Si do t\u00eb ndjeheshit n\u00eb qoft\u00eb se do ta merrnit vesh q\u00eb babai juaj do t\u00eb martohet? Un\u00eb q\u00eb po shkruaj k\u00ebt\u00eb histori jam nj\u00eb bij\u00eb pa prind\u00ebr tashm\u00eb. Kemi qen\u00eb nj\u00eb familje e lumtur un\u00eb me motr\u00ebn dhe me prind\u00ebrit. Jetonim n\u00eb Shqip\u00ebri dhe t\u00eb gjith\u00eb ishim n\u00eb pun\u00eb. Sigurisht, un\u00eb dhe motra, kur ishim m\u00eb t\u00eb vogla nuk punonim, por tani kemi pun\u00ebt tona, jo t\u00eb lidhura me profesionet q\u00eb ne kemi zgjedhur n\u00eb jet\u00eb. Prind\u00ebrit tan\u00eb jan\u00eb lidhur me dashuri. Jan\u00eb njohur q\u00eb adoleshent\u00eb. Un\u00eb \u00e7uditesha se si ka mund\u00ebsi q\u00eb nj\u00eb dashuri t\u00eb ishte kaq e fort\u00eb n\u00eb mosh\u00ebn gjasht\u00ebmb\u00ebdhjet\u00eb-shtat\u00ebmb\u00ebdhjet\u00eb vje\u00e7are dhe t\u00eb rezistonte duke t\u00eb \u00e7uar deri n\u00eb martes\u00eb. N\u00eb fakt, prind\u00ebrit e mi nuk ishin t\u00eb martuar, thjesht bashk\u00ebjetonin dhe ne vite m\u00eb von\u00eb e mor\u00ebm vesh q\u00eb ata nuk e kishin kuror\u00ebzuar lidhjen e tyre. Prind\u00ebrit e mi n\u00eb at\u00eb koh\u00eb ishin tridhjet\u00eb e gjasht\u00eb-tridhjet\u00eb e shtat\u00eb vje\u00e7. Duken t\u00eb rinj, krahasuar me vitet q\u00eb kan\u00eb jetuar, por jeta i ka lodhur. Jan\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb si njeri pa njeri. Pun\u00eb e vet\u00ebm pun\u00eb. Asgj\u00eb m\u00eb shum\u00eb. Nuk mbaj mend t\u00eb dilnin ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb. Kur thash\u00eb m\u00eb lart \u201cfamilje e lumtur\u201d, e kisha me kuptimin se ishim t\u00eb kat\u00ebrt n\u00eb nj\u00eb sht\u00ebpi. Tani n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi nuk ka m\u00eb asnjeri. Babi \u00ebsht\u00eb larguar dhe motra \u00ebsht\u00eb martuar, kurse un\u00eb jam ende beqare. Nuk besoja n\u00eb meshkuj, pas k\u00ebsaj q\u00eb ndodhi me familjen time. Kur tradhtoi babi besimin e tre femrave n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi, si mund t\u00eb besoja nj\u00eb mashkull tjet\u00ebr?<\/p>\n
Historia \u00ebsht\u00eb paksa e komplikuar dhe un\u00eb nuk di nga t\u2019ia filloj. Gabim b\u00ebm\u00eb t\u00eb gjith\u00eb q\u00eb familja jon\u00eb u nda. Babi dhe mami filluan sherret sepse ne, un\u00eb me motr\u00ebn zbuluam nj\u00eb lidhje t\u00eb babit me nj\u00eb grua tjet\u00ebr. N\u00eb fakt, k\u00ebt\u00eb gjurmim ne e b\u00ebm\u00eb n\u00ebp\u00ebrmjet Facebook-ut. Babi mbante dy adresa t\u00eb ndryshme dhe te nj\u00ebra kishte nj\u00eb \u201cmike\u201d m\u00eb shum\u00eb se te adresa tjet\u00ebr. Kjo na b\u00ebri mua e motr\u00ebn t\u00eb dyshonim. E kemi pjes\u00eb t\u00eb tipit ton\u00eb q\u00eb nuk besojm\u00eb shum\u00eb dhe dyshojm\u00eb p\u00ebr gjith\u00e7ka. Hym\u00eb nj\u00eb dit\u00eb tek adresa e Facebook-ut t\u00eb babit dhe pam\u00eb se \u00e7udit\u00ebrisht, ai vet\u00ebm me k\u00ebt\u00eb \u201cmiken\u201d e ve\u00e7ant\u00eb italiane kishte shkruar m\u00eb s\u00eb shumti. N\u00ebp\u00ebr biseda kishte shum\u00eb fjal\u00eb t\u00eb tipit, \u201cvajza\u201d, \u201cdjali\u201d e tjer\u00eb. Nuk po i kuptonim hi\u00e7 fare sepse mesazhet ishin fshir\u00eb, por pas dy or\u00ebsh atij i erdhi nj\u00eb mesazh ku kjo mikja i shkruante: \u201cDjali \u00ebsht\u00eb s\u00ebmur\u00eb\u201d. Ne nuk e kuptuam dhe me t\u00eb tallur i tham\u00eb: \u201cCili djal\u00eb? Un\u00eb nuk jam mjek\u201d. Nj\u00eb mesazh i rrufesh\u00ebm, erdhi pa u vonuar duke th\u00ebn\u00eb: \u201cTi je nj\u00eb njeri i pap\u00ebrgjegjsh\u00ebm p\u00ebr f\u00ebmij\u00ebt\u201d dhe loja jon\u00eb vazhdoi duke th\u00ebn\u00eb (gjoja babi), se ai, t\u00eb dyja vajzat i kishte sh\u00ebndosh\u00eb e mir\u00eb. \u201cPo, po, i tha ajo, po mos harro se ke dhe dy f\u00ebmij\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00eb\u201d… Nga fjal\u00ebt e saj kuptuam se ajo kishte me babain dy f\u00ebmij\u00eb binjak\u00eb, nj\u00eb djal\u00eb e nj\u00eb vajz\u00eb, tet\u00ebmb\u00ebdhjet\u00eb muajsh!<\/p>\n
Un\u00eb me motr\u00ebn u skandalizuam kur mor\u00ebm vesh se p\u00ebr \u00e7far\u00eb flitej. N\u00eb fakt, babi shkonte shpesh n\u00eb Itali ku po b\u00ebnte dokumentet, por atje ai kishte nj\u00eb lidhje tjet\u00ebr dhe dy f\u00ebmij\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00eb. Kjo zonja jetonte n\u00eb Itali, ishte italiane, por ne e dim\u00eb shum\u00eb mir\u00eb italishten. T\u00eb habitura dhe t\u00eb skandalizuara po ashtu, nuk dinim si t\u00eb vepronim. E mbajt\u00ebm t\u00eb fsheht\u00eb dhe prisnim ndonj\u00eb t\u00eb re n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi. Meq\u00eb mami dhe babi nuk ishin martuar, un\u00eb dhe motra u tham\u00eb se donim q\u00eb ata t\u00eb martoheshin dhe t\u00eb njiheshin si \u00e7ift n\u00eb gjendjen civile. Mami nuk tha gj\u00eb, por n\u00eb dhom\u00eb na tha se babi kishte lidhje me nj\u00eb grua tjet\u00ebr.<\/p>\n
Nuk mund ta pranonim q\u00eb babai yn\u00eb po mbante nj\u00eb lidhje t\u00eb dyfisht\u00eb dhe q\u00eb, p\u00ebr m\u00eb tep\u00ebr, mami e dinte k\u00ebt\u00eb! Ishte turp p\u00ebr ne. Motra ishte e lidhur dhe donte t\u00eb fejohej, por si do ta prezantonte babin te familja e djalit? Q\u00eb kishte nj\u00eb baba tradhtar? Ne nuk e pranonim dot k\u00ebt\u00eb dhe i tham\u00eb mamit q\u00eb t\u00eb martohej patjet\u00ebr, sepse ky ishte nj\u00eb budallall\u00ebk, nj\u00eb veprim i pafalsh\u00ebm. Mami na sqaroi q\u00eb babi e kishte krijuar k\u00ebt\u00eb lidhje q\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebnte dokumentet p\u00ebr jasht\u00eb shtetit dhe t\u00eb na t\u00ebrhiqte edhe neve… Jam e sigurt se t\u00eb gjith\u00eb i dini k\u00ebto marifete q\u00eb jan\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb p\u00ebrfituar dhe p\u00ebr t\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb letrat p\u00ebr jasht\u00eb shtetit. Ka vite kjo histori dhe jan\u00eb vitet q\u00eb t\u00eb gjith\u00eb i kemi p\u00ebrjetuar si mos m\u00eb keq, por ne, m\u00eb shum\u00eb se t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt, kemi vuajtur ndarjen mes prind\u00ebrve. Pati edhe nga ata \u201cburra\u201d shteti q\u00eb lan\u00eb familjen p\u00ebr \u201cgrat\u00eb\u201d e huaja, p\u00ebr ato palo gra t\u00eb cilat hiqen si p\u00ebrparimtare dhe nuk e vrasin mendjen se po hyjn\u00eb, apo kan\u00eb hyr\u00eb n\u00eb mes t\u00eb nj\u00eb familjeje dhe e shkat\u00ebrrojn\u00eb pa problem. K\u00ebto jan\u00eb ato zo\u00e7kat t\u00eb cilave nuk po u v\u00eb ndonj\u00eb em\u00ebr tjet\u00ebr.<\/p>\n
Dhe fundin, e doni?<\/p>\n
Babi nuk lidhi martes\u00eb me mamin ton\u00eb, por me t\u00eb huaj\u00ebn, e cila e k\u00ebrc\u00ebnonte. Familja jon\u00eb u nda. Ne u shkat\u00ebrruam p\u00ebr shkak t\u00eb atyre dokumenteve q\u00eb donte t\u00eb merrte babi, p\u00ebr t\u00eb na bashkuar n\u00eb familjen e madhe evropiane. Para disa dit\u00ebsh, babi b\u00ebri dasm\u00ebn. F\u00ebmij\u00ebt e tij me tjetr\u00ebn jan\u00eb rritur dhe, shum\u00eb t\u00eb lumtur, mbanin fustanin e mamit e hidhnin lulet n\u00eb tapetin e kuq n\u00eb kish\u00ebn ku po b\u00ebhej dasma. Nuk e dim\u00eb se si do vejn\u00eb pun\u00ebt, por un\u00eb e urrej si baba dhe nuk dua ta shoh m\u00eb me sy. Mami nga ana tjet\u00ebr \u00ebsht\u00eb lidhur me dik\u00eb tjet\u00ebr. K\u00ebsaj here, u martua me celebrim. Kjo ishte sakrifica q\u00eb donte t\u00eb b\u00ebnte babi im p\u00ebr t\u00eb na b\u00ebr\u00eb me letra dhe… na ndau me letra!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Si do t\u00eb ndjeheshit n\u00eb qoft\u00eb se do ta merrnit vesh q\u00eb babai juaj do t\u00eb martohet? Un\u00eb q\u00eb po shkruaj k\u00ebt\u00eb histori jam nj\u00eb bij\u00eb pa prind\u00ebr tashm\u00eb. Kemi qen\u00eb nj\u00eb familje e lumtur un\u00eb me motr\u00ebn dhe me prind\u00ebrit. Jetonim n\u00eb Shqip\u00ebri dhe t\u00eb gjith\u00eb ishim n\u00eb pun\u00eb. Sigurisht, un\u00eb dhe motra, kur […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[95],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-11929","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-rrefime-mekatesh"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/11929","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=11929"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/11929\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=11929"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=11929"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=11929"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}