{"id":11713,"date":"2016-01-13T15:30:50","date_gmt":"2016-01-13T14:30:50","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/?p=11713"},"modified":"2016-01-13T11:46:03","modified_gmt":"2016-01-13T10:46:03","slug":"10-arsye-pse-nuk-duhet-te-martohesh","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/2016\/01\/10-arsye-pse-nuk-duhet-te-martohesh\/","title":{"rendered":"10 arsye pse NUK duhet t\u00eb martohesh…"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Ka gra q\u00eb e \u00ebnd\u00ebrrojn\u00eb dit\u00ebn e dasm\u00ebs q\u00eb nga f\u00ebmij\u00ebria, q\u00eb besojn\u00eb te princi i kalt\u00ebr dhe q\u00eb do t\u00eb b\u00ebnin \u00e7do gj\u00eb p\u00ebr ta takuar at\u00eb. Fustani romantik, dasma si n\u00eb \u00ebnd\u00ebrr dhe muaji i mjaltit jan\u00eb arritje t\u00eb v\u00ebrteta dhe ato do t\u00eb rendisnin k\u00ebtu qindra arsye pse martesa konsiderohet nj\u00eb zgjedhje e mir\u00eb. P\u00ebr fat t\u00eb keq, jo \u00e7do gj\u00eb q\u00eb shk\u00eblqen \u00ebsht\u00eb flori dhe, pas k\u00ebtyre eksperiencave, fillojn\u00eb problemet e para n\u00eb gjirin e \u00e7iftit, si keqkuptimet, zakone t\u00eb ndryshme t\u00eb p\u00ebrditshme dhe grindjet n\u00eb fund t\u00eb dit\u00ebs. Bashk\u00ebjetesa b\u00ebn t\u00eb dalin n\u00eb pah an\u00eb t\u00eb karakterit q\u00eb kishin mbetur t\u00eb fshehura deri at\u00eb dit\u00eb dhe kjo gj\u00eb mund t\u00eb sjell\u00eb edhe ndarje. Pik\u00ebrisht p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb arsye, personat m\u00eb t\u00eb zhg\u00ebnjyer preferojn\u00eb ta evitojn\u00eb martes\u00ebn, sikur ajo t\u00eb ishte nj\u00eb s\u00ebmundje ngjit\u00ebse. Po ju, a jeni t\u00eb sigurt se doni ta njihni 100% tjetrin, me t\u00eb mirat dhe defektet e tij? Ja, 10 arsye p\u00ebr t\u00eb mos u martuar: <\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

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  1. \u201cBashkimi do t\u00eb jet\u00eb i p\u00ebrjetsh\u00ebm. Derisa vdekja t\u00eb na ndaj\u00eb\u201d<\/em><\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    K\u00ebto jan\u00eb disa nga frazat q\u00eb thuhen gjat\u00eb ceremonis\u00eb fetare. Megjith\u00ebse ato m\u00eb t\u00eb dashuruarat do t\u00eb jen\u00eb entuziaste p\u00ebr to, me kalimin e koh\u00ebs edhe ato do t\u00eb fillojn\u00eb t\u00eb ndjejn\u00eb nj\u00eb lloj shqet\u00ebsimi. Sigurisht, ndjehesh e sigurt kur ke p\u00ebrkrah nj\u00eb shok jete, por jeni t\u00eb sigurta se ai nuk do t\u2019ju zhg\u00ebnjej\u00eb kurr\u00eb?<\/p>\n

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    1. Zbulimi i gjith\u00eb defekteve t\u00eb tij. <\/em><\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

      Duke bashk\u00ebjetuar, dalin n\u00eb pah gjith\u00eb defektet e partnerit. N\u00ebse ai ka nj\u00eb q\u00ebndrim ose nj\u00eb detaj t\u00eb thjesht\u00eb q\u00eb ju nuk e duroni, dijeni se ai do t\u00eb theksohet edhe m\u00eb shum\u00eb pas martes\u00ebs. Para se t\u00eb martoheni, pra, \u00ebsht\u00eb e nevojshme t\u00eb njihni shum\u00eb mir\u00eb \u00e7do an\u00eb t\u00eb karakterit t\u00eb personit q\u00eb do t\u00eb keni p\u00ebrkrah gjith\u00eb jet\u00ebn.<\/p>\n

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      1. Do t\u00eb marrin fund aventurat zbavit\u00ebse.<\/em><\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

        \u00c7do grua ka sekretet e saj dhe para se t\u00eb takoj\u00eb shpirtin binjak, me siguri ka pasur eksperienca t\u00eb ndryshme seksuale. Pas martese do t\u2019u thoni lamtumir\u00eb gjith\u00eb aventurave t\u00eb rinis\u00eb, megjith\u00ebse mund t\u00eb vazhdoni t\u2019i kujtoni me buz\u00ebqeshje n\u00eb buz\u00eb.<\/p>\n

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        1. Jeta seksuale do t\u00eb jet\u00eb e reduktuar. <\/em><\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

          Nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb thjesht nj\u00eb th\u00ebnie! \u00c7iftet e martuara b\u00ebjn\u00eb m\u00eb pak seks dhe, sa m\u00eb shum\u00eb kalon koha, aq m\u00eb shum\u00eb p\u00ebrkeq\u00ebsohet situata. Nd\u00ebrmjet burrit e gruas futet rutina dhe, siguria se e ke gjithmon\u00eb n\u00eb dispozicion nj\u00eb partner, e ul n\u00eb maksimum d\u00ebshir\u00ebn.<\/p>\n

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          1. Nuk b\u00ebn m\u00eb pushime me shoq\u00ebrin\u00eb.<\/em><\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

            Shoq\u00ebria \u00ebsht\u00eb thelb\u00ebsore n\u00eb jet\u00ebn e \u00e7do gruaje, por n\u00eb fillim t\u00eb lidhjes ajo lihet pak pas dore. Nuk mund t\u00eb organizoni m\u00eb pushime vet\u00ebm me njer\u00ebzit q\u00eb doni, aq m\u00eb pak, pushime si beqare. Duhet t\u00eb filloni t\u00eb mendoni sikur jeni t\u00eb shkrir\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb person t\u00eb vet\u00ebm me partnerin.<\/p>\n

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            1. Z\u00ebnka p\u00ebr arsye ekonomike.<\/em><\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

              N\u00ebse kur ishit t\u00eb fejuar ai paguante gjithmon\u00eb n\u00eb restorant, pas martese, kjo do t\u00eb ndryshoj\u00eb. Do t\u00eb filloni t\u00eb grindeni se keni shpenzuar disa para m\u00eb shum\u00eb se \u00e7\u2018duhet dhe do t\u00eb njihnin an\u00ebn \u201ckurrnace\u201d t\u00eb burrit tuaj.<\/p>\n

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              1. Do t\u00eb neglizhoni veten.<\/em><\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                Kur t\u00eb filloni t\u00eb jetoni bashk\u00eb, do ta lini pak veten pas dore. Nuk do t\u00eb kujdeseni m\u00eb p\u00ebr \u00e7do detaj t\u00eb pamjes suaj, as p\u00ebr gjykimin e partnerit dhe n\u00eb dark\u00eb, p\u00ebrs\u00ebri do t\u00eb flini me t\u00eb me pizhama fanellate. Por, burrave nuk u p\u00eblqen kjo an\u00eb e grave dhe me kalimin e koh\u00ebs, pasojat mund t\u00eb jen\u00eb katastrofike.<\/p>\n

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                1. Partneri nuk do t\u2019ju d\u00ebgjoj\u00eb m\u00eb me v\u00ebmendje. <\/em><\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                  N\u00ebse nj\u00eb koh\u00eb ai ishte gjith\u00eb sy e vesh\u00eb, me fillimin e martes\u00ebs do t\u00eb p\u00ebrballoni kaq shum\u00eb probleme materiale, sa nuk do t\u00eb keni m\u00eb koh\u00eb e d\u00ebshir\u00eb t\u00eb d\u00ebgjoni fjalime idealiste. Ja pse partneri nuk do t\u2019ju d\u00ebgjoj\u00eb m\u00eb me aq v\u00ebmendje sa m\u00eb par\u00eb.<\/p>\n

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                  1. Nuk do t\u00eb jet\u00eb m\u00eb romantik. <\/em><\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                    Burrat zakonisht nuk jan\u00eb romantik\u00eb, por pak cinik\u00eb dhe kjo an\u00eb e karakterit t\u00eb tyre del n\u00eb pah vet\u00ebm pas martese. Ishte pik\u00ebrisht \u00ebmb\u00eblsia e tij q\u00eb ju joshi n\u00eb fillim? Mos i zini shum\u00eb bes\u00eb asaj.<\/p>\n

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                    1. Do t\u00eb kritikoj\u00eb gatimet tuaja.<\/em><\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                      N\u00eb fillim t\u00eb martes\u00ebs, \u00e7do burr\u00eb vendos se ka t\u00eb drejt\u00eb t\u00eb kritikoj\u00eb gatimet e gruas s\u00eb tij, edhe sikur m\u00eb par\u00eb t\u2019i kishte lavd\u00ebruar ato. Burri juaj do t\u00eb ket\u00eb gjithmon\u00eb d\u00ebshir\u00eb t\u2019ju kritikoj\u00eb, qoft\u00eb edhe p\u00ebr shpirtin e kontradikt\u00ebs, edhe kur nuk e meritoni.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

                        Ka gra q\u00eb e \u00ebnd\u00ebrrojn\u00eb dit\u00ebn e dasm\u00ebs q\u00eb nga f\u00ebmij\u00ebria, q\u00eb besojn\u00eb te princi i kalt\u00ebr dhe q\u00eb do t\u00eb b\u00ebnin \u00e7do gj\u00eb p\u00ebr ta takuar at\u00eb. Fustani romantik, dasma si n\u00eb \u00ebnd\u00ebrr dhe muaji i mjaltit jan\u00eb arritje t\u00eb v\u00ebrteta dhe ato do t\u00eb rendisnin k\u00ebtu qindra arsye pse martesa konsiderohet nj\u00eb […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":11714,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[50,86],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-11713","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-intimitet","category-psikologu"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/11713","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=11713"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/11713\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/11714"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=11713"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=11713"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=11713"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}