M\u00eb kujtohet mir\u00eb ajo periudh\u00eb e jet\u00ebs kur me shoqet, shprehnim d\u00ebshirat p\u00ebr bashk\u00ebshort\u00ebt tan\u00eb. Mendonim se si mund t\u00eb ishte ideali, duke e krahasuar me baballar\u00ebt tan\u00eb. Kur babai yn\u00eb ishte m\u00eb i keq dhe problematik n\u00eb familje, d\u00ebshironim q\u00eb burri t\u00eb mos ishte ashtu, madje b\u00ebnim dhe be me veten, se nuk do t\u00eb lejonim t\u00eb na ndodhte i nj\u00ebjti fat. Jeta nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb asnj\u00ebher\u00eb ashtu si\u00e7 e \u00ebnd\u00ebrron. N\u00ebse je me fat e burri t\u00eb bie ngjal\u00eb, e h\u00ebngre; ama n\u00ebse \u00ebsht\u00eb gjarp\u00ebr, t\u00eb h\u00ebngri. Mua m\u00eb ka ka r\u00ebn\u00eb po aq i keq sa nj\u00eb gjarp\u00ebr.<\/p>\n
Un\u00eb kam dy f\u00ebmij\u00eb t\u00eb vegj\u00ebl dhe ajo q\u00eb m\u00eb intereson m\u00eb shum\u00eb n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb jet\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb mir\u00ebqenia e tyre si ekonomike, ashtu edhe shpirt\u00ebrore. Un\u00eb jam 33 vje\u00e7e dhe burri im \u00ebsht\u00eb 5 vjet m\u00eb i madh se un\u00eb. Jemi martuar me dashuri dhe pas nj\u00eb fejese prej 4 vjet\u00ebsh. Kemi patur fatin e mir\u00eb q\u00eb kemi filluar pun\u00eb para martese. Un\u00eb jam m\u00ebsuese dhe kur mendoj se shum\u00eb shoqe t\u00eb miat nuk kan\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb asnj\u00eb dit\u00eb pun\u00eb, kurse un\u00eb disa vite, fal\u00ebnderoj Zotin \u00e7do dit\u00eb. Gjithashtu dhe im shoq punon n\u00eb nj\u00eb institucion. Ai ka shum\u00eb t\u00eb mira dhe shum\u00eb shoqe m\u00eb thon\u00eb: \u201cAaaa lum si ti!\u201d. Ai nuk pi, nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb i dhunsh\u00ebm dhe as bredh me femra t\u00eb tjera. \u201cKu ka m\u00eb mir\u00eb\u201d, do t\u00eb thoni edhe ju, por ai ka nj\u00eb t\u00eb keqe m\u00eb t\u00eb madhe se pija dhe kurvat: Burri im \u00ebsht\u00eb bixhozxhi. Nuk ka t\u00eb keqe m\u00eb t\u00eb madhe se bixhozi, t\u00eb v\u00eb n\u00eb rrezik jet\u00ebn t\u00ebnde, por edhe t\u00eb njer\u00ebzve t\u00eb tjer\u00eb t\u00eb dashur. N\u00ebse nuk do t\u00eb kisha f\u00ebmij\u00eb, nuk do t\u00eb isha menduar dy her\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u2019u ndar\u00eb, por dy f\u00ebmij\u00eb ta b\u00ebjn\u00eb jet\u00ebn m\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebshtir\u00eb dhe n\u00eb dilem\u00eb. Kur ishim t\u00eb fejuar, e shikoja q\u00eb vinte ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb lloto sporti, madje vija edhe un\u00eb dhe nuk e shihja si nj\u00eb t\u00eb keqe q\u00eb mund t\u00eb m\u00eb hapte aq probleme n\u00eb t\u00eb ardhmen time. Po ta dija… Si \u00ebsht\u00eb ajo shprehja \u201cta dinte njeriu vdekjen, e hapte grop\u00ebn vet\u00eb\u201d. Gj\u00ebrat nuk dihen dhe jemi n\u00eb m\u00ebshir\u00ebn e fatit. Kur ndodhi problematika e par\u00eb e madhe e v\u00ebrtet\u00eb, kur rroga nuk vinte fare n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi sepse e gjitha ishte v\u00ebn\u00eb n\u00eb kredi p\u00ebr t\u00eb lar\u00eb borxhet n\u00eb bixhoz, u nxeha tmerr\u00ebsisht, fillova t\u00eb b\u00ebrtisja me t\u00eb madhe, kurse ai, qet\u00eb-qet\u00eb m\u00eb thoshte: \u201cM\u00eb fal, gabova, nuk do ta b\u00ebj m\u00eb\u201d.<\/p>\n
Nga zem\u00ebrimi thirra t\u00eb mit\u00eb dhe prind\u00ebrit e tij, t\u00eb cil\u00ebve u tregova situat\u00ebn dhe u thash\u00eb q\u00eb do t\u00eb ndahesha. F\u00ebmij\u00ebt ishin shum\u00eb t\u00eb vegj\u00ebl dhe as q\u00eb mendoja tjet\u00ebr gj\u00eb. Prind\u00ebrit e tij m\u2019u lut\u00ebn duke m\u00eb then\u00eb se do m\u00eb ndihmonin n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb situat\u00eb. N\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb, at\u00eb b\u00ebn\u00eb, nd\u00ebrsa ai betohej q\u00eb nuk kishte p\u00ebr t\u00eb ndodhur m\u00eb. Nj\u00eb pjes\u00eb e borxheve u lan\u00eb nga prind\u00ebrit e tij dhe nj\u00eb pjes\u00eb nga ne. Desha s\u2019desha, duhet t\u2019i jepja edhe p\u00ebr t\u00eb ngr\u00ebn\u00eb. Nuk kishte dit\u00eb q\u00eb nuk ia kujtoja, derisa kaloi nj\u00eb periudh\u00eb goxha e gjat\u00eb, por sado i zem\u00ebruar t\u00eb jet\u00eb njeriu, koha kalon dhe zem\u00ebrimi kalon.<\/p>\n
Jeta u normalizua disi… Kishte raste kur diskutoja me koleget p\u00ebr burrat, sigurisht, p\u00ebr burrat e t\u00eb tjer\u00ebve se timin as q\u00eb m\u00eb vente mendja ta p\u00ebrmendja me ato q\u00eb kisha kaluar. Pas nj\u00eb periudhe prej nj\u00eb viti e gjys\u00ebm, im shoq filloi t\u00eb m\u00eb k\u00ebrkonte lek\u00eb akoma m\u00eb shum\u00eb dhe rrog\u00ebn nuk e sillte t\u00eb gjith\u00ebn n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi. Ai justifikohej me faktin se duhet t\u00eb qeraste t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt p\u00ebr t\u00eb mbajtur vendin e pun\u00ebs. T\u2019i v\u00ebrtetoja k\u00ebto gj\u00ebra nuk mund ta b\u00ebja sepse nuk i kisha mund\u00ebsit\u00eb e as kontaktet e duhura p\u00ebr k\u00ebta gj\u00eb. Filluan debatet dhe situata sa vinte e tensionohej. Kishte raste kur f\u00ebmij\u00ebt qanin. Kjo gjendje sa vinte e shtohej dhe ajo q\u00eb i dha goditjen e fundit gjith\u00eb k\u00ebsaj gjendjeje, ishte kur n\u00eb der\u00eb u paraqit nj\u00eb nga personat q\u00eb burri im i kishte marr\u00eb hua 3 milion lek\u00eb. Ai person ishte shum\u00eb agresiv n\u00eb momentet e para, por m\u00eb pas, duke m\u00eb par\u00eb mua t\u00eb tulatesha ashtu, i uli tonet dhe para se t\u00eb largohej, m\u00eb tha nuk do ndahej mir\u00eb n\u00ebse im shoq nuk i jepte lek\u00ebt q\u00eb i kishte marr\u00eb. Pasi iku personi, e mora n\u00eb telefon tim shoq dhe i thash\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb vinte n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi menj\u00ebher\u00eb. Ajo q\u00eb prisja ishte q\u00eb t\u00eb vinte p\u00ebr pak, por si p\u00ebr t\u00eb treguar pap\u00ebrgjegjshm\u00ebrin\u00eb e tij, ai erdhi n\u00eb dark\u00eb von\u00eb. Kur erdhi, debatuam ashp\u00ebr, ai filloi t\u00eb mohonte e t\u00eb g\u00ebnjente dhe gj\u00ebrat q\u00eb thoshte nuk puqeshin me versionet. I k\u00ebrkova t\u00eb largohej duke i th\u00ebn\u00eb q\u00eb un\u00eb nuk kisha fare lidhje me problemet e tij, se ato nuk m\u00eb takonin mua dhe q\u00eb nuk doja q\u00eb budallall\u00ebqet e tij t\u00eb rrezikonin buk\u00ebn e f\u00ebmijeve. Para se t\u00eb dilte nga sht\u00ebpia, edhe e mallkova n\u00eb zem\u00ebrim e sip\u00ebr.<\/p>\n
At\u00eb nat\u00eb nuk fjeta. T\u00eb nes\u00ebrmen as n\u00eb pun\u00eb nuk shkova, me pretekstin se isha e s\u00ebmur\u00eb. M\u00eb erdhi vjehrra duke m\u2019u lutur q\u00eb ta falja dhe ta ndihmoja q\u00eb t\u00eb kap\u00ebrcente problemet, duke m\u00eb th\u00ebn\u00eb se k\u00ebshtu e \u00e7oja n\u00eb rrug\u00eb akoma m\u00eb t\u00eb keqe. Ajo q\u00eb m\u00eb acaroi m\u00eb shum\u00eb ishte kur m\u00eb thoshte se duhet ta edukoja djalin e saj, i cili ishte mjaft i rritur p\u00ebr t\u00eb mbajtur mbi supe p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsit\u00eb e tij. Un\u00eb nuk kisha nevoj\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u2019u b\u00ebr\u00eb dadoja e burrit tim, por p\u00ebr nj\u00eb shok jete q\u00eb t\u00eb m\u00eb ndihmonte t\u00eb \u00e7onim familjen para. Nuk mjaftonin problemet q\u00eb m\u00eb kishte hapur, por nevojiteshin edhe akuzat e saj, se nuk isha treguar e kujdesshme. I tregova der\u00ebn duke i th\u00ebn\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb mos m\u00eb shkelte m\u00eb.<\/p>\n
Situata ishte v\u00ebrtet e mjer\u00eb, f\u00ebmij\u00ebt e k\u00ebrkonin t\u00eb atin dhe un\u00eb nuk dija si t\u2019ua shpjegoja. Ai, her\u00eb pas here m\u00eb dilte para duke m\u00eb k\u00ebrkuar falje. Edhe prind\u00ebrit mundoheshin t\u00eb na bashkonin, por \u00e7far\u00eb mund t\u00eb b\u00ebnin ata m\u00eb shum\u00eb se\u00e7 kishin b\u00ebr\u00eb? Nj\u00eb dit\u00eb kontaktova nj\u00eb psikologe e cila e rekomanduar nga nj\u00eb shoqe, m\u00eb priti pa pages\u00eb. I tregova hallin tim dhe gj\u00ebja e par\u00eb q\u00eb m\u00eb tha ishte: \u201cBixhozi \u00ebsht\u00eb s\u00ebmundje dhe vet\u00ebm me ndihm\u00eb mund ta shp\u00ebtosh\u201d. K\u00ebshillat e saj qen\u00eb t\u00eb vlefshme, por kur njeriu nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb i fort\u00eb, p\u00ebrkulet p\u00ebrpara k\u00ebsaj bote q\u00eb nuk ka m\u00ebshir\u00eb. U desh\u00ebn gjasht\u00eb muaj dhe un\u00eb u p\u00ebrkula dhe e ktheva burrin tim p\u00ebrs\u00ebri n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi. E ktheva p\u00ebr hat\u00ebr t\u00eb f\u00ebmijeve q\u00eb e k\u00ebrkonin, p\u00ebr frik\u00ebn time, duke u ndier n\u00ebn presionin e shoq\u00ebris\u00eb dhe n\u00eb fund, prej shpres\u00ebs s\u00eb nj\u00eb ndryshimi t\u00eb njeriut q\u00eb e kam dashur, q\u00eb nuk ka shum\u00eb vese dhe nuk bredh n\u00ebp\u00ebr femra, por q\u00eb ka nj\u00eb ves q\u00eb shkat\u00ebrron \u00e7do gj\u00eb. E ktheva duke i th\u00ebn\u00eb se ky ishte shansi i fundit q\u00eb i jepja, n\u00eb t\u00eb kund\u00ebrt\u00ebn, m\u00eb mir\u00eb vet\u00ebm sesa me nj\u00eb gjarp\u00ebr…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
M\u00eb kujtohet mir\u00eb ajo periudh\u00eb e jet\u00ebs kur me shoqet, shprehnim d\u00ebshirat p\u00ebr bashk\u00ebshort\u00ebt tan\u00eb. Mendonim se si mund t\u00eb ishte ideali, duke e krahasuar me baballar\u00ebt tan\u00eb. Kur babai yn\u00eb ishte m\u00eb i keq dhe problematik n\u00eb familje, d\u00ebshironim q\u00eb burri t\u00eb mos ishte ashtu, madje b\u00ebnim dhe be me veten, se nuk do […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[95],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-11878","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-rrefime-mekatesh"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/11878","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=11878"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/11878\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=11878"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=11878"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=11878"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}