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Je grua? Ke partner mashkull? A \u00ebsht\u00eb ky partneri yt nj\u00eb qenie e nd\u00ebrlikuar, q\u00eb p\u00ebrfaq\u00ebson t\u00eb gjitha stereotipet q\u00eb thuhen p\u00ebr burrat? Dhe s\u00eb fundmi, a do ti, si grua, t\u00eb sakrifikosh karrier\u00ebn dhe jet\u00ebn t\u00ebnde dhe t\u2019ia kushtosh atij? N\u00ebse u je p\u00ebrgjegjur \u201cpo\u201d t\u00eb gjitha k\u00ebtyre pyetjeve, at\u00ebher\u00eb ia vlen t\u00eb lexosh shkrimin ton\u00eb, q\u00eb t\u00eb tregon si ta b\u00ebsh partnerin t\u00ebnde p\u00ebr vete (edhe m\u00eb shum\u00eb se tani). P\u00ebr fat t\u00eb keq, k\u00ebshillat q\u00eb do t\u00eb japim m\u00eb posht\u00eb jan\u00eb cil\u00ebsuar si seksiste, t\u00eb mod\u00ebs s\u00eb vjet\u00ebr, shum\u00eb naive dhe thjesht qesharake, por a e dini se \u00e7far\u00eb nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb qesharake? Shkenca! Kjo pra \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb guid\u00eb shkencore p\u00ebr ta b\u00ebr\u00eb partnerin t\u00eb bjer\u00eb n\u00eb dashuri me ty, ose, t\u00eb pakt\u00ebn, t\u00eb paaft\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb t\u00eb l\u00ebn\u00eb, q\u00eb n\u00eb fund t\u00eb fundit, \u00ebsht\u00eb e nj\u00ebjta gj\u00eb…<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n <\/p>\n A t\u00eb tregon af\u00ebrsi partneri? T\u00eb thot\u00eb se t\u00eb do, ose se je e bukur, ose se i p\u00eblqen t\u00eb rrij\u00eb me ty, ose ndonj\u00eb gj\u00eb tjet\u00ebr q\u00eb ngjan p\u00ebr s\u00eb largu me nj\u00eb kompliment? N\u00ebse po, at\u00ebhere shp\u00ebrbleje sapo ta thot\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb gj\u00eb. Zbulo se \u00e7far\u00eb i p\u00eblqen dhe jepja sa her\u00eb tregohet i mir\u00eb me ty. Nj\u00eb birr\u00eb t\u00eb ftoht\u00eb, nj\u00eb biskot\u00eb, nj\u00eb sandui\u00e7, nj\u00eb loj\u00eb t\u00eb re PS4, \u00e7far\u00ebdolloj gj\u00ebje q\u00eb ta lejon buxheti dhe koha. K\u00ebshtu, do ta nxis\u00ebsh q\u00eb ta p\u00ebrs\u00ebris\u00eb sjelljen e mir\u00eb. N\u00ebp\u00ebrmjet k\u00ebtij procesi t\u00eb shp\u00ebrblimit n\u00eb p\u00ebrgjigje t\u00eb sjelljes s\u00eb tij, ai do t\u00eb m\u00ebsoj\u00eb shpejt t\u00eb jet\u00eb i dedikuar ndaj teje. \u00cbsht\u00eb e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme q\u00eb jo vet\u00ebm t\u00eb shp\u00ebrblehen sjelljet e mira, por edhe t\u00eb d\u00ebnohen ato t\u00eb k\u00ebqija. P\u00ebr shembull, n\u00ebse ai do t\u00eb rrij\u00eb me shok\u00ebt dhe jo me ty, ose do t\u00eb flej\u00eb her\u00ebt n\u00eb vend q\u00eb t\u00eb rrij\u00eb gjith\u00eb nat\u00ebn duke folur me ty, sigurohu q\u00eb ta d\u00ebnosh: Merr n\u00eb telefon policin\u00eb dhe thuaji se ka v\u00ebn\u00eb nj\u00eb bomb\u00eb, ose l\u00ebshoji nj\u00eb leopard t\u00eb eg\u00ebr n\u00eb dhom\u00ebn e gjumit, q\u00eb her\u00eb tjet\u00ebr as t\u00eb mos i shkoj\u00eb mendja t\u00eb flej\u00eb her\u00ebt…<\/p>\n Ke d\u00ebgjuar se t\u00eb kund\u00ebrtat t\u00ebrhiqen? Harroje k\u00ebt\u00eb! Shum\u00eb studime kan\u00eb treguar se njer\u00ebzit kan\u00eb tendenc\u00eb t\u00eb joshen nga ata q\u00eb u ngjajn\u00eb. K\u00ebshtu, partneri yt do t\u00eb joshet m\u00eb tep\u00ebr nga ti n\u00ebse i kujton vetveten, qoft\u00eb p\u00ebr arsye shoq\u00ebrore, kulturore, t\u00eb edukat\u00ebs, apo arsye t\u00eb thella psikologjike. Prit flok\u00ebt, vish rroba t\u00eb nj\u00ebjta, n\u00ebse ke mund\u00ebsi, b\u00ebj edhe operacione plastike. Shum\u00eb shpejt ai do t\u00eb bindet se \u00ebsht\u00eb lidhur me kopjen ekzakte t\u00eb vetvetes. Kjo do ta shtyj\u00eb t\u00eb mendoj\u00eb n\u00ebse \u00ebsht\u00eb n\u00eb rregull, apo jo, duke e b\u00ebr\u00eb t\u00eb brisht\u00eb dhe t\u00eb varur. Ai do t\u00eb jet\u00eb yti p\u00ebrjet\u00eb!<\/p>\n Nj\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb e sigurt p\u00ebr ta penguar partnerin t\u00eb t\u00eb l\u00ebr\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb ta bind\u00ebsh se njeriu nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb konceptuar t\u00eb marr\u00eb vet\u00eb nj\u00eb vendim! K\u00ebt\u00eb nuk e themi vet\u00ebm ne, por edhe shkenca. Ajo thot\u00eb se ne nuk jemi t\u00eb p\u00ebrgjegjsh\u00ebm p\u00ebr veprimet tona dhe e kuptojm\u00eb se \u00e7\u2019kemi b\u00ebr\u00eb, vet\u00ebm pasi shohim pasojat. Sigurisht, ka argumente kund\u00ebr k\u00ebsaj ideje, por ato nuk jan\u00eb t\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme. N\u00ebse mund t\u00eb bind\u00ebsh burrin se vullneti i lir\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb legjend\u00eb, at\u00ebher\u00eb mund ta bind\u00ebsh edhe ta braktis\u00eb iden\u00eb e pavar\u00ebsis\u00eb dhe t\u00eb evitoj\u00eb \u00e7do mendim p\u00ebr t\u00eb t\u00eb l\u00ebn\u00eb dhe p\u00ebr t\u00eb filluar marr\u00ebdh\u00ebniet me dik\u00eb tjet\u00ebr. Ose ai do t\u00eb ndjehet aq depresiv, pasi t\u00eb mendoj\u00eb se jeta nuk ka kuptim dhe do t\u00eb rrij\u00eb me ty p\u00ebr shkak t\u00eb munges\u00ebs s\u00eb motivimit p\u00ebr t\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb ndonj\u00eb gj\u00eb tjet\u00ebr.<\/p>\n Nuk mjafton vet\u00ebm q\u00eb ai t\u00eb jet\u00eb i dedikuar ndaj teje, por duhet t\u00eb sigurohesh q\u00eb asnj\u00eb grua tjet\u00ebr nuk ka shans t\u2019i afrohet atij. Nd\u00ebrkoh\u00eb q\u00eb teknikat e tua manipuluese e kan\u00eb thyer psikologjikisht n\u00eb at\u00eb pik\u00eb sa asnj\u00eb grua tjet\u00ebr t\u00eb mos e shoh\u00eb m\u00eb si nj\u00eb partner t\u00eb d\u00ebshiruesh\u00ebm, duhet marr\u00eb n\u00eb konsiderat\u00eb edhe nj\u00eb komponent biologjik, djersa. Shum\u00eb studime t\u00eb fundit kan\u00eb treguar se grat\u00eb joshen dhe eksitohen nga era e djers\u00ebs q\u00eb l\u00ebshon nj\u00eb burr\u00eb. Sigurisht, ti duhet ta pengosh k\u00ebt\u00eb gj\u00eb, duke e ndaluar t\u00eb djersitet. Ka shum\u00eb m\u00ebnyra p\u00ebr ta penguar nj\u00eb burr\u00eb t\u00eb djersit\u00eb: Mbaje t\u00eb pahidratuar, apliko antitranspirant\u00eb kur ai nuk e ka mendjen, jepi ila\u00e7e q\u00eb veprojn\u00eb kund\u00ebr nervave q\u00eb shkaktojn\u00eb djersitjen, ose nd\u00ebrhyrje kirurgjikale p\u00ebr prerjen e k\u00ebtyre nervave. Ai duhet t\u00eb jet\u00eb n\u00eb gjum\u00eb t\u00eb thell\u00eb p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb nd\u00ebrhyrjen e fundit, por ia vlen ta b\u00ebni!<\/p>\n Po sikur t\u00eb l\u00ebsh m\u00ebnjan\u00eb justifikimet e tjera dhe thjesht t\u00eb kufizosh l\u00ebvizjet e tij? Meq\u00eb ti je gati t\u00eb shkosh deri n\u00eb ekstrem p\u00ebr t\u00eb manipuluar partnerin, apo p\u00ebr ta penguar q\u00eb t\u00eb t\u00eb l\u00ebr\u00eb, pse t\u00eb mos e marr\u00ebsh direkt peng? Duke e detyruar t\u00eb t\u00eb shoh\u00eb dhe t\u00eb t\u00eb ket\u00eb pran\u00eb n\u00eb \u00e7do or\u00eb t\u00eb dit\u00ebs dhe t\u00eb nat\u00ebs, mbase forcohen lidhjet mes ju t\u00eb dyve, n\u00ebp\u00ebrmjet mekanizmit t\u00eb rrezikut t\u00eb vdekjes dhe dominimit. Nip\u00ebrve tuaj do t\u2019u p\u00eblqente shum\u00eb kjo p\u00ebrrall\u00eb romantike!<\/p>\n A ia vlen t\u00eb b\u00ebsh kaq shum\u00eb p\u00ebrpjekje p\u00ebr lidhjen t\u00ebnde, apo p\u00ebr \u00e7far\u00ebdolloj lidhjeje? At\u00ebher\u00eb qet\u00ebsohu dhe pi di\u00e7ka; k\u00ebshtu do t\u00eb largosh stresin. N\u00ebse e mendon mir\u00eb, nuk ia vlen barra qiran\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebsh kaq shum\u00eb manipulime qesharake p\u00ebr ta b\u00ebr\u00eb dik\u00eb t\u00eb bjer\u00eb n\u00eb dashuri me ty, gj\u00eb q\u00eb ai gjithsesi, nuk do ta b\u00ebj\u00eb. At\u00ebher\u00eb, kurseji vetes koh\u00eb e dinjitet dhe vazhdo jet\u00ebn t\u00ebnde, sepse nj\u00eb dit\u00eb do t\u00eb gjesh dik\u00eb q\u00eb do t\u00eb t\u00eb dashuroj\u00eb ashtu si je, me t\u00eb mirat dhe t\u00eb k\u00ebqijat e tua, pa patur nevoj\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebsh manovra dhe manipulime.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Je grua? Ke partner mashkull? A \u00ebsht\u00eb ky partneri yt nj\u00eb qenie e nd\u00ebrlikuar, q\u00eb p\u00ebrfaq\u00ebson t\u00eb gjitha stereotipet q\u00eb thuhen p\u00ebr burrat? Dhe s\u00eb fundmi, a do ti, si grua, t\u00eb sakrifikosh karrier\u00ebn dhe jet\u00ebn t\u00ebnde dhe t\u2019ia kushtosh atij? N\u00ebse u je p\u00ebrgjegjur \u201cpo\u201d t\u00eb gjitha k\u00ebtyre pyetjeve, at\u00ebher\u00eb ia vlen t\u00eb […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":12255,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[50],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-12254","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-intimitet"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/12254","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=12254"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/12254\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/12255"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=12254"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=12254"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=12254"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}\n
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