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– Ju lutem m\u00eb jepni nj\u00eb k\u00ebshill\u00eb p\u00ebr situat\u00ebn n\u00eb t\u00eb cil\u00ebn ndodhem. Jam e lidhur me nj\u00eb djal\u00eb prej nj\u00eb viti tashm\u00eb. Me th\u00ebn\u00eb t\u00eb drejt\u00ebn, un\u00eb nuk i jam dh\u00ebn\u00eb n\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie seksuale sepse m\u00eb ka g\u00ebnjyer disa her\u00eb p\u00ebrsa u p\u00ebrket hapave serioz\u00eb q\u00eb duhet t\u00eb hedhim, pasi m\u00eb pati th\u00ebn\u00eb q\u00eb do t\u00eb fejoheshim brenda vitit dhe nuk b\u00eb u asgj\u00eb. Un\u00eb i thash\u00eb: \u201cpasi t\u00eb b\u00ebhen gj\u00ebrat serioze, kur ta ndjej q\u00eb ti m\u00eb do v\u00ebrtet\u201d. Pastaj m\u00eb tha: \u201cNuk e di sa do ta zgjat\u00ebsh k\u00ebt\u00eb loj\u00eb\u201d… S\u2019e kuptoj sjelljen e tij, sinqerisht… Nga nj\u00ebra an\u00eb them t\u2019i jepem se nuk dua ta humbas, por p\u00ebrs\u00ebri nuk ndihem e sigurt me t\u00eb. Ai, ve\u00e7 k\u00ebsaj, m\u00eb paragjykon si e prapambetur. Ju, \u00e7far\u00eb m\u00eb k\u00ebshilloni? <\/strong><\/p>\n Borana Marku, psikologe<\/u><\/em><\/strong> – <\/em><\/strong>E nderuar lexuese, e kuptoj shqet\u00ebsimin tuaj dhe mendoj se duhet t\u00eb jeni e bindur dhe e gatshme kur t\u00eb hidhni hapin p\u00ebr t\u00eb cilin flisni. Ju keni t\u00eb drejt\u00eb n\u00eb at\u00eb \u00e7far\u00eb mendoni, por edhe ai q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb mashkull, ka nevojat e veta fiziologjike dhe dihet q\u00eb meshkujt jan\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb ndjesh\u00ebm n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb pik\u00eb. Por, n\u00eb qoft\u00eb se ju nuk e ndjeni t\u00eb hidhni nj\u00eb hap t\u00eb till\u00eb, nuk keni pse ta b\u00ebni nga frika se mos e humbisni. N\u00eb fillim duhet t\u00eb kuptoni n\u00ebse gjith\u00e7ka q\u00eb ju thot\u00eb djali \u00ebsht\u00eb serioze. Ai ju ka g\u00ebnjyer p\u00ebrsa i p\u00ebrket fejes\u00ebs! \u00c7far\u00eb e ndalon at\u00eb t\u2019i b\u00ebj\u00eb gj\u00ebrat serioze me ju dhe m\u00eb pas t\u00eb shkoni drejt nj\u00eb hapi m\u00eb t\u00eb avancuar si\u00e7 \u00ebsht\u00eb intimiteti dhe ju t\u00eb jeni m\u00eb e qet\u00eb. Ka vajza q\u00eb nuk e kan\u00eb problem k\u00ebt\u00eb pjes\u00eb t\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnies n\u00eb \u00e7ift dhe b\u00ebjn\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie seksuale edhe pa u fejuar, gj\u00eb q\u00eb nuk kemi pse ta gjykojm\u00eb, por ka dhe vajza t\u00eb tilla si puna juaj q\u00eb jan\u00eb t\u00eb ndjeshme n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb pik\u00eb. Pra, \u00e7donj\u00ebri prej nesh \u00ebsht\u00eb i lir\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb \u00e7\u2019t\u00eb doj\u00eb dhe ta mendoj\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnien n\u00eb \u00e7ift si t\u00eb doj\u00eb; askush nuk duhet paragjykuar. Ju duket q\u00eb e doni v\u00ebrtet k\u00ebt\u00eb djal\u00eb, por keni shum\u00eb frik\u00eb dhe kjo, p\u00ebr shkak t\u00eb nj\u00eb g\u00ebnjeshtre nga ana e tij. Duhet t\u2019i besoni intuit\u00ebs tuaj. N\u00ebse ai ju dashuron v\u00ebrtet, do t\u00eb dij\u00eb t\u2019i b\u00ebj\u00eb gj\u00ebrat e duhura si p\u00ebr ju, ashtu edhe p\u00ebr veten. Duhet t\u2019i shpjegoni se nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb loj\u00eb, por pasiguri. Gjithashtu, duhet t\u00eb keni parasysh q\u00eb t\u00eb mos ia lejoni t\u2019ju b\u00ebj\u00eb presion psikologjik. Nj\u00eb person q\u00eb ju do v\u00ebrtet, nuk ju b\u00ebn presion, por gjen zgjidhjen e p\u00ebrbashk\u00ebt q\u00eb t\u00eb dy t\u00eb jeni t\u00eb k\u00ebnaqur. Uroj t\u00eb merrni vendimin e duhur.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" – Ju lutem m\u00eb jepni nj\u00eb k\u00ebshill\u00eb p\u00ebr situat\u00ebn n\u00eb t\u00eb cil\u00ebn ndodhem. Jam e lidhur me nj\u00eb djal\u00eb prej nj\u00eb viti tashm\u00eb. Me th\u00ebn\u00eb t\u00eb drejt\u00ebn, un\u00eb nuk i jam dh\u00ebn\u00eb n\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie seksuale sepse m\u00eb ka g\u00ebnjyer disa her\u00eb p\u00ebrsa u p\u00ebrket hapave serioz\u00eb q\u00eb duhet t\u00eb hedhim, pasi m\u00eb pati th\u00ebn\u00eb […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[92,219],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-12000","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-halle","category-pyetje-pergjigje"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/12000","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=12000"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/12000\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=12000"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=12000"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=12000"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}