{"id":12591,"date":"2016-03-31T12:30:56","date_gmt":"2016-03-31T10:30:56","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/?p=12591"},"modified":"2016-03-30T11:50:27","modified_gmt":"2016-03-30T09:50:27","slug":"si-ti-heq-fiksimet","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/2016\/03\/si-ti-heq-fiksimet\/","title":{"rendered":"Si t\u2019i heq fiksimet?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><strong>&#8211; Kam ca mendime q\u00eb m\u00eb vijn\u00eb n\u00eb kok\u00eb, si p\u00ebr shembull emra aktor\u00ebsh dhe pastaj m\u00eb ngelet mendja aty. Rri e vras mendjen se si e pati emrin X aktor, X film dhe nuk m\u00eb ik\u00ebn nga mendja derisa ta gjej. Nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb vet\u00ebm kjo q\u00eb m\u00eb shqet\u00ebson, pasi m\u00eb vijn\u00eb edhe shum\u00eb lloje mendimesh e fiksimesh t\u00eb tjera. Ju lutem, m\u00eb thoni si t\u2019i heq nga mendja k\u00ebto lloj fiksimesh? Respekte, nga Ardi.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong><em><u>Borana Marku, psikologe:<\/u><\/em><\/strong> &#8211; I dashur Ardi, e kuptoj shqet\u00ebsimin tuaj, por mos e b\u00ebni shqet\u00ebsimin m\u00eb t\u00eb madh se\u00e7 \u00ebsht\u00eb. Nuk duhet t\u00eb keni frik\u00eb nga mendimet tuaja, sepse ai q\u00eb do t\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb nj\u00eb veprim, e b\u00ebn pa e menduar dhe jo si pasoj\u00eb e mendimeve apo fiksimeve negative, ndaj mos u shqet\u00ebsoni. Nuk e dim\u00eb mosh\u00ebn tuaj, por mendoj se keni shum\u00eb koh\u00eb t\u00eb lir\u00eb meq\u00eb mendoni kaq shum\u00eb. Ju k\u00ebshilloj ta zini koh\u00ebn tuaj me pun\u00eb, me m\u00ebsime n\u00ebse jeni n\u00eb shkoll\u00eb, me nj\u00eb pasion, sport, kurs, apo palest\u00ebr, apo edhe thjesht nj\u00eb sh\u00ebtitje me miqt\u00eb tuaj.<\/p>\n<p>N\u00eb momentin q\u00eb ju fillojn\u00eb mendimet e sip\u00ebrp\u00ebrmendura, merrni dik\u00eb n\u00eb telefon dhe dilni p\u00ebr nj\u00eb kafe, ose shkoni vraponi, ose thjesht b\u00ebni muhabet. Fare mir\u00eb mund t\u00eb bisedoni me njer\u00ebzit e familjes suaj. R\u00ebnd\u00ebsi ka q\u00eb t\u00eb mos fiksoheni pas mendimeve q\u00eb ju vijn\u00eb. Mendoni se k\u00ebto gj\u00ebra jua harxhojn\u00eb koh\u00ebn kot dhe nuk keni asnj\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00eb prej tyre. Duhet t\u00eb relaksoheni, t\u00eb mendoni pozitivisht dhe t\u00eb p\u00ebrqendroheni n\u00eb praktik\u00eb, n\u00eb at\u00eb \u00e7far\u00eb ju b\u00ebn mir\u00eb dhe ju vlen p\u00ebr t\u00eb tashmen. Nd\u00ebrsa p\u00ebr gjetjen e emrave t\u00eb aktor\u00ebve apo filmave, nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb di\u00e7ka e jasht\u00ebzakonshme, u ndodh t\u00eb gjith\u00ebve q\u00eb fiksohen gjersa ta gjejn\u00eb, \u00ebsht\u00eb di\u00e7ka normale. Po themi p\u00ebr mendime t\u00eb tjera, p\u00ebr fiksime t\u00eb cilat ju nuk i p\u00ebrmendni, por q\u00eb vet\u00ebkuptohen. Pra, z\u00ebreni koh\u00ebn tuaj n\u00eb praktik\u00eb me gj\u00ebra q\u00eb ju arg\u00ebtojn\u00eb apo q\u00eb jua humbasin mendjen dhe ju largojn\u00eb nga fiksimet negative. N\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb, reduktoni edhe stresin dhe jeta do t\u2019ju duket m\u00eb e thjesht\u00eb dhe m\u00eb e bukur.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>&#8211; Kam ca mendime q\u00eb m\u00eb vijn\u00eb n\u00eb kok\u00eb, si p\u00ebr shembull emra aktor\u00ebsh dhe pastaj m\u00eb ngelet mendja aty. Rri e vras mendjen se si e pati emrin X aktor, X film dhe nuk m\u00eb ik\u00ebn nga mendja derisa ta gjej. Nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb vet\u00ebm kjo q\u00eb m\u00eb shqet\u00ebson, pasi m\u00eb vijn\u00eb edhe shum\u00eb lloje [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[86,219],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-12591","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-psikologu","category-pyetje-pergjigje"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/12591","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=12591"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/12591\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=12591"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=12591"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=12591"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}