Ju ka ardhur n\u00eb maj\u00eb t\u00eb hund\u00ebs pyetja: \u201cKur do t\u2019i ham\u00eb llokumet?\u201d, nd\u00ebrkoh\u00eb q\u00eb nuk keni as t\u00eb dashur? Mos u m\u00ebrzisni, ka edhe beqaria t\u00eb mirat e veta. Sipas Uendi Uasonit, psikologe dhe themeluese e sitit MySingleSpace, t\u00eb qenit n\u00eb \u00e7ift t\u00eb detyron t\u00eb sakrifikosh lumturin\u00eb t\u00ebnde p\u00ebr at\u00eb t\u00eb dikujt tjet\u00ebr dhe t\u00eb ushqesh pritshm\u00ebri jo realiste: \u201cBeqar\u00ebt jan\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb nd\u00ebrgjegjsh\u00ebm p\u00ebr nevojat e tyre dhe p\u00ebrpiqen t\u00eb gjejn\u00eb m\u00ebnyra t\u00eb ndryshme p\u00ebr t\u00eb krijuar lumturin\u00eb e tyre\u201d. Mbase p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb arsye, shoqet e martuara ju shnd\u00ebrrojn\u00eb n\u00eb zyr\u00eb ankesash kur kan\u00eb probleme n\u00eb familjen e tyre…<\/p>\n
1. Ndihesh m\u00eb zen
\nSipas nj\u00eb studimi t\u00eb vitit 2014, t\u00eb jetosh n\u00eb nj\u00eb lidhje t\u00eb keqe, \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb e d\u00ebmshme se beqaria. \u201cAtyre, t\u00eb cil\u00ebve martesa u shkakton stres, jan\u00eb m\u00eb pak t\u00eb aft\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00ebrfitojn\u00eb nga momentet pozitive t\u00eb jet\u00ebs s\u00eb tyre\u201d, theksojn\u00eb autor\u00ebt e studimit. Akoma m\u00eb keq, nj\u00eb lidhje fatkeqe shton rreziqet e depresionit. K\u00ebshtu, nd\u00ebrsa nj\u00eb \u00e7ift mund t\u00eb grindet, nj\u00eb beqar q\u00ebndron rehat n\u00eb sht\u00ebpin\u00eb e vet, duke par\u00eb nj\u00eb film t\u00eb bukur.
\n2. Beqar\u00ebt jan\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb lir\u00eb profesionalisht
\nSipas Bela De Paulos, k\u00ebrkuese n\u00eb shkencat shoq\u00ebrore, beqaria t\u00eb lejon t\u00eb jesh m\u00eb i lirsh\u00ebm n\u00eb zgjedhjen e karrier\u00ebs. \u201cNuk keni pse t\u00eb refuzoni oraret e zgjatura, rrog\u00ebn, ose transferimet e mundshme n\u00eb nj\u00eb qytet (apo vend) tjet\u00ebr\u201d. Akoma m\u00eb mir\u00eb, nj\u00eb studim thot\u00eb se beqar\u00ebt i vler\u00ebsojn\u00eb m\u00eb shum\u00eb pun\u00ebt me or\u00eb t\u00eb zgjatur dhe me volum t\u00eb madh dhe n\u00eb k\u00ebto koh\u00eb kur vendet e pun\u00ebs sa vijn\u00eb e shkurtohen, k\u00ebto cil\u00ebsi vler\u00ebsohen…
\n3. Beqar\u00ebt kan\u00eb shoq\u00ebri m\u00eb t\u00eb gjer\u00eb
\nShum\u00eb studime tregojn\u00eb se beqar\u00ebt jan\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb kujdessh\u00ebm ndaj miqve t\u00eb tyre, t\u00eb af\u00ebrmve, apo fqinj\u00ebve sesa t\u00eb martuarit, t\u00eb cil\u00ebt kan\u00eb tendenc\u00eb \u201ct\u2019i p\u00ebrkushtohen nj\u00eb personi t\u00eb vet\u00ebm\u201d, sipas Guendolin Sidmanit, profesoresh\u00eb psikologjie. Dhe, sipas nj\u00eb studimi, mungesa e lidhjeve shoq\u00ebrore \u00ebsht\u00eb po aq e d\u00ebmshme p\u00ebr sh\u00ebndetin sa edhe duhani (mos ua thoni k\u00ebt\u00eb miqve q\u00eb jan\u00eb n\u00eb \u00e7ift).
\n4. Jan\u00eb m\u00eb n\u00eb form\u00eb fizikisht
\nNj\u00eb shumic\u00eb e madhe e popullsis\u00eb nuk i praktikon 150 minutat n\u00eb jav\u00eb t\u00eb aktivitetit fizik t\u00eb k\u00ebshilluar p\u00ebr t\u00eb qen\u00eb n\u00eb form\u00eb. Nd\u00ebr k\u00ebta p\u00ebrtac\u00eb, 73% jan\u00eb t\u00eb martuar, nd\u00ebrkoh\u00eb q\u00eb beqar\u00ebt, ose t\u00eb divorcuarit, jan\u00eb m\u00eb aktiv\u00eb. Ja si e shpjegon k\u00ebt\u00eb De Paulo: \u201cBeqar\u00ebt kujdesen m\u00eb shum\u00eb p\u00ebr veten, sepse jan\u00eb ende n\u00eb k\u00ebrkim t\u00eb partnerit\/es t\u00eb tyre. Dhe, sistemi i tyre kardiovaskular, i fal\u00ebnderon p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb\u201d.
\n5. Jan\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb \u00e7lodhur
\nNj\u00eb person tjet\u00ebr n\u00eb shtrat mund t\u00eb t\u00eb turbulloj\u00eb apo t\u00eb ta prish\u00eb gjumin, sipas Stiven Sharfit, drejtor i qendr\u00ebs p\u00ebr problemet e gjumit n\u00eb universitetin e Merilendit. \u201cL\u00ebvizjet n\u00eb shtrat, apnet\u00eb e gjumit, g\u00ebrhitjet, etj., ndikojn\u00eb negativisht te gjumi i tjetrit\u201d. Shum\u00eb \u00e7ifte t\u00eb moshuara q\u00eb flen\u00eb ve\u00e7 e ve\u00e7, do t\u2019jua konfirmojn\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb.
\n6. Jan\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb q\u00ebndruesh\u00ebm emocionalisht
\nSipas nj\u00eb studimi, beqaria b\u00ebn t\u00eb mundur ta kontrollosh m\u00eb mir\u00eb harxhimin e koh\u00ebs dhe t\u00eb ndjek\u00ebsh nj\u00eb rutin\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00ebrshtatet ty, gj\u00eb q\u00eb sjell nj\u00eb cil\u00ebsi m\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00eb jetese… dhe m\u00eb shum\u00eb shanse p\u00ebr t\u00eb evituar ndonj\u00eb s\u00ebmundje mendore. Sepse, kur je vet\u00ebm, nuk ke pse t\u00eb negociosh me tjetrin se \u00e7far\u00eb do t\u00eb hash, sa ta mbash temperatur\u00ebn n\u00eb dhom\u00eb, ngjyr\u00ebn e divanit, muzik\u00ebn q\u00eb do t\u00eb d\u00ebgjosh, apo t\u00eb durosh prind\u00ebrit dhe familjen e tjetrit. Truri duhet ta vler\u00ebsoj\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb lloj lirie dhe k\u00ebnaq\u00ebsie.
\n7. M\u00eb rezistent\u00eb
\nShoq\u00ebria i vler\u00ebson t\u00eb martuarit, pohon De Paulo, gj\u00eb q\u00eb zhvillon te beqar\u00ebt nj\u00eb aft\u00ebsi t\u00eb madhe p\u00ebrshtatjeje. \u00cbsht\u00eb v\u00ebn\u00eb re se ushtar\u00ebt amerikan\u00eb t\u00eb plagosur, kishin m\u00eb pak simptoma posttraumatike kur ishin beqar\u00eb, sesa t\u00eb martuar. Epo, kur duron miqt\u00eb q\u00eb jan\u00eb n\u00eb \u00e7ift, apo prind\u00ebrit q\u00eb duan t\u00eb t\u00eb shohin medeomos t\u00eb martuar, b\u00ebhesh medoemos m\u00eb rezistent! <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Ju ka ardhur n\u00eb maj\u00eb t\u00eb hund\u00ebs pyetja: \u201cKur do t\u2019i ham\u00eb llokumet?\u201d, nd\u00ebrkoh\u00eb q\u00eb nuk keni as t\u00eb dashur? Mos u m\u00ebrzisni, ka edhe beqaria t\u00eb mirat e veta. Sipas Uendi Uasonit, psikologe dhe themeluese e sitit MySingleSpace, t\u00eb qenit n\u00eb \u00e7ift t\u00eb detyron t\u00eb sakrifikosh lumturin\u00eb t\u00ebnde p\u00ebr at\u00eb t\u00eb dikujt tjet\u00ebr dhe […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":13099,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[50,219],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-13098","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-intimitet","category-pyetje-pergjigje"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/13098","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=13098"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/13098\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/13099"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=13098"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=13098"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=13098"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}