{"id":12053,"date":"2016-02-12T15:30:12","date_gmt":"2016-02-12T14:30:12","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/?p=12053"},"modified":"2016-02-12T10:45:41","modified_gmt":"2016-02-12T09:45:41","slug":"15-shenja-paralajmeruese-te-divorcit","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/2016\/02\/15-shenja-paralajmeruese-te-divorcit\/","title":{"rendered":"15 shenja paralajm\u00ebruese t\u00eb divorcit"},"content":{"rendered":"

Mbase vendimi m\u00eb i v\u00ebshtir\u00eb q\u00eb mund t\u00eb marr\u00eb nj\u00eb \u00e7ift i martuar \u00ebsht\u00eb t\u00eb ndahet. \u00cbsht\u00eb e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb t\u00eb kuptosh se si nj\u00eb martes\u00eb n\u00eb dukje normale t\u00eb p\u00ebrfundoj\u00eb me divorc, por n\u00eb fakt ky \u00ebsht\u00eb hapi i fundit i nj\u00eb serie evenimentesh dhe ndryshimesh t\u00eb vogla, q\u00eb kalojn\u00eb pa u v\u00ebn\u00eb re. Problemet e nj\u00eb martese duken shum\u00eb koh\u00eb para se \u00e7\u00ebshtja t\u00eb p\u00ebrfundoj\u00eb n\u00eb gjyq. Q\u00ebllimi \u00ebsht\u00eb t\u2019i njoh\u00ebsh dhe t\u2019i kuptosh k\u00ebto probleme q\u00eb n\u00eb lindje, para se t\u00eb jet\u00eb shum\u00eb von\u00eb. Ne po ju ndihmojm\u00eb duke ju dh\u00ebn\u00eb disa nga shenjat q\u00eb tregojn\u00eb se po shkoni drejt divorcit…<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

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  1. Var\u00ebsit\u00eb<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    Nj\u00eb nga shenjat m\u00eb t\u00eb zakonshme t\u00eb problemeve n\u00eb \u00e7ift \u00ebsht\u00eb kur nj\u00ebri nga bashk\u00ebshort\u00ebt vuan nga var\u00ebsia ndaj di\u00e7kaje. Ky mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb alkooli, bixhozi, bile edhe interneti. Kur k\u00ebto var\u00ebsi z\u00ebn\u00eb nj\u00eb vend m\u00eb t\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsish\u00ebm sesa tjetri, at\u00ebher\u00eb ka ardhur momenti t\u00eb flisni me partnerin. Fakti q\u00eb flisni dhe komunikoni me nj\u00ebri-tjetrin, patjet\u00ebr q\u00eb do t\u2019ju ndihmoj\u00eb, por n\u00ebse nuk merreni me k\u00ebt\u00eb \u00e7\u00ebshtje tani, do ta keni t\u00eb v\u00ebshtir\u00eb ta riparoni me kalimin e koh\u00ebs.<\/p>\n

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    1. Depresioni<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

      T\u00eb gjith\u00eb kemi kaluar nga ky stad. \u00cbsht\u00eb normale t\u00eb ket\u00eb n\u00eb \u00e7do lidhje dit\u00eb t\u00eb trishtuara, por n\u00ebse depresioni b\u00ebhet kronik, ai mund t\u00eb ket\u00eb pasoja serioze. Gjithashtu, duhet th\u00ebn\u00eb se depresioni nuk duhet t\u00eb \u00e7oj\u00eb patjet\u00ebr n\u00eb divorc. Duke e mb\u00ebshtetur partnerin\/en q\u00eb vuan nga depresioni dhe duke e shtyr\u00eb t\u00eb k\u00ebrkoj\u00eb ndihm\u00eb mjek\u00ebsore, b\u00ebn hapin e par\u00eb q\u00eb ai\/ajo ta marr\u00eb veten dhe mbase kjo do t\u00eb p\u00ebrb\u00ebj\u00eb edhe shp\u00ebtimin p\u00ebr martes\u00ebn tuaj.<\/p>\n

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      1. Mungesa e komunikimit<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

        Dy pjes\u00ebtar\u00ebt e nj\u00eb \u00e7ifti nuk duhet t\u00eb jen\u00eb dakord p\u00ebr gjith\u00e7ka, por n\u00ebse nj\u00eb mosp\u00ebrputhje idesh \u00e7on n\u00eb z\u00ebnka t\u00eb shpeshta, at\u00ebher\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb e qart\u00eb se di\u00e7ka nuk shkon. Shpesh \u00e7iftet evitojn\u00eb diskutimin e problemeve t\u00eb tyre, duke patur frik\u00eb se k\u00ebto biseda do ta p\u00ebrkeq\u00ebsonin situat\u00ebn. Kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb shenj\u00eb se nuk po b\u00ebni m\u00eb p\u00ebrpjekje p\u00ebr lidhjen tuaj. Megjithat\u00eb, edhe t\u00eb q\u00ebndroni t\u00eb heshtur nuk do t\u2019ju ndihmoj\u00eb. Gjeni koh\u00ebn e duhur kur mund t\u00eb flisni me nj\u00ebri-tjetrin dhe zbuloni rr\u00ebnj\u00ebt e problemit.<\/p>\n

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        1. Var\u00ebsia nga puna<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

          T\u00eb punosh p\u00ebrtej orarit t\u00eb pun\u00ebs mund t\u2019ju sjell\u00eb rritje n\u00eb karrier\u00eb, por nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb ide e mir\u00eb ta b\u00ebsh n\u00ebse kjo t\u00eb kushton martes\u00ebn. Kjo mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb nj\u00eb shenj\u00eb q\u00eb i tregon partnerit\/es se preferoni t\u00eb kaloni m\u00eb shum\u00eb koh\u00eb para kompjuterit sesa me t\u00eb. Cilado qoft\u00eb arsyeja, n\u00ebse ndjeheni t\u00eb braktisur n\u00eb lidhje, diskutojeni sa m\u00eb shpejt me partnerin\/en.<\/p>\n

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          1. Ju duket tjetri gjith\u00eb defekte<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

            Jeni betuar ta pranoni partnerin me t\u00eb mirat dhe t\u00eb k\u00ebqijat q\u00eb ka, por me kalimin e viteve, \u00ebsht\u00eb normale t\u2019ju p\u00eblqej\u00eb dikush tjet\u00ebr dhe t\u00eb d\u00ebshironi q\u00eb partneri t\u00eb ket\u00eb t\u00eb nj\u00ebjtat cil\u00ebsi. Por, n\u00ebse e krahasoni shpesh partnerin me tjetrin, at\u00ebher\u00eb problemi me siguri \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb i thell\u00eb sesa mendoni ju.<\/p>\n

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            1. D\u00ebshir\u00eb p\u00ebr p\u00ebrkryerje<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

              N\u00ebse prisni ose d\u00ebshironi q\u00eb partneri t\u00eb jet\u00eb i p\u00ebrkryer n\u00eb \u00e7do rast dhe rrethan\u00eb, kjo mund t\u00eb rezultoj\u00eb e lodhshme me kalimin e koh\u00ebs. N\u00ebse e kritikoni partnerin gjith\u00eb koh\u00ebn se nuk ka veshur k\u00ebmish\u00ebn apo kravat\u00ebn e duhur, ose gruan se \u00ebsht\u00eb lyer shum\u00eb ose pak, kjo mund t\u00eb tregoj\u00eb se nuk jeni t\u00eb lumtur n\u00eb lidhjen tuaj dhe jo me pamjen e jashtme t\u00eb partnerit\/es.<\/p>\n

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              1. Interesim i ringjallur p\u00ebr ish-in<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                N\u00ebse partneri juaj rikontakton ndonj\u00eb ish, kjo mund t\u00eb n\u00ebnkuptoj\u00eb se ai ndjehet i braktisur n\u00eb lidhje dhe ka nevoj\u00eb p\u00ebr mb\u00ebshtetjen e v\u00ebmendjen e dikujt tjet\u00ebr.<\/p>\n

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                1. P\u00ebrpjekje t\u00eb pabarabarta<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                  Nj\u00eb nga arsyet pse njer\u00ebzit ndahen, jan\u00eb se nj\u00ebri p\u00ebrfiton nga tjetri. Martesa \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb lidhje reciproke, q\u00eb k\u00ebrkon p\u00ebrpjekje t\u00eb nj\u00ebjta nga t\u00eb dy partner\u00ebt. Kjo nuk do t\u00eb thot\u00eb se duhet t\u2019i b\u00ebni bashk\u00ebshortit nj\u00eb dhurat\u00eb po aq t\u00eb shtrenjt\u00eb p\u00ebr fest\u00ebn e Sh\u00ebn Valentinit, apo t\u00eb ndani bashk\u00eb fatur\u00ebn e restorantit. Por, n\u00ebse n\u00eb nj\u00eb moment t\u00eb caktuar partneri ju duket barr\u00eb e r\u00ebnd\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u2019u mbajtur, ose nuk investon aq sa duhet n\u00eb lidhje, ka ardhur momenti t\u00eb rivler\u00ebsoni situat\u00ebn.<\/p>\n

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                  1. Nuk kaloni koh\u00eb vet\u00ebm p\u00ebr vet\u00ebm me t\u00eb<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                    Nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb keq t\u00eb ftoni n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi t\u00eb af\u00ebrm dhe miq e shok\u00eb p\u00ebr dreka apo darka. Por, n\u00ebse shoq\u00ebria me partnerin nuk ju entuziazmon edhe aq e mezi prisni ta kaloni koh\u00ebn me t\u00eb tjer\u00eb, at\u00ebher\u00eb problemi ka rr\u00ebnj\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb thella. Ju kujtohet koha kur i braktis\u00ebt t\u00eb gjith\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb rrinit vet\u00ebm p\u00ebr vet\u00ebm me t\u00eb? Me sa duket, di\u00e7ka ka ndryshuar!<\/p>\n

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                    1. Nuk ju ndihmon fare n\u00eb pun\u00ebt e sht\u00ebpis\u00eb<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                      Jeni nga ato gra q\u00eb pastrojn\u00eb e lajn\u00eb gjith\u00eb dit\u00ebn, nd\u00ebrsa bashk\u00ebshorti ulet para televizorit me nj\u00eb tas kokoshkash? Mund t\u00eb duket gj\u00eb pa r\u00ebnd\u00ebsi, por t\u00eb b\u00ebsh gjith\u00eb pun\u00ebt e sht\u00ebpis\u00eb vet\u00ebm\/ose pa ndihm\u00ebn e partnerit mund ta d\u00ebmtoj\u00eb lidhjen. Nj\u00eb martes\u00eb do t\u00eb thot\u00eb t\u00eb marr\u00ebsh dhe t\u00eb jap\u00ebsh, apo jo?<\/p>\n

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                      1. Sekrete n\u00eb telefon<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                        \u00cbsht\u00eb e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme t\u00eb kesh besim te tjetri n\u00eb lidhje. Por, n\u00ebse koh\u00ebt e fundit partneri juaj \u00ebsht\u00eb shum\u00eb misterioz dhe shum\u00eb i dh\u00ebn\u00eb pas celularit e tij, kjo mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb shenj\u00eb e nj\u00eb problemi. Me sa duket, ai ka n\u00eb telefon di\u00e7ka t\u00eb cil\u00ebn nuk do q\u00eb ta shihni ju.<\/p>\n

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                        1. Humbja e pasionit<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                          Ju kujtohet koha kur nuk rrinit dot asnj\u00eb minut\u00eb pa t\u00eb, pa e par\u00eb, apo folur n\u00eb telefon? Shumica e \u00e7ifteve ndjejn\u00eb nj\u00eb ulje t\u00eb pasionit me kalimin e viteve. N\u00ebse ndjeni bezdi nga partneri, ose kuptoni se nganj\u00ebher\u00eb grindeni me t\u00eb p\u00ebr gj\u00ebra t\u00eb kota, at\u00ebher\u00eb ka ardhur koha t\u00eb b\u00ebni nj\u00eb hap prapa dhe t\u00eb mendoni si t\u00eb rigjall\u00ebroni romanc\u00ebn q\u00eb ju solli aq af\u00ebr n\u00eb fillim.<\/p>\n

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                          1. Tradhtia<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                            \u00cbsht\u00eb e qart\u00eb se di\u00e7ka nuk shkon mes ju t\u00eb dyve n\u00ebse partneri ka nevoj\u00eb p\u00ebr seks jasht\u00eb lidhjes. Megjith\u00ebse tundimet ekzistojn\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb dy, mund t\u00eb b\u00ebsh seks me dik\u00eb tjet\u00ebr vet\u00ebm kur nuk ndjehesh i lumtur n\u00eb lidhjen t\u00ebnde. Shpesh, tradhtia \u00ebsht\u00eb pika e fundit q\u00eb mbush got\u00ebn e nj\u00eb lidhjeje t\u00eb tendosur dhe shum\u00eb shpesh \u00e7on n\u00eb divorc.<\/p>\n

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                            1. Problemet ekonomike<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                              Ai q\u00eb ka th\u00ebn\u00eb se dashuria q\u00ebndron mbi parat\u00eb, ka th\u00ebn\u00eb g\u00ebnjeshtra. Nuk nevojitet t\u00eb kesh miliona q\u00eb t\u00eb kesh nj\u00eb martes\u00eb t\u00eb lumtur, por t\u00eb luftosh \u00e7do muaj p\u00ebr t\u00eb paguar faturat mund t\u2019i shkaktoj\u00eb nj\u00eb d\u00ebm t\u00eb pariparuesh\u00ebm lidhjes tuaj. N\u00ebse gj\u00ebrat dalin jasht\u00eb kontrollit, nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb ide e keqe t\u00eb k\u00ebrkoni k\u00ebshill\u00eb nga nj\u00eb specialist n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb fush\u00eb.<\/p>\n

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                              1. E lini veten pas dore, p\u00ebr tjetrin<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                                T\u00eb p\u00ebrpiqesh p\u00ebr lumturin\u00eb e partnerit \u00ebsht\u00eb d\u00e7ka e mir\u00eb, por t\u00eb harrosh nevojat e tua dhe t\u00eb l\u00ebsh veten pas dore p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb, \u00ebsht\u00eb gj\u00eb e keqe. N\u00eb p\u00ebrpjekjen p\u00ebr t\u00eb k\u00ebnaqur tjetrin, shpesh njer\u00ebzit l\u00ebn\u00eb pas dore d\u00ebshirat e tyre, gj\u00eb q\u00eb m\u00eb von\u00eb \u00e7on n\u00eb depresion dhe zhg\u00ebnjim.<\/p>\n

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                                Mbase vendimi m\u00eb i v\u00ebshtir\u00eb q\u00eb mund t\u00eb marr\u00eb nj\u00eb \u00e7ift i martuar \u00ebsht\u00eb t\u00eb ndahet. \u00cbsht\u00eb e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb t\u00eb kuptosh se si nj\u00eb martes\u00eb n\u00eb dukje normale t\u00eb p\u00ebrfundoj\u00eb me divorc, por n\u00eb fakt ky \u00ebsht\u00eb hapi i fundit i nj\u00eb serie evenimentesh dhe ndryshimesh t\u00eb vogla, q\u00eb kalojn\u00eb pa u v\u00ebn\u00eb re. Problemet […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":12054,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[50],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-12053","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-intimitet"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/12053","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=12053"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/12053\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/12054"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=12053"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=12053"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=12053"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}