/p>\n
8. T\u00eb q\u00ebndrosh i lidhur p\u00ebr interes
\nJu mund t\u00eb q\u00ebndroni t\u00eb lidhur sepse nuk doni t\u00eb zhg\u00ebnjeni familjet tuaja me nj\u00eb ndarje, ose sepse keni planifikuar t\u00eb shkoni me pushime bashk\u00eb pas gjasht\u00eb muajsh, etj. Ciladoqoft\u00eb arsyeja, n\u00ebse q\u00ebndroni s\u00eb bashku thjesht sepse k\u00ebshtu duhet, do t\u00eb ket\u00eb vet\u00ebm grumbullim m\u00ebrie, zem\u00ebrthyerjeje dhe z\u00ebnka, kur n\u00eb fakt ekziston mund\u00ebsia p\u00ebr t\u00eb mbetur miq. <\/p>\n
9. Manipulimi
\nKjo \u00ebsht\u00eb kaq delikate, sa shpesh ju nuk e kuptoni q\u00eb po ju manipulojn\u00eb (ose q\u00eb manipuloni), derisa \u00ebsht\u00eb shum\u00eb von\u00eb. Ashtu si shkruan nj\u00eb vajz\u00eb, \u201cmarr\u00ebdh\u00ebniet q\u00eb m\u00eb kan\u00eb shkaktuar m\u00eb shum\u00eb d\u00ebm (n\u00eb t\u00eb dyja rastet, e kam l\u00ebn\u00eb un\u00eb at\u00eb, pra, nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb rasti i nj\u00eb zem\u00ebrthyerjeje…) kan\u00eb qen\u00eb ato t\u00eb humbjes graduale t\u00eb vet\u00ebvler\u00ebsimit gjat\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnies, n\u00ebp\u00ebrmjet nj\u00eb procesi t\u00eb manipulimit nga partneri tjet\u00ebr\u201d.<\/p>\n
10. Xhelozia
\nEdhe pa pasur tradhti, vet\u00ebm dyshimi gjith\u00eb koh\u00ebn p\u00ebr di\u00e7ka q\u00eb mendon se ndodh \u00ebsht\u00eb shum\u00eb m\u00eb i keq se vet\u00eb tradhtia.<\/p>\n
11. T\u00eb hiqesh n\u00eb fillim t\u00eb lidhjes si ai\/ajo q\u00eb nuk je
\nKjo mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb di\u00e7ka e thjesht\u00eb dhe pa vler\u00eb, si t\u00eb b\u00ebsh sikur t\u00eb p\u00eblqejn\u00eb filmat horror, kur n\u00eb fakt i urren, ose kaq e madhe sa t\u00eb thuahs se nuk do nj\u00eb lidhje serioze, kur n\u00eb fakt k\u00ebrkon pik\u00ebrisht k\u00ebt\u00eb gj\u00eb. \u00cbsht\u00eb m\u00eb mir\u00eb t\u00eb tregohesh i\/e sinqert\u00eb q\u00eb n\u00eb fillim, sepse gj\u00ebrat e vogla, me kalimin e koh\u00ebs, mund t\u00eb b\u00ebhen arsye t\u00eb m\u00ebdha ndarjeje. <\/p>\n
12. T\u00eb rrish me tjetrin sepse ke krijuar var\u00ebsi prej tij\/saj
\nJu po rrini bashk\u00eb sepse keni krijuar var\u00ebsi nga nj\u00ebri-tjetri dhe askush prej jush nuk do t\u00eb rrij\u00eb vet\u00ebm. Me fjal\u00eb t\u00eb tjera, ju nuk keni m\u00eb afri me nj\u00ebri-tjetrin dhe e vetmja arsye pse jeni bashk\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb mos rrini vet\u00ebm. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Tradhtia \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb e shpejt\u00eb dhe e menj\u00ebhershme p\u00ebr t\u00eb shkat\u00ebrruar nj\u00eb lidhje, por, ashtu si e ka treguar nj\u00eb studim i fundit n\u00eb internet, ka plot gj\u00ebra t\u00eb tjera q\u00eb jan\u00eb shum\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb fuqishme p\u00ebr t\u00eb shk\u00ebputur edhe lidhjet m\u00eb t\u00eb forta. Disa nga k\u00ebto gj\u00ebra fillojn\u00eb pak nga pak dhe nuk […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":13444,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[50],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-13443","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-intimitet"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/13443","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=13443"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/13443\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/13444"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=13443"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=13443"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=13443"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}