{"id":12520,"date":"2016-03-24T13:30:04","date_gmt":"2016-03-24T12:30:04","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/?p=12520"},"modified":"2016-03-24T13:08:04","modified_gmt":"2016-03-24T12:08:04","slug":"24-sekrete-per-te-qene-te-lumtur-ne-cift","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/2016\/03\/24-sekrete-per-te-qene-te-lumtur-ne-cift\/","title":{"rendered":"24 sekrete p\u00ebr t\u00eb qen\u00eb t\u00eb lumtur n\u00eb \u00e7ift!"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong><em>\u00cbsht\u00eb e v\u00ebrtet\u00eb se q\u00eb t\u00eb ekzistoj\u00eb nj\u00eb lidhje, duhet t\u00eb ekzistoj\u00eb dashuria, besimi dhe respekti reciprok. Megjithat\u00eb, shkenca ka provuar se nuk mjafton vet\u00ebm dashuria dhe af\u00ebrsia, p\u00ebr ta b\u00ebr\u00eb nj\u00eb lidhje afatgjat\u00eb. Ja disa fakte q\u00eb, kur ndiqen, mund ta b\u00ebjn\u00eb lidhjen tuaj t\u00eb lul\u00ebzoj\u00eb&#8230;<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<ol>\n<li><strong> Mos u nxitoni!<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p>Nj\u00eb lidhje spontane mund t\u00eb duket romantike, por \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb mir\u00eb t\u00eb ndjek\u00ebsh rregullat dhe ta marr\u00ebsh shtruar. Nj\u00eb studim i b\u00ebr\u00eb nga universiteti i Xheorxhias, n\u00eb SHBA, tregoi se sa m\u00eb gjat\u00eb takoheshin \u00e7iftet para martes\u00ebs, aq m\u00eb shum\u00eb gjasa kishin p\u00ebr t\u00eb q\u00ebndruar s\u00eb bashku.<\/p>\n<ol start=\"2\">\n<li><strong> Evitoni dasmat e shtrenjta!<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p>Unazat q\u00eb bien n\u00eb sy dhe dasmat e shtrenjta nuk e garantojn\u00eb lumturin\u00eb dhe jet\u00ebgjat\u00ebsin\u00eb e martes\u00ebs. I nj\u00ebjti studim zbuloi se n\u00eb 30% t\u00eb rasteve, koh\u00ebzgjatja e martes\u00ebs ishte n\u00eb p\u00ebrpjestim t\u00eb zhdrejt\u00eb me parat\u00eb e shpenzuara n\u00eb das\u00ebm. Stresi i borxheve \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb fenomen i njohur pas dasme dhe zakonisht, ka pasoja negative n\u00eb lidhje.<\/p>\n<ol start=\"3\">\n<li><strong> Q\u00ebndroni pran\u00eb.<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p>\u00c7iftet q\u00eb flen\u00eb af\u00ebr nj\u00ebri-tjetrit jan\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb lumtur se ata q\u00eb nuk e b\u00ebjn\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb. N\u00eb nj\u00eb studim t\u00eb universitetit n\u00eb Hertfordshire doli se 94% e \u00e7ifteve q\u00eb e kalonin nat\u00ebn n\u00eb kontakt fizik me nj\u00ebri-tjetrin, ishin t\u00eb lumtur n\u00eb lidhje. Nd\u00ebr \u00e7iftet q\u00eb nuk p\u00ebrqafoheshin, vet\u00ebm 68% than\u00eb se ishin t\u00eb lumtur.<\/p>\n<ol start=\"4\">\n<li><strong> Fal\u00ebnderoni tjetrin.<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p>Sipas nj\u00eb studimi t\u00eb universitetit t\u00eb Kalifornis\u00eb, Berklei, kur t\u00eb dy partner\u00ebt vler\u00ebsonin p\u00ebrpjekjet e tjetrit, kishin tendenc\u00eb t\u00eb kishin nj\u00eb lidhje m\u00eb t\u00eb lumtur. Kjo sjell nj\u00eb atmosfer\u00eb t\u00eb ngroht\u00eb n\u00eb familje, sepse shton nivelet e oksitocin\u00ebs, nj\u00eb neurotransmetues q\u00eb nxit besimin dhe af\u00ebrsin\u00eb.<\/p>\n<ol start=\"5\">\n<li><strong> Ji i sinqert\u00eb.<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p>Sipas nj\u00eb studimi t\u00eb universitetit t\u00eb Ilinoisit, marr\u00ebdh\u00ebniet ku t\u00eb dy partner\u00ebt ishin t\u00eb sinqert\u00eb me nj\u00ebri-tjetrin n\u00eb lidhje me gjendjen e marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnies s\u00eb tyre, kishin m\u00eb shum\u00eb shanse t\u00eb zgjasnin.<\/p>\n<ol start=\"6\">\n<li><strong> Gjestet e vogla kan\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsi.<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p>Gjeste si nj\u00eb p\u00ebrqafim i ngroht\u00eb, nj\u00eb puthje, nj\u00eb filxhan \u00e7aji ose nj\u00eb dhurat\u00eb e papritur jan\u00eb po aq t\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme sa intimiteti fizik p\u00ebr nj\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie t\u00eb lumtur. Nj\u00eb studim i b\u00ebr\u00eb nga shkenc\u00ebtar\u00ebt e Universitetit t\u00eb Hapur n\u00eb Angli, tregoi se nj\u00eb gjest i vog\u00ebl af\u00ebrsie forconte lidhjen e \u00e7iftit dhe largonte stresin.<\/p>\n<ol start=\"7\">\n<li><strong> Martesa nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb \u00e7el\u00ebsi i vet\u00ebm i lumturis\u00eb.<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p>Tani \u00ebsht\u00eb rritur m\u00eb shum\u00eb se kurr\u00eb numri i \u00e7ifteve q\u00eb bashk\u00ebjetojn\u00eb. Nj\u00eb studim i b\u00ebr\u00eb nga K\u00ebshilli i Familjeve Bashk\u00ebkohore n\u00eb Angli doli n\u00eb p\u00ebrfundimin se \u00e7iftet q\u00eb bashk\u00ebjetonin kishin t\u00eb nj\u00ebjtat p\u00ebrpar\u00ebsi si t\u00eb martuarat. N\u00eb fakt, dasmat e shtrenjta kishin lidhje me nj\u00eb nivel m\u00eb t\u00eb lart\u00eb divorcesh.<\/p>\n<ol start=\"8\">\n<li><strong> Marr\u00ebdh\u00ebniet n\u00eb distanc\u00eb funksionojn\u00eb.<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p>Sipas nj\u00eb studimi t\u00eb universitetit t\u00eb Kornellit, \u00e7iftet q\u00eb kan\u00eb nj\u00eb lidhje n\u00eb distanc\u00eb kan\u00eb m\u00eb shum\u00eb gjas\u00eb t\u00eb ken\u00eb nj\u00eb lidhje m\u00eb t\u00eb thell\u00eb, sesa ata q\u00eb jan\u00eb af\u00ebr fizikisht. Me zhvillimin e teknologjis\u00eb s\u00eb re, p\u00ebrdorimin e mjeteve t\u00eb komunikimit si Skype dhe FaceTime, \u00e7iftet mund t\u00eb ndjehen m\u00eb af\u00ebr nj\u00ebri-tjetrit, edhe kur jan\u00eb qindra kilometra larg.<\/p>\n<ol start=\"9\">\n<li><strong> K\u00ebrko nj\u00eb shok\/shoqe jete, jo shpirtin binjak.<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p>Nj\u00eb studim i vitit 2014 tregoi se kur e mendon partnerin\/en si shpirtin binjak, ose si dik\u00eb t\u00eb cilin je i\/e destinuar ta takosh, mund t\u00eb p\u00ebsosh zhg\u00ebnjime n\u00eb t\u00eb ardhmen, kur personi n\u00eb fjal\u00eb t\u00eb mos p\u00ebrputhet me pritshm\u00ebrit\u00eb tuaja. M\u00eb mir\u00eb mendojeni at\u00eb si nj\u00eb partner n\u00eb rrug\u00ebtimin e jet\u00ebs, i cili nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb i shesht\u00eb, por me ulje-ngritje.<\/p>\n<ol start=\"10\">\n<li><strong> F\u00ebmij\u00ebt nuk duhen b\u00ebr\u00eb n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb kompulsive.<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p>Nj\u00eb studim i b\u00ebr\u00eb nga Universiteti i Hapur i Anglis\u00eb, tregoi se \u00e7iftet pa f\u00ebmij\u00eb ishin m\u00eb t\u00eb lumtur sesa ata me f\u00ebmij\u00eb. K\u00ebshtu, b\u00ebni f\u00ebmij\u00eb vet\u00ebm n\u00ebse mendoni se keni koh\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u2019i dedikuar rritjes e edukimit t\u00eb tyre dhe ndajini p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsit\u00eb me partnerin. Kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb zgjedhje, jo nj\u00eb vendim kompulsiv.<\/p>\n<ol start=\"11\">\n<li><strong> Tregohuni t\u00eb sjellsh\u00ebm.<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p>Nj\u00eb studim i Xhon dhe Xhuli Gotmanit, t\u00eb cil\u00ebt studiuan \u00e7ifte p\u00ebr 40 vjet rresht, tregoi se marr\u00ebdh\u00ebniet jet\u00ebgjata kishin nevoj\u00eb p\u00ebr dy tipare thelb\u00ebsore: Mir\u00ebsjelljen dhe bujarin\u00eb. Gjestet e vogla t\u00eb mir\u00ebsjelljes, t\u00eb b\u00ebra rregullisht, forconin besimin dhe af\u00ebrsin\u00eb n\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebniet e brishta.<\/p>\n<ol start=\"12\">\n<li><strong> Ndani eksperiencat me nj\u00ebri-tjetrin.<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p>Dilni p\u00ebr nj\u00eb sh\u00ebtitje, eksploroni vende t\u00eb reja s\u00eb bashku, ose shkoni n\u00eb nj\u00eb restorant t\u00eb ri. K\u00ebshtu, do t\u00eb kaloni koh\u00eb cil\u00ebsore me nj\u00ebri-tjetrin dhe do t\u00eb afroheni m\u00eb shum\u00eb.<\/p>\n<ol start=\"13\">\n<li><strong> Kultivoni shk\u00ebmbimet pozitive.<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p>B\u00ebjini komplimente, ose tregoni vler\u00ebsim ndaj veprimeve t\u00eb partnerit tuaj. Gjithashtu, kujtoni momentet zbavit\u00ebse nga e kaluara p\u00ebr t\u00eb kultivuar shk\u00ebmbimet pozitive, gj\u00eb q\u00eb do ta forcoj\u00eb lidhjen.<\/p>\n<ol start=\"14\">\n<li><strong> Qeshni s\u00eb bashku.<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p>Sipas nj\u00eb studimi t\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb nga Instituti Komb\u00ebtar i Sh\u00ebndetit Mendor n\u00eb Angli, \u00e7iftet q\u00eb qeshnin s\u00eb bashku kishin m\u00eb shum\u00eb gjasa t\u00eb ishin t\u00eb lumtur dhe t\u00eb k\u00ebnaqur me marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnien e tyre. Studimi thoshte se k\u00ebto t\u00eb qeshura t\u00eb p\u00ebrbashk\u00ebta ishin nj\u00eb tregues i t\u00eb ndierit mir\u00eb n\u00eb lidhje.<\/p>\n<ol start=\"15\">\n<li><strong> Flisni me nj\u00ebri-tjetrin.<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p>\u00cbsht\u00eb vrojtuar se \u00e7iftet q\u00eb kalojn\u00eb pes\u00eb ose m\u00eb shum\u00eb or\u00eb n\u00eb jav\u00eb duke q\u00ebndruar ose duke folur me nj\u00ebri-tjetrin, kan\u00eb nj\u00eb lidhje t\u00eb suksesshme.<\/p>\n<ol start=\"16\">\n<li><strong> Jini n\u00eb form\u00eb.<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p>Sipas nj\u00eb studimi 10 vje\u00e7ar n\u00eb Australi, gj\u00ebra si l\u00ebnia e vetes pas dore, gjithashtu, e d\u00ebmton lidhjen. Partner\u00ebt me mendje dhe fizik t\u00eb sh\u00ebndetsh\u00ebm kontribuojn\u00eb n\u00eb lumturin\u00eb e lidhjes.<\/p>\n<ol start=\"17\">\n<li><strong> Pak\u00ebsoni q\u00ebndrimin para ekraneve.<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p>Sipas nj\u00eb studimi t\u00eb universitetit t\u00eb Jutah, SHBA, n\u00ebse jeni vazhdimisht i lidhur me teknologjin\u00eb e re, mund t\u00eb krijoni nj\u00eb shk\u00ebputje n\u00eb lidhje. Studimi tregoi se p\u00ebrdorimi i mesazheve telefonike p\u00ebr t\u00eb komunikuar me tjetrin, gjithashtu e d\u00ebmtonte lidhjen.<\/p>\n<ol start=\"18\">\n<li><strong> Pini nj\u00eblloj me partnerin.<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p>Sipas nj\u00eb studimi t\u00eb universitetit t\u00eb Bufalos, Nju Jork, niveli i divorcit ishte afro 50% te \u00e7iftet kur vet\u00ebm nj\u00eb partner pinte shum\u00eb. Megjithat\u00eb, \u00e7iftet ishin m\u00eb t\u00eb lumtura kur t\u00eb dy partner\u00ebt pinin sasi t\u00eb nj\u00ebjt\u00eb alkooli, ose kur nuk pinin fare.<\/p>\n<ol start=\"19\">\n<li><strong> Rrethohuni nga \u00e7ifte t\u00eb lumtura.<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p>Sipas nj\u00eb studimi t\u00eb universitetit Braun, n\u00eb SHBA, divorci i nj\u00eb miku apo t\u00eb af\u00ebrmi shtonte gjasat e divorcit edhe n\u00eb martes\u00ebn tuaj. N\u00ebse shoq\u00ebroheni me \u00e7ifte t\u00eb lumtura, do t\u00eb ndihmoni edhe lidhjen tuaj.<\/p>\n<ol start=\"20\">\n<li><strong> Jini seksualisht aktiv\u00eb.<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p>Sipas nj\u00eb studimi t\u00eb vitit 2004, t\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb nga David G. Blen\u00e7flaouer dhe Endrju Osvald, \u00e7iftet q\u00eb ishin seksualisht aktive kishin m\u00eb shum\u00eb gjasa t\u00eb ishin t\u00eb lumtur, sesa ata te t\u00eb cil\u00ebt ishte vendosur rutina.<\/p>\n<ol start=\"21\">\n<li><strong> Mos kini t\u00eb nj\u00ebjtit miq.<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p>Sipas nj\u00eb studimi t\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb nga Facebook-u dhe nga universiteti Kornell, \u00e7iftet q\u00eb kishin shum\u00eb miq t\u00eb p\u00ebrbashk\u00ebt kishin m\u00eb shum\u00eb gjasa t\u00eb ndaheshin, sesa ata q\u00eb kishin secili rrethin e tyre miq\u00ebsor.<\/p>\n<ol start=\"22\">\n<li><strong> Flini mir\u00eb.<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p>Sipas nj\u00eb studimi t\u00eb Universitetit t\u00eb Arizon\u00ebs, cil\u00ebsia e gjumit ishte n\u00eb p\u00ebrpjestim t\u00eb drejt\u00eb me nj\u00eb lidhje t\u00eb lumtur. \u00c7iftet ku t\u00eb dy partner\u00ebt flinin mir\u00eb, ishin edhe m\u00eb t\u00eb lumtura.<\/p>\n<ol start=\"23\">\n<li><strong> Ndajini pun\u00ebt e sht\u00ebpis\u00eb me nj\u00ebri-tjetrin.<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p>Sipas nj\u00eb sondazhi t\u00eb vitit 2007 n\u00eb SHBA, familjet ku partner\u00ebt ndanin s\u00eb bashku pun\u00ebt e sht\u00ebpis\u00eb, ishin m\u00eb t\u00eb k\u00ebnaqura.<\/p>\n<ol start=\"24\">\n<li><strong> Kini zakone t\u00eb nj\u00ebjta n\u00eb shpenzimin e parave.<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p>Bazuar n\u00eb nj\u00eb studim t\u00eb universitetit t\u00eb Mi\u00e7iganit, t\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb me 1000 t\u00eb martuar dhe beqar\u00eb, \u00e7iftet q\u00eb kishin zakone t\u00eb ndryshme n\u00eb prishjen e paras\u00eb, kishin m\u00eb shum\u00eb tendenc\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u2019u z\u00ebn\u00eb n\u00eb jet\u00ebn e p\u00ebrditshme, nd\u00ebrsa \u00e7iftet q\u00eb kishin zakone t\u00eb nj\u00ebjta, ishin m\u00eb t\u00eb lumtur.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>&nbsp; &nbsp; \u00cbsht\u00eb e v\u00ebrtet\u00eb se q\u00eb t\u00eb ekzistoj\u00eb nj\u00eb lidhje, duhet t\u00eb ekzistoj\u00eb dashuria, besimi dhe respekti reciprok. Megjithat\u00eb, shkenca ka provuar se nuk mjafton vet\u00ebm dashuria dhe af\u00ebrsia, p\u00ebr ta b\u00ebr\u00eb nj\u00eb lidhje afatgjat\u00eb. Ja disa fakte q\u00eb, kur ndiqen, mund ta b\u00ebjn\u00eb lidhjen tuaj t\u00eb lul\u00ebzoj\u00eb&#8230; &nbsp; Mos u nxitoni! 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