{"id":12445,"date":"2016-03-17T13:30:40","date_gmt":"2016-03-17T12:30:40","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/?p=12445"},"modified":"2016-03-17T11:04:36","modified_gmt":"2016-03-17T10:04:36","slug":"nese-ndodh-keshtu-jeni-lidhur-me-njeriun-e-gabuar","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/2016\/03\/nese-ndodh-keshtu-jeni-lidhur-me-njeriun-e-gabuar\/","title":{"rendered":"N\u00ebse ndodh k\u00ebshtu… jeni lidhur me njeriun e gabuar!"},"content":{"rendered":"

Ju jeni nj\u00eb grua e bukur, keni shum\u00eb gj\u00ebra p\u00ebr t\u00eb ofruar dhe nj\u00eb jet\u00eb t\u00eb nd\u00ebrtuar me mundime shkall\u00eb pas shkalle. At\u00ebher\u00eb, kur vjen puna p\u00ebr t\u00eb zgjedhur njeriun e jet\u00ebs, pse pranoni dik\u00eb q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb n\u00ebn pritshm\u00ebrit\u00eb tuaja? Ka ardhur koha t\u00eb mos i n\u00ebnvler\u00ebsoni sukseset tuaja, t\u00eb mos heshtni p\u00ebr nevojat q\u00eb keni dhe t\u00eb mos u p\u00ebrshtateni t\u00eb tjer\u00ebve. N\u00ebse doni t\u00eb krijoni nj\u00eb lidhje, at\u00ebher\u00eb m\u00eb mir\u00eb t\u00eb zgjidhni dik\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb cilin ia vlen t\u00eb harxhoni koh\u00eb dhe energji, p\u00ebrndryshe nuk ia vlen fare. K\u00ebshtu pra, n\u00ebse po b\u00ebni ndonj\u00eb nga gabimet e m\u00ebposhtme, p\u00ebrgatituni p\u00ebr nj\u00eb ndarje t\u00eb paevitueshme.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

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  1. Ju rrini gjith\u00eb koh\u00ebn duke i ngritur moralin<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    Ne t\u00eb gjith\u00eb kemi periudhat kur nuk ndjeheni mir\u00eb dhe kemi nevoj\u00eb p\u00ebr mb\u00ebshtetje, por t\u00eb harxhosh gjith\u00eb energjit\u00eb e tua p\u00ebr t\u2019i ngritur moralin dikujt, me kalimin e koh\u00ebs b\u00ebhet e lodhshme. N\u00ebse ai nuk mund ta motivoj\u00eb veten pa ndihm\u00ebn tuaj, at\u00ebher\u00eb ai nuk b\u00ebn p\u00ebr lidhje. Si mund t\u00eb kesh nj\u00eb lidhje t\u00eb lumtur dhe t\u00eb sh\u00ebndetshme me nj\u00eb person q\u00eb nuk motivon veten?<\/p>\n

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    1. Ju i pranoni komentet e tij seksiste se \u00ebsht\u00eb i bukur<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

      Q\u00eb n\u00eb takimin e par\u00eb, ai ju thot\u00eb se keni \u201cgjoks t\u00eb bukur\u201d? M\u00eb fal, \u00e7far\u00eb?!<\/p>\n

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      1. Ndjeheni n\u00eb ankth me t\u00eb pran\u00eb<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

        Fluturat n\u00eb stomak jan\u00eb t\u00eb \u00ebmbla, por n\u00ebse ju mblidhet stomaku l\u00ebmsh, kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb histori tjet\u00ebr.<\/p>\n

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        1. Ai \u00ebsht\u00eb dembel n\u00eb takime<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

          Mbase dit\u00ebt kur burrat vinin n\u00eb takime me lule kan\u00eb kaluar m\u00eb vakt e me koh\u00eb, por gjendja \u00ebsht\u00eb e d\u00ebshp\u00ebruar n\u00ebse nj\u00eb djal\u00eb t\u00eb d\u00ebrgon nj\u00eb sms t\u00eb till\u00eb: \u201cDo t\u00eb takohemi shpejt e shpejt sonte?\u201d p\u00ebr takimin e par\u00eb! Supozohet q\u00eb kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb koha kur ai duhet t\u00eb tregoj\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00ebn nga vetja dhe, nj\u00eb mesazh i till\u00eb do t\u00eb thot\u00eb se kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb gjith\u00e7ka q\u00eb ai mund t\u2019ju ofroj\u00eb.<\/p>\n

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          1. Ai i ndryshon premtimet e tij<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

            Nj\u00eb dit\u00eb ai thot\u00eb se do t\u00eb angazhohet seriozisht dhe dit\u00ebn tjet\u00ebr, se do q\u00eb t\u2019i merrni gj\u00ebrat shtruar. Lidhjet serioze duhet t\u00eb b\u00ebjn\u00eb p\u00ebrpara me nj\u00eb rit\u00ebm normal dhe q\u00ebndrueshm\u00ebria n\u00eb premtime \u00ebsht\u00eb e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme, sidomos kur b\u00ebhet fjal\u00eb p\u00ebr ndjenjat.<\/p>\n

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            1. Ju i ulni sukseset tuaja, p\u00ebr t\u00eb mbrojtur egon e tij<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

              N\u00ebse nuk jeni t\u00eb dy n\u00eb nj\u00eb rang karriere, t\u00eb pakt\u00ebn ai duhet t\u00eb jet\u00eb krenar p\u00ebr faktin q\u00eb ju keni punuar shum\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb arritur q\u00ebllimet tuaja. N\u00ebse ai ndjehet i pasigurt p\u00ebr suksesin tuaj, mbase duhet t\u00eb frym\u00ebzohet q\u00eb t\u00eb punoj\u00eb m\u00eb shum\u00eb vet\u00eb. N\u00eb realitet, ai duhet t\u00eb ndihet krenar dhe jo ziliqar p\u00ebr sukseset tuaja.<\/p>\n

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              1. Ju po p\u00ebrpiqeni ta ndryshoni<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                \u201cKjo gj\u00eb mund t\u00eb ndryshohet\u201d, \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb fraz\u00eb e zakonshme t\u00eb cil\u00ebn mund ta keni d\u00ebgjuar n\u00eb shoq\u00ebri. Edhe n\u00ebse mund ta ndryshoni, pse duhet t\u00eb humbisni koh\u00eb dhe energji t\u00eb \u00e7muar p\u00ebr t\u00eb krijuar versionin e nj\u00eb burri m\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00eb? Po, ne t\u00eb gjith\u00eb mund t\u00eb ndikojm\u00eb dhe t\u00eb frym\u00ebzojm\u00eb nj\u00ebri-tjetrin, por ndryshimi i v\u00ebrtet\u00eb vjen nga dikush q\u00eb e ka kuptuar se mund t\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb m\u00eb mir\u00eb dhe do v\u00ebrtet t\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb m\u00eb mir\u00eb, jo nga ju q\u00eb e b\u00ebni n\u00eb vend t\u00eb tij. N\u00ebse djali \u00ebsht\u00eb i lumtur ashtu si \u00ebsht\u00eb dhe ju vazhdimisht doni t\u00eb ndryshoni, ai do t\u00eb ndiej\u00eb se ju nuk e doni ashtu si\u00e7 \u00ebsht\u00eb dhe kjo gj\u00eb do ta l\u00ebndoj\u00eb e ta shtyj\u00eb t\u00eb k\u00ebrkoj\u00eb nj\u00eb grua q\u00eb e b\u00ebn di\u00e7ka t\u00eb till\u00eb.<\/p>\n

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                1. Ju shtireni n\u00eb lidhje me lidhjen<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                  N\u00ebse ju k\u00ebrkoni nj\u00eb lidhje serioze, t\u00eb martoheni dhe t\u00eb b\u00ebni f\u00ebmij\u00eb, at\u00ebher\u00eb duhet t\u00eb jeni patjet\u00ebr t\u00eb ndersh\u00ebm p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb. N\u00ebse bini dakord q\u00eb t\u00eb keni nj\u00eb lidhje joserioze me dik\u00eb, nd\u00ebrkoh\u00eb q\u00eb ajo q\u00eb doni \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb lidhje serioze, jo vet\u00ebm q\u00eb nuk do t\u00eb shkoni asgj\u00ebkundi, por do t\u00eb ndjeheni edhe e zhg\u00ebnjyer.<\/p>\n

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                  1. Ju i bindeni presionit t\u00eb or\u00ebs biologjike<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                    \u00cbsht\u00eb e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb t\u00eb duash f\u00ebmij\u00eb, kur n\u00eb fakt je beqare dhe ndjen presionin e koh\u00ebs, por \u00ebsht\u00eb fakt se t\u00eb b\u00ebsh dhe t\u00eb rrit\u00ebsh f\u00ebmij\u00eb me dik\u00eb, p\u00ebr t\u00eb cilin nuk jeni e sigurt, nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb e drejt\u00eb p\u00ebr ask\u00ebnd nga ju, bile as p\u00ebr f\u00ebmij\u00ebt q\u00eb mund t\u00eb keni. N\u00ebse doni nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb, mund t\u00eb b\u00ebni nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb, por t\u00eb b\u00ebni nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb me nj\u00eb burr\u00eb vet\u00ebm sepse ai \u00ebsht\u00eb burr\u00eb, kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb ide e keqe.<\/p>\n

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                    1. Ju p\u00ebrdorni fjal\u00eb t\u00eb bukura p\u00ebr t\u00eb p\u00ebrshkruar nj\u00eb sjellje t\u00eb keqe<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                      Ju mund t\u00eb keni nj\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie thjesht rast\u00ebsore, por q\u00eb ju e quani \u201clidhje\u201d. N\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb rast, do t\u00eb dilni ju e humbur dhe e l\u00ebnduar…<\/p>\n

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                      1. Fjal\u00ebt e tij nuk shoq\u00ebrohen me vepra <\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                        Shum\u00eb njer\u00ebz thon\u00eb fjal\u00eb t\u00eb bukura (duke p\u00ebrfshir\u00eb edhe fraz\u00ebn \u201ct\u00eb dua\u201d). \u00cbsht\u00eb bukur t\u00eb d\u00ebgjosh fjal\u00eb t\u00eb bukura, por n\u00ebse ju ndjeni nj\u00eb mosp\u00ebrputhje mes asaj q\u00eb ai thot\u00eb dhe asaj q\u00eb b\u00ebn, at\u00ebher\u00eb duhet t\u00eb mbyllni vesh\u00ebt dhe t\u00eb hapni syt\u00eb. Sa e bindur do t\u00eb ishit nga fjal\u00ebt e tij n\u00ebse do t\u2019i kushtonit v\u00ebmendje koh\u00ebs, kujdesit, respektit dhe dashuris\u00eb q\u00eb ai tregon p\u00ebr ju?<\/p>\n

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                        1. Ju duroni sjellje q\u00eb nuk ju b\u00ebjn\u00eb t\u00eb ndiheni mir\u00eb<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                          Ju dhe vet\u00ebm ju jeni p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebse p\u00ebr t\u00eb p\u00ebrcaktuar qart\u00eb kufijt\u00eb e durimit dhe p\u00ebr t\u2019u larguar prej kujtdo q\u00eb nuk i respekton ato.<\/p>\n

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                          1. Ju prisni pa fund<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                            Kur nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb momenti i duhur, nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb dhe duhet pritur, por n\u00ebse ju rrini e prisni pa fund, nd\u00ebrkoh\u00eb q\u00eb ai peshon pro-t\u00eb dhe kundra-t e q\u00ebndrimit me ju, ose edhe m\u00eb keq, nuk ju merr fare n\u00eb konsiderat\u00eb, n\u00eb fund do t\u00eb ngeleni e l\u00ebnduar.<\/p>\n

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                            1. Ju mendoni se do t\u00eb p\u00ebrmir\u00ebsohet… her\u00ebn e dyt\u00eb<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                              Njer\u00ebzit mund t\u00eb ndryshojn\u00eb, por n\u00ebse ai \u00ebsht\u00eb treguar egoist, i papjekur, ose mashtrues her\u00ebn e par\u00eb, ju po rrezikoni shum\u00eb n\u00ebse i jepni nj\u00eb shans t\u00eb dyt\u00eb. Vet\u00ebm mbajini syt\u00eb hapur dhe jini e p\u00ebrgatitur t\u00eb merrni p\u00ebrsip\u00ebr p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsin\u00eb, n\u00ebse gj\u00ebrat nuk funksionojn\u00eb k\u00ebsaj here.<\/p>\n

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                              1. Ai \u00ebsht\u00eb i mir\u00eb \u201cteorikisht\u201d<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                                Keni nd\u00ebrmend ta kaloni gjith\u00eb jet\u00ebn tuaj me dik\u00eb q\u00eb \u201c\u00ebsht\u00eb i mir\u00eb teorikisht\u201d?<\/p>\n

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                                1. Ju e bindni veten se budallall\u00ebqet e tij kan\u00eb kuptim<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                                  Ai nuk i ka kthyer p\u00ebrgjigje sms-s\u00eb suaj dhe nuk ka ardhur p\u00ebrs\u00ebri n\u00eb takim sepse e zuri gjumi n\u00eb divan? Mos vuan gj\u00eb nga narkolepsia? N\u00ebse di\u00e7ka nuk ka kuptim, nuk ka dhe pik\u00eb!<\/p>\n

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                                  1. Ai mundohet t\u2019ju mbaj\u00eb sekret<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                                    Nj\u00eb burr\u00eb q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb serioz, t\u00eb b\u00ebn pjes\u00eb t\u00eb jet\u00ebs s\u00eb tij. Ju takoni miqt\u00eb e tij, ai tuaj\u00ebt; nuk ju ka b\u00ebr\u00eb bllok n\u00eb Facebook dhe nuk e ka problem q\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt e din\u00eb ekzistenc\u00ebn tuaj.<\/p>\n

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                                    1. Ju prisni prej tij t\u00eb plot\u00ebsoj\u00eb list\u00ebn tuaj t\u00eb burrit ideal<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                                      Askush nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb i p\u00ebrkryer, as ai, as ju. \u00cbsht\u00eb bukur t\u00eb mendosh p\u00ebr Enrike Iglesiasin seksi dhe t\u00eb nxeht\u00eb, por n\u00eb realitet, ne duhet t\u00eb lidhemi me qenie njer\u00ebzore t\u00eb pap\u00ebrkryera, q\u00eb p\u00ebrpiqen t\u00eb japin m\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00ebn nga vetja.<\/p>\n

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                                      1. Ai nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb i gatsh\u00ebm t\u00eb bjer\u00eb n\u00eb kompromis<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                                        Marr\u00ebdh\u00ebniet jan\u00eb nj\u00eb rrug\u00eb me dy kalime ku t\u00eb dy partner\u00ebt duhet t\u00eb marrin dhe t\u00eb japin. I vetmi njeri q\u00eb ngjan ekzakt\u00ebsisht me ju jeni ju dhe n\u00ebse nj\u00ebri nga ju t\u00eb dy mendon se t\u00eb biesh n\u00eb kompromis nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb e pranueshme n\u00eb lidhje, kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb shenj\u00eb q\u00eb tregon se dikush nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb i pjekur sa duhet p\u00ebr t\u00eb krijuar nj\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie serioze.<\/p>\n

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                                        1. Ju nuk jeni vetvetja n\u00eb pranin\u00eb e tij<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                                          N\u00ebse juve ju duhet ta fshihni fytyr\u00ebn tuaj t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb n\u00eb shk\u00ebmbim t\u00eb dashuris\u00eb s\u00eb tij, at\u00ebher\u00eb ai nuk b\u00ebn p\u00ebr ju.<\/p>\n

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                                          1. Ai ka frik\u00eb nga dashuria<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                                            Ju i tregoni an\u00ebn m\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00eb dhe t\u00eb af\u00ebrt t\u00eb vetes dhe ai frik\u00ebsohet. Sa m\u00eb shum\u00eb t\u2019i shfaqni ju dashurin\u00eb, aq m\u00eb shum\u00eb trembet ai. T\u00ebrhiquni dhe ai do t\u00eb afrohet! Kjo loj\u00eb t\u00ebrhiq e mos k\u00ebput \u00ebsht\u00eb l\u00ebnduese p\u00ebr t\u00eb dy dhe sa m\u00eb shum\u00eb t\u00eb jepni ju, aq m\u00eb pak do t\u00eb vler\u00ebsohet. Ne duhet t\u00eb duam veten ton\u00eb n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb pranojm\u00eb dashurin\u00eb e dikujt tjet\u00ebr dhe k\u00ebt\u00eb gj\u00eb duhet ta b\u00ebjn\u00eb edhe partner\u00ebt tan\u00eb.<\/p>\n

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                                            1. Ai \u00ebsht\u00eb egoist<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                                              Ne t\u00eb gjith\u00eb mund t\u00eb jemi p\u00ebrqendruar te vetja, por n\u00ebse ai mendon vet\u00ebm p\u00ebr veten, nevojat, d\u00ebshirat, frik\u00ebrat dhe pik\u00ebpamjet e veta, nuk ka m\u00eb vend p\u00ebr ju n\u00eb lidhje.<\/p>\n

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                                              1. Ai nuk e di \u00e7\u2018k\u00ebrkon nga jeta<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                                                Si mund t\u00eb nd\u00ebrtoni nj\u00eb jet\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00ebrbashk\u00ebt dhe t\u00eb keni vlera dhe q\u00ebllime t\u00eb nj\u00ebjta n\u00eb jet\u00eb n\u00ebse ai nuk e di \u00e7far\u00eb do dhe cili \u00ebsht\u00eb drejtimi q\u00eb do t\u00eb marr\u00eb?<\/p>\n

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                                                Ju jeni nj\u00eb grua e bukur, keni shum\u00eb gj\u00ebra p\u00ebr t\u00eb ofruar dhe nj\u00eb jet\u00eb t\u00eb nd\u00ebrtuar me mundime shkall\u00eb pas shkalle. At\u00ebher\u00eb, kur vjen puna p\u00ebr t\u00eb zgjedhur njeriun e jet\u00ebs, pse pranoni dik\u00eb q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb n\u00ebn pritshm\u00ebrit\u00eb tuaja? Ka ardhur koha t\u00eb mos i n\u00ebnvler\u00ebsoni sukseset tuaja, t\u00eb mos heshtni p\u00ebr nevojat q\u00eb […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":12446,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[50],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-12445","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-intimitet"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/12445","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=12445"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/12445\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/12446"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=12445"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=12445"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=12445"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}