Kur d\u00ebgjojm\u00eb se dy partner\u00ebt e nj\u00eb \u00e7ifti flen\u00eb n\u00eb dhoma ve\u00e7 e ve\u00e7, menj\u00ebher\u00eb mendojm\u00eb se lidhja ka probleme, se jeta e tyre seksuale \u201cka shteruar\u201d dhe se divorci po shfaqet n\u00eb horizont. Sa e v\u00ebrtet\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb kjo? Kur nj\u00ebri nga partner\u00ebt fle n\u00eb divan, ose n\u00eb dhom\u00ebn e miqve, mund t\u00eb thuhet se \u00e7ifti nuk shkon mir\u00eb, por kjo nuk vlen gjithmon\u00eb. Sipas nj\u00eb mode t\u00eb re, gjithnj\u00eb e m\u00eb shum\u00eb \u00e7ifte zgjedhin t\u00eb flen\u00eb n\u00eb dhoma gjumi t\u00eb ndryshme, por p\u00ebr nj\u00eb arsye krejt t\u00eb ndryshme: Duan thjesht t\u00eb flen\u00eb rehat (26% e amerikan\u00ebve thon\u00eb se flen\u00eb m\u00eb mir\u00eb vet\u00ebm) dhe kjo nuk do t\u00eb thot\u00eb se nuk jan\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb dashuruar me nj\u00ebri-tjetrin. <\/p>\n
T\u00eb dua, por…
\nArsyet se pse partner\u00ebt e nj\u00eb \u00e7ifti t\u00eb lumtur zgjedhin t\u00eb flen\u00eb n\u00eb dhoma t\u00eb ndara, edhe pas nj\u00eb seksi t\u00eb mir\u00eb:
\n1. Nj\u00ebri nga partner\u00ebt do t\u00eb flej\u00eb duke par\u00eb televizor, nd\u00ebrsa tjetrin nuk e z\u00eb gjumi kur ekrani \u00ebsht\u00eb i ndezur.
\n2. Nj\u00ebri nga partner\u00ebt ka apne gjumi, apo g\u00ebrhet, duke zgjuar edhe \u201cshokun e dhom\u00ebs\u201d me zhurm\u00ebn e tij, n\u00eb or\u00eb jo t\u00eb zakonta (n\u00eb 2 t\u00eb nat\u00ebs, p\u00ebr shembull).
\n3. Dy partner\u00ebt kan\u00eb orare t\u00eb ndryshme pune dhe\/ose preferenca t\u00eb ndryshme n\u00eb gjum\u00eb. P\u00ebr shembull, nj\u00eb muzikant mund t\u00eb luaj\u00eb kitar\u00eb dhe t\u00eb kompozoj\u00eb deri n\u00eb or\u00ebt e vona, nd\u00ebrsa partnerja e tij zgjohet n\u00eb or\u00ebn gjasht\u00eb t\u00eb m\u00ebngjesit p\u00ebr t\u00eb vajtur n\u00eb pun\u00eb dhe duhet t\u00eb shkoj\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb fjetur n\u00eb or\u00ebn 9 t\u00eb dark\u00ebs.
\n4. Nj\u00ebrit i p\u00eblqen t\u00eb flej\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb mjedis t\u00eb fresk\u00ebt, me dritaret hapur, nd\u00ebrsa tjetri preferon t\u00eb flej\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb dhom\u00eb t\u00eb ngroht\u00eb, t\u00eb jet\u00eb i\/e mbuluar mir\u00eb dhe i veshur me pizhama t\u00eb trasha.
\n5. Nj\u00ebri preferon nj\u00eb dyshek t\u00eb but\u00eb, nd\u00ebrsa tjetri duhet t\u00eb flej\u00eb n\u00eb dyshek t\u00eb fort\u00eb. Madh\u00ebsia e dyshekut \u00ebsht\u00eb gjithashtu nj\u00eb problem m\u00eb vete.
\n6. Nj\u00ebri vuan nga pagjum\u00ebsia dhe i p\u00eblqen t\u00eb lexoj\u00eb derisa ta z\u00ebr\u00eb gjumi, por kjo mund t\u00eb shqet\u00ebsoj\u00eb partnerin tjet\u00ebr. Kjo vlen sidomos p\u00ebr \u00e7iftet e moshuara, sepse me kalimin e mosh\u00ebs, gjumi b\u00ebhet m\u00eb \u201ci ndjesh\u00ebm\u201d.
\nN\u00ebse nj\u00eb \u00e7ift nuk i zgjidh problemet e m\u00ebsip\u00ebrme, ka gjasa q\u00eb t\u00eb lindin pak\u00ebnaq\u00ebsit\u00eb, nervoziteti, zem\u00ebrimi dhe z\u00ebnkat. P\u00ebrkundrazi, kur gjendet nj\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb me t\u00eb cil\u00ebn q\u00eb t\u00eb dy partner\u00ebt do t\u00eb b\u00ebjn\u00eb gjum\u00eb t\u00eb mjaftuesh\u00ebm dhe cil\u00ebsor, jo vet\u00ebm q\u00eb do t\u00eb jen\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb qet\u00eb dhe produktiv\u00eb, por mund t\u00eb p\u00ebrmir\u00ebsohet edhe jeta e tyre seksuale. <\/p>\n
Gjeni t\u00eb \u201cmesmen e art\u00eb\u201d
\nNuk ka asnj\u00eb dyshim se gjumi i mir\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb i domosdosh\u00ebm p\u00ebr sh\u00ebndetin ton\u00eb fizik dhe p\u00ebr mir\u00ebqenien emocionale. Kur m\u00ebnyrat e tjera, si terapit\u00eb p\u00ebr g\u00ebrhitjen, tapat e vesh\u00ebve dhe maskat e gjumit nuk japin rezultat, shpesh zgjidhja \u00ebsht\u00eb t\u00eb flesh n\u00eb dhoma t\u00eb ndara. Shum\u00eb njer\u00ebz ndalojn\u00eb p\u00ebr nj\u00eb p\u00ebrqafim n\u00eb krevatin e partnerit para se t\u00eb shkojn\u00eb n\u00eb dhom\u00ebn e tyre t\u00eb flen\u00eb gjum\u00eb, ose e vizitojn\u00eb tjetrin n\u00eb m\u00ebngjes. \u00cbsht\u00eb e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme t\u00eb kujtoni se nevoja p\u00ebr af\u00ebrsi fizike \u00ebsht\u00eb po aq e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme p\u00ebr lumturin\u00eb e \u00e7iftit sa edhe nevoja p\u00ebr nj\u00eb gjum\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00eb n\u00eb dark\u00eb. P\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb arsye, para se t\u00eb shkoni n\u00eb krevatin tuaj, kaloni nga krevati i partnerit dhe… ku i dihet \u00e7\u2018ndodh.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Kur d\u00ebgjojm\u00eb se dy partner\u00ebt e nj\u00eb \u00e7ifti flen\u00eb n\u00eb dhoma ve\u00e7 e ve\u00e7, menj\u00ebher\u00eb mendojm\u00eb se lidhja ka probleme, se jeta e tyre seksuale \u201cka shteruar\u201d dhe se divorci po shfaqet n\u00eb horizont. Sa e v\u00ebrtet\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb kjo? Kur nj\u00ebri nga partner\u00ebt fle n\u00eb divan, ose n\u00eb dhom\u00ebn e miqve, mund t\u00eb thuhet se […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":12891,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[50,219],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-12890","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-intimitet","category-pyetje-pergjigje"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/12890","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=12890"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/12890\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/12891"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=12890"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=12890"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=12890"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}