E kemi th\u00ebn\u00eb shpeshher\u00eb se, q\u00ebkur ka ekzistuar seksi, ka ekzistuar edhe tradhtia! Nuk ka njeri t\u00eb gjall\u00eb n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb bot\u00eb q\u00eb, edhe n\u00ebse nuk ka tradhtuar, nuk e ka menduar di\u00e7ka t\u00eb till\u00eb. Arsyet pse burrat dhe grat\u00eb tradhtojn\u00eb jan\u00eb t\u00eb ndryshme dhe sigurisht, t\u00eb shumta. \u00c7\u2019\u00ebsht\u00eb e v\u00ebrteta, n\u00eb shoq\u00ebrin\u00eb ku jetojm\u00eb, ekziston ideja se jan\u00eb burrat ata q\u00eb tradhtojn\u00eb m\u00eb shum\u00eb, por edhe q\u00eb falen m\u00eb leht\u00eb nga partneret e tyre. N\u00eb asnj\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb nuk duam k\u00ebtu t\u00eb mbrojm\u00eb tradhtin\u00eb, por as nuk mund t\u00eb mbyllim syt\u00eb ndaj faktit se shumica e burrave kan\u00eb tradhtuar t\u00eb pakt\u00ebn nj\u00eb her\u00eb n\u00eb jet\u00ebn e tyre dhe m\u00eb pas, jan\u00eb falur nga grat\u00eb. Arsyet p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb jan\u00eb t\u00eb shumta dhe ne i kemi radhitur m\u00eb posht\u00eb, me d\u00ebshir\u00ebn q\u00eb ti, t\u00eb b\u00ebsh pjes\u00eb tek ato t\u00eb pakta gra q\u00eb nuk u ka ndodhur di\u00e7ka e till\u00eb, ose, t\u00eb pakt\u00ebn, q\u00eb nuk e kan\u00eb marr\u00eb vesh!<\/p>\n
1. Shpresa e ndryshimit
\nSa her\u00eb mund t\u00eb kesh d\u00ebgjuar se si nj\u00eb grua, e cila e ka marr\u00eb vesh se si shoqi e tradhton, mb\u00ebshtet iden\u00eb se ai do t\u00eb ndryshoj\u00eb dhe ajo ka nd\u00ebrmend t\u00eb rrij\u00eb me t\u00eb derisa kjo t\u00eb ndodh\u00eb? Le ta themi mes nesh, t\u00eb gjitha grat\u00eb e kan\u00eb menduar qoft\u00eb edhe nj\u00eb her\u00eb di\u00e7ka t\u00eb till\u00eb. Gruaja, pra, ka besim se burri q\u00eb ka n\u00eb krah do t\u00eb ndryshoj\u00eb. Sido q\u00eb t\u00eb jet\u00eb dhe t\u00eb sillet, thell\u00eb brenda saj, gruaja mendon se ai \u00ebsht\u00eb zem\u00ebrmir\u00eb, se ka kaluar v\u00ebshtir\u00ebsi n\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebri dhe, kur t\u00eb shoh\u00eb se sa shum\u00eb e do ajo, do t\u00eb pendohet dhe do ta doj\u00eb edhe ai. Po moj shoqe, po, mir\u00eb apo keq, k\u00ebshtu mendojm\u00eb t\u00eb gjitha ne grat\u00eb dhe p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb arsye jemi t\u00eb gatshme ta falim tradhtin\u00eb me shpres\u00ebn e rregullimit t\u00eb gj\u00ebrave n\u00eb t\u00eb ardhmen! “Once a cheater alvvays a cheater” (po tradhtove nj\u00ebher\u00eb, tradhton gjithmon\u00eb) thon\u00eb anglez\u00ebt, kurse ne e themi se bishti i qenit, po bisht qeni mbetet, pra, ai nuk ka p\u00ebr t\u00eb ndryshuar kurr\u00eb, por ne nuk jemi k\u00ebtu p\u00ebr t\u00eb gjykuar at\u00eb… <\/p>\n
2. Frik\u00eb nga e panjohura
\nLe t\u00eb themi t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00ebn, nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb kaq e leht\u00eb p\u00ebr nj\u00eb grua q\u00eb ka patur nj\u00eb lidhje t\u00eb gjat\u00eb, t’u jap\u00eb nj\u00eb shkelm t\u00eb t\u00ebrave dhe ta filloj\u00eb gjith\u00e7ka nga fillimi. \u00cbsht\u00eb di\u00e7ka e ngjashme me nj\u00eb mjedis t\u00eb ri pune. Papritur, nga “ne” b\u00ebhesh “un\u00eb”, miqt\u00eb e harruar fillojn\u00eb t\u00eb shfaqen pa ndonj\u00eb sukses t\u00eb ve\u00e7ant\u00eb, sepse nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb e leht\u00eb t\u00eb ndryshosh zakonet e p\u00ebrditshme dhe kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb e frikshme p\u00ebr k\u00ebdo! L\u00ebre pastaj q\u00eb ke vite e lidhur dhe ke harruar edhe si t\u00eb flirtosh. P\u00ebr t\u00eb evituar t\u00eb gjitha k\u00ebto gj\u00ebra, b\u00ebjm\u00eb nj\u00eb sy qorr e nj\u00eb vesh shurdh dhe harrojm\u00eb… gilivilit e burrit, duke b\u00ebr\u00eb kryqin q\u00eb kjo gj\u00eb t\u00eb mos p\u00ebrs\u00ebritet prap\u00eb!<\/p>\n
3. Mohimi i humbjes
\nNe grat\u00eb jemi k\u00ebmb\u00ebngul\u00ebse dhe kok\u00ebforta! Sa her\u00eb e kemi nxjerr\u00eb nga goja fraz\u00ebn: “K\u00ebshtu na qenka puna? Prit, pa ta tregoj un\u00eb se kush \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb e mir\u00eb, un\u00eb apo ajo!”. P\u00ebr dik\u00eb kjo mund t\u00eb duket si munges\u00eb egoizmi, por p\u00ebr ne, \u00ebsht\u00eb \u00e7\u00ebshtje prestigji! Ai, nj\u00eb arsye e ka q\u00eb ka b\u00ebr\u00eb seks me nj\u00eb grua tjet\u00ebr (sigurisht, vet\u00ebm ai e di). K\u00ebshtu, ne do t\u00eb fillojm\u00eb t\u00eb k\u00ebrkojm\u00eb arsyet, do t’i analizojm\u00eb mbar\u00eb e mbrap\u00eb, me ndihm\u00ebn e shoqes\/eve dhe n\u00eb vazhdim, n\u00eb vend q\u00eb ta sikterisim, do t\u00eb organizojm\u00eb nj\u00eb plan t\u00eb t\u00ebr\u00eb, me q\u00ebllim q\u00eb t’i tregojm\u00eb atij se sa gabim e ka dhe sa her\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb mira jemi ne nga ajo tjetra. Ky burr\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb yni dhe nuk kemi nd\u00ebrmend t’i dor\u00ebzojm\u00eb arm\u00ebt kaq leht\u00eb, duke ia l\u00ebn\u00eb rrug\u00ebn e lir\u00eb asaj tjetr\u00ebs! Do t’ia b\u00ebjm\u00eb jet\u00ebn sk\u00ebterr\u00eb derisa ta kuptoj\u00eb se jemi t\u00eb gatshme p\u00ebr gjith\u00e7ka! Zakonisht, ai e kupton k\u00ebt\u00eb, por n\u00eb k\u00ebto raste, ne jemi n\u00eb kufijt\u00eb e paranoj\u00ebs, gati p\u00ebr n\u00eb \u00e7mendin\u00eb!<\/p>\n
4. Ju bashkojn\u00eb shum\u00eb gj\u00ebra
\nJan\u00eb t\u00eb shumta gj\u00ebrat q\u00eb t\u00eb lidhin me t\u00eb. Sidomos n\u00ebse n\u00eb mes jan\u00eb edhe f\u00ebmij\u00ebt, \u00e7\u00ebshtja merr dimensione t\u00eb tjera… Edhe sikur t\u00eb mos jen\u00eb n\u00eb mes f\u00ebmij\u00ebt, e kaluara hyn aq fuqish\u00ebm mes ju t\u00eb dyve, sa t\u00eb b\u00ebn t\u00eb harrosh edhe at\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb ka b\u00ebr\u00eb. Jan\u00eb fotot nga pushimet, k\u00eblyshi i qenit q\u00eb t\u00eb ka b\u00ebr\u00eb dhurat\u00eb dhe q\u00eb tani \u00ebsht\u00eb rritur, apo gota e tij e preferuar e kafes\u00eb! Kuptohet q\u00eb, n\u00ebse keni kaluar t\u00eb mira e t\u00eb k\u00ebqija bashk\u00eb, n\u00ebse ai t\u00eb ka mb\u00ebshtetur n\u00eb momentet e v\u00ebshtira… \u00ebsht\u00eb shum\u00eb e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb t’i harrosh t\u00eb t\u00ebra p\u00ebr nj\u00eb \u201crr\u00ebshqitje\u201d!<\/p>\n
5. Ushqen akoma ndjenja t\u00eb fuqishme p\u00ebr t\u00eb
\nNganj\u00ebher\u00eb ndjenjat jan\u00eb aq t\u00eb fuqishme, sa nuk e ke problem ta ndash edhe me nj\u00eb tjet\u00ebr! Edhe sikur ti t\u00eb mos b\u00ebsh pjes\u00eb te ky grup grash, sill nj\u00ebher\u00eb n\u00ebp\u00ebr mend grat\u00eb q\u00eb njeh dhe patjet\u00ebr q\u00eb do t\u00eb kesh nj\u00eb shembull t\u00eb till\u00eb mes tyre. Nuk jan\u00eb vet\u00ebm ndjenjat shum\u00eb t\u00eb forta, \u00ebsht\u00eb edhe vet\u00ebvler\u00ebsimi shum\u00eb i ul\u00ebt. “Ku t\u00eb gjej tjet\u00ebr tani? E kush do t\u00eb sillet me mua kaq mir\u00eb sa ai? Kam shtuar n\u00eb pesh\u00eb dhe vet\u00ebm ai e duron k\u00ebt\u00eb” dhe plot t\u00eb tjera t\u00eb ngjashme! E v\u00ebrteta \u00ebsht\u00eb se, n\u00ebse lidhja juaj \u00ebsht\u00eb serioze, t\u00eb pranosh t\u00eb ndash nj\u00eb burr\u00eb me nj\u00eb grua tjet\u00ebr, vet\u00ebm e vet\u00ebm q\u00eb t\u00eb mos e humbas\u00ebsh, \u00ebsht\u00eb di\u00e7ka e shpifur dhe posht\u00ebruese p\u00ebr dinjitetin dhe p\u00ebr egoizmin t\u00ebnd. N\u00eb fund t\u00eb fundit, nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb krim ta zhvler\u00ebsosh n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb lidhjen e bukur q\u00eb kishit? N\u00ebse ti i je m\u00ebrzitur, mjafton q\u00eb ai t\u00eb largohet dhe t\u00eb kthehet vet\u00ebm kur ta dij\u00eb se \u00e7far\u00eb k\u00ebrkon… <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
E kemi th\u00ebn\u00eb shpeshher\u00eb se, q\u00ebkur ka ekzistuar seksi, ka ekzistuar edhe tradhtia! Nuk ka njeri t\u00eb gjall\u00eb n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb bot\u00eb q\u00eb, edhe n\u00ebse nuk ka tradhtuar, nuk e ka menduar di\u00e7ka t\u00eb till\u00eb. Arsyet pse burrat dhe grat\u00eb tradhtojn\u00eb jan\u00eb t\u00eb ndryshme dhe sigurisht, t\u00eb shumta. \u00c7\u2019\u00ebsht\u00eb e v\u00ebrteta, n\u00eb shoq\u00ebrin\u00eb ku jetojm\u00eb, ekziston […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":13145,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[50],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-13144","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-intimitet"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/13144","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=13144"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/13144\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/13145"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=13144"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=13144"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=13144"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}