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– P\u00ebrsh\u00ebndetje! Kam qen\u00eb i lidhur me nj\u00eb vajz\u00eb 6 vjet, por kam nj\u00eb vit q\u00eb nuk flas m\u00eb me t\u00eb, se e zura duke folur me nj\u00eb person n\u00eb telefon. Problemi \u00ebsht\u00eb se e dua akoma, pavar\u00ebsisht se m\u00eb ka b\u00ebr\u00eb keq. Mund t\u00eb m\u00eb jepni nj\u00eb mendim se pse e dua akoma? Nuk e kuptoj pse vazhdoj ta mendoj…<\/strong><\/p>\n Borana Marku, psikologe:<\/u><\/em><\/strong> – S\u00eb pari, m\u00eb vjen keq p\u00ebr gjendjen shpirt\u00ebrore n\u00eb t\u00eb cil\u00ebn ndodheni. S\u00eb dyti, dalim te problemi juaj, n\u00ebse mund t\u00eb quhet i till\u00eb, sepse un\u00eb mendoj se problemi i vet\u00ebm q\u00eb ju keni \u00ebsht\u00eb koha q\u00eb po humbisni nga jeta juaj, duke menduar p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb vajz\u00eb. Ju nuk na thoni n\u00ebse personi me t\u00eb cilin po fliste vajza n\u00eb telefon kishte di\u00e7ka me ish-t\u00eb dashur\u00ebn tuaj, apo ishte thjesht telefonat\u00eb nga nj\u00eb shok. A ishit i bindur se mes tyre kishte nj\u00eb lidhje? Mos ishte thjesht nj\u00eb flirt, apo nj\u00eb bised\u00eb e zakonshme n\u00eb telefon? A i keni k\u00ebrkuar ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb ish-t\u00eb dashur\u00ebs sqarime se \u00e7far\u00eb e shtyu n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb veprim? Mos vall\u00eb ka qen\u00eb vet\u00ebm nj\u00eb tentativ\u00eb e vajz\u00ebs sa p\u00ebr t\u2019ju b\u00ebr\u00eb juve xheloz?! K\u00ebto jan\u00eb disa pyetje, p\u00ebrgjigjet e t\u00eb cilave duhet t\u2019i gjeni vet\u00eb. E megjithat\u00eb, ju shpreheni se ju ka b\u00ebr\u00eb keq, q\u00eb t\u00eb l\u00eb t\u00eb n\u00ebnkuptosh se ju ka \u201ctradhtuar\u201d. Gjykoj se thjesht nj\u00eb telefonat\u00eb nuk mund t\u00eb quhet tradhti, por ngjarjen me imt\u00ebsi e dini vet\u00ebm ju dhe po e marr si t\u00eb mir\u00ebqen\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb q\u00eb ju n\u00ebnkuptoni.<\/p>\n Ju thoni se e doni akoma! Mos vall\u00eb nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb dashuri, por nj\u00eb fiksim i juaji, ose nj\u00eb ndjenj\u00eb urrejtjeje e p\u00ebrzier me egoiz\u00ebm sepse meshkujt e kan\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebshtir\u00eb ta pranojn\u00eb faktin se partnerja e tyre mund t\u2019i nxjerr\u00eb nga jeta e saj?! Ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb ndjenjat e egoizmit, urrejtja, apo m\u00ebrit\u00eb ngat\u00ebrrohen me ndjenjat e dashuris\u00eb. Jua b\u00ebra gjitha k\u00ebto pyetje q\u00eb t\u00eb reflektoni m\u00eb mir\u00eb me veten p\u00ebr t\u00eb kuptuar n\u00ebse e doni v\u00ebrtet apo kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb thjesht nj\u00eb ego e s\u00ebmur\u00eb dhe urrejtje ndaj saj. V\u00ebrtet urrejtja nga dashuria ndahen nga nj\u00eb fije shum\u00eb e holl\u00eb, por dallimi duhet b\u00ebr\u00eb nga vet\u00eb ju.<\/p>\n P\u00ebrderisa si\u00e7 shpreheni, ajo \u201cju ka b\u00ebr\u00eb keq\u201d dhe ju nuk doni t\u00eb ribashkoheni me t\u00eb, pse vazhdoni ta humbisni koh\u00ebn duke u ndjer\u00eb keq p\u00ebr t\u00eb?! E keni vet\u00eb n\u00eb dor\u00eb t\u00eb dilni nga kjo gjendje. Nuk duhet ta mendoni m\u00eb dhe kaq. Mendoni se po humbisni koh\u00ebn m\u00eb t\u00eb \u00e7muar duke menduar p\u00ebr t\u00eb, nd\u00ebrkoh\u00eb q\u00eb ajo nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb me ju. Jeta \u00ebsht\u00eb shum\u00eb e shkurt\u00ebr p\u00ebr t\u00eb humbur \u00e7do sekond\u00eb t\u00eb saj duke e mbajtur kok\u00ebn pas, nd\u00ebrkoh\u00eb q\u00eb mund t\u00eb njihni nj\u00eb vajz\u00eb tjet\u00ebr q\u00eb t\u2019ju fal\u00eb gjith\u00eb dashurin\u00eb dhe v\u00ebmendjen q\u00eb ju ka munguar gjat\u00eb k\u00ebtij viti. Mendoj se nj\u00eb vit \u00ebsht\u00eb i mjaftuesh\u00ebm p\u00ebr t\u00eb kaluar nj\u00eb ndarje dashurie. Vet\u00ebm n\u00ebse ju mbani ende kontakte me t\u00eb, at\u00ebher\u00eb do ta keni t\u00eb v\u00ebshtir\u00eb ta harroni dhe dhimbja do t\u2019ju v\u00ebr\u00eb p\u00ebrfund \u00e7do dit\u00eb e m\u00eb shum\u00eb. Ndajini gj\u00ebrat me veten tuaj! Vendosni nj\u00eb her\u00eb e mir\u00eb ose t\u00eb ecni p\u00ebrpara dhe t\u00eb nd\u00ebrtoni di\u00e7ka t\u00eb re e t\u00eb past\u00ebr, ose t\u00eb ktheheni mbrapsht dhe t\u00eb vuani gjithnj\u00eb p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb fem\u00ebr. \u00c7donj\u00ebri prej nesh dashuron disa her\u00eb n\u00eb jet\u00eb, besojeni k\u00ebt\u00eb gj\u00eb. M\u00ebnyr\u00eb tjet\u00ebr \u00ebsht\u00eb ta falni at\u00eb vajz\u00eb dhe p\u00ebrs\u00ebri t\u00eb ecni p\u00ebrpara jo me at\u00eb, por duke i hedhur syt\u00eb diku tjet\u00ebr. Un\u00eb vet\u00eb kur dua t\u00eb ndihem mir\u00eb pasi dikush m\u00eb ka l\u00ebnduar, e fal at\u00eb person. Vet\u00ebm k\u00ebshtu ndihem e \u00e7liruar dhe e lir\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb vazhduar jet\u00ebn aty ku e kam l\u00ebn\u00eb. Mendoni se mund t\u00eb kishit qen\u00eb ju ai q\u00eb mund ta kishte b\u00ebr\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb gabim. Askush nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb perfekt n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb jet\u00eb, t\u00eb gjith\u00eb b\u00ebjm\u00eb gabime, por n\u00ebse ju nuk e kap\u00ebrdinit dot gabimin e saj, p\u00ebrderisa jeni ndar\u00eb, pse t\u00eb mos vazhdoni p\u00ebrpara pa e menduar m\u00eb at\u00eb vajz\u00eb?!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" – P\u00ebrsh\u00ebndetje! Kam qen\u00eb i lidhur me nj\u00eb vajz\u00eb 6 vjet, por kam nj\u00eb vit q\u00eb nuk flas m\u00eb me t\u00eb, se e zura duke folur me nj\u00eb person n\u00eb telefon. Problemi \u00ebsht\u00eb se e dua akoma, pavar\u00ebsisht se m\u00eb ka b\u00ebr\u00eb keq. Mund t\u00eb m\u00eb jepni nj\u00eb mendim se pse e dua akoma? 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