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– Kam nj\u00eb problem me t\u00eb \u00ebm\u00ebn e djalit q\u00eb dua. Ajo nuk do q\u00eb ne t\u00eb fejohemi sepse sipas saj, nuk jam e denj\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb birin. Ka plasur nj\u00eb debat i madh dhe djali m\u00eb ka th\u00ebn\u00eb me lot n\u00eb sy: \u201cDuhet t\u00eb ndahemi, sepse mami im \u00ebsht\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb shum\u00eb keq dhe m\u00eb ka v\u00ebn\u00eb para dy zgjedhjeve. Un\u00eb nuk mund t\u2019ia v\u00eb shkelmin mamit se ajo vet\u00ebm mua m\u00eb ka\u201d. Nuk di si t\u00eb veproj, po m\u00eb ik\u00ebn truri, i kam th\u00ebn\u00eb q\u00eb \u201cnuk e humbet n\u00ebn\u00ebn dhe n\u00ebse m\u00eb merr mua p\u00ebr nuse\u201d, por ai ka frik\u00eb se mos i ndodh gj\u00eb mamas\u00eb s\u00eb tij. S\u2019e kuptoj sjelljen e tij prej f\u00ebmije. Ajo nuk m\u00eb do mua si nuse t\u00eb djalit, sepse urren zon\u00ebn nga jam un\u00eb dhe nuk i dukem e denj\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb, se ai \u00ebsht\u00eb avokat, nd\u00ebrsa un\u00eb m\u00ebsuese kop\u00ebshti. Ju lutem juve, \u00e7far\u00eb m\u00eb k\u00ebshilloni?<\/strong><\/p>\n Borana Marku, psikologe:<\/u><\/em><\/strong> – E dashur lexuese, e kuptoj shum\u00eb mir\u00eb gjendjen tuaj, sepse p\u00ebr fat t\u00eb keq, vitet e fundit jan\u00eb shtuar shum\u00eb raste t\u00eb tilla. M\u00eb vjen \u00e7udi sepse ne jemi t\u00eb gjith\u00eb shqiptar\u00eb. Imagjino sikur t\u00eb biem n\u00eb dashuri me nj\u00eb djal\u00eb t\u00eb huaj, ose anasjelltas, si do t\u00eb vepronin shum\u00eb n\u00ebna t\u00eb tilla? Ajo \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb n\u00ebn\u00eb egoiste, mendon vet\u00ebm p\u00ebr veten dhe jo p\u00ebr vuajtjen e djalit t\u00eb saj; do q\u00eb t\u00eb fitoj\u00eb vet\u00ebm ajo. Duhet t\u00eb dini se \u00e7far\u00ebdolloj k\u00ebrc\u00ebnimi t\u2019i b\u00ebj\u00eb ajo djalit q\u00eb doni ju, jan\u00eb shtirje nga ana e saj, sepse nuk do t\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb asnj\u00eb vet\u00ebvrasje si\u00e7 mund t\u00eb mendohet, apo t\u00eb s\u00ebmuret, si\u00e7 thon\u00eb shumica e k\u00ebtyre n\u00ebnave. Nuk dua t\u00eb b\u00ebj gjykimin e sjelljes s\u00eb saj, sepse ju shkruani se si t\u00eb zgjidhni problemin tuaj, por sinqerisht m\u00eb vjen shum\u00eb keq q\u00eb ekzistojn\u00eb n\u00ebna kaq t\u00eb liga n\u00eb thelb. Un\u00eb do t\u00eb doja t\u2019u b\u00ebja apel t\u00eb gjitha n\u00ebnave q\u00eb t\u00eb mos nd\u00ebrhyjn\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb \u00e7ift, sepse edhe vet\u00eb besimi fetar, n\u00ebse besojn\u00eb, i d\u00ebnon k\u00ebta lloj njer\u00ebzish. Aq m\u00eb tep\u00ebr kur b\u00ebhet fjal\u00eb p\u00ebr nj\u00eb person pozitiv. \u00c7far\u00eb lidhjeje ka k\u00ebtu niveli, apo vendi nga vijm\u00eb? R\u00ebnd\u00ebsi ka karakteri i njeriut, fakti q\u00eb e do pun\u00ebn, q\u00eb do t\u00eb krijoj\u00eb familje. At\u00ebher\u00eb, si mund t\u2019i shajm\u00eb ne t\u00eb huajt kur tregohen racist\u00eb ndaj nesh, nd\u00ebrkoh\u00eb q\u00eb ne vet\u00eb me nj\u00ebri-tjetrin jemi racist\u00eb?!<\/p>\n Gjithsesi, dalim te problemi juaj, sepse kjo tem\u00eb m\u00eb preku v\u00ebrtet shum\u00eb. Dua t\u2019ju k\u00ebshilloj, e dashur vajz\u00eb, edhe pse me dhimbje t\u00eb madhe, q\u00eb t\u00eb dor\u00ebzoheni. Hiqni dor\u00eb nga ky \u201cdjal\u00eb mamaje\u201d. Ai \u00ebsht\u00eb shum\u00eb i dob\u00ebt, p\u00ebrderisa ka gjetur k\u00ebt\u00eb zgjidhje, duke ju dh\u00ebn\u00eb shkelmin juve. Pse duhet t\u00eb k\u00ebmb\u00ebngulni m\u00eb tep\u00ebr? N\u00ebse ai v\u00ebrtet ju do me shpirt dhe \u00ebsht\u00eb burr\u00eb q\u00eb di t\u00eb mbaj\u00eb p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsit\u00eb e veta, nuk do t\u00eb hiqte dor\u00eb nga ju, por edhe n\u00ebn\u00ebn do ta mbante af\u00ebr. Ai \u00ebsht\u00eb i papjekur dhe nuk ju meriton. Ruani dinjitetin e karakterin tuaj dhe largohuni nga ai nj\u00eb or\u00eb e m\u00eb par\u00eb. N\u00eb at\u00eb familje nuk do t\u00eb ishit kurr\u00eb e lumtur, sepse do ta kishit gjithmon\u00eb n\u00eb mes maman\u00eb e tij. Ajo do t\u00eb arrinte gjer aty sa do t\u2019ju b\u00ebnte t\u00eb largoheshit vet\u00eb, sepse keni t\u00eb b\u00ebni me nj\u00eb partner t\u00eb dob\u00ebt. Po t\u00eb ishte person i fort\u00eb partneri juaj, ajo nuk do t\u2019ju l\u00ebndonte kurr\u00eb. \u00cbsht\u00eb ai i dob\u00ebt, ndaj ka nd\u00ebrhyr\u00eb n\u00ebna e tij. Hiqni dor\u00eb prej tij dhe shikoni p\u00ebrpara. Vet\u00ebm k\u00ebshtu do t\u00eb ndiheni m\u00eb e qet\u00eb dhe do t\u2019i jepni mund\u00ebsi vetes t\u00eb njihni nj\u00eb djal\u00eb tjet\u00ebr q\u00eb t\u2019jua dij\u00eb vlerat dhe t\u2019ju doj\u00eb pa kushte. Atij, le t\u2019ia gjej\u00eb mami nusen… Ju uroj shum\u00eb fat!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" – Kam nj\u00eb problem me t\u00eb \u00ebm\u00ebn e djalit q\u00eb dua. Ajo nuk do q\u00eb ne t\u00eb fejohemi sepse sipas saj, nuk jam e denj\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb birin. Ka plasur nj\u00eb debat i madh dhe djali m\u00eb ka th\u00ebn\u00eb me lot n\u00eb sy: \u201cDuhet t\u00eb ndahemi, sepse mami im \u00ebsht\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb shum\u00eb keq dhe […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[92,219],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-11933","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-halle","category-pyetje-pergjigje"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/11933","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=11933"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/11933\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=11933"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=11933"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=11933"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}