Un\u00eb q\u00eb po ju shkruaj dua t\u00eb identifikohem me emrin Mario. Shkruaj nga nj\u00eb qytet i vog\u00ebl i Shqip\u00ebris\u00eb. Para se t\u00eb nis historin\u00eb time, q\u00eb b\u00ebni mir\u00eb ta lexoni sepse mund t\u2019i ndodh\u00eb kujtdo prej jush, dua t\u00eb b\u00ebj nj\u00eb apel: pyesni, interesohuni n\u00eb maksimum kur jeni n\u00eb njohje e sip\u00ebr me nj\u00eb vajz\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb mos ju ndodh\u00eb si\u00e7 m\u00eb ndodhi mua. Jasht\u00eb shtetit, p\u00ebr shembull, p\u00ebrpara se nj\u00eb \u00e7ift t\u00eb martohet e t\u00eb bekohet me f\u00ebmij\u00eb, b\u00ebjn\u00eb edhe nj\u00eb s\u00ebr\u00eb analizash e testesh p\u00ebr t\u00eb kontrolluar sh\u00ebndetin e tyre dhe t\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebve q\u00eb do t\u00eb sjellin n\u00eb jet\u00eb, por dhe p\u00ebr t\u00eb parandaluar ngjarje t\u00eb shpifura si kjo.<\/p>\n
Dua ta theksoj q\u00eb un\u00eb vij nga nj\u00eb familje tipike shqiptare, me tradita, me paragjykimet q\u00eb ne i kemi normale e jemi m\u00ebsuar me to. Gjith\u00e7ka nisi kur isha student dhe kur u regjistrova p\u00ebr her\u00eb t\u00eb par\u00eb n\u00eb Qytetin Studenti, k\u00ebtu n\u00eb Tiran\u00eb. Qytetin Studenti besoj se t\u00eb gjith\u00eb e p\u00eblqejn\u00eb p\u00ebr jet\u00ebn e tij studentore e pavar\u00ebsin\u00eb q\u00eb krijon njeriu. Tani q\u00eb po e tregoj k\u00ebt\u00eb histori po kthehem pas n\u00eb koh\u00eb, rreth 5 vjet m\u00eb par\u00eb. Dit\u00ebt e para ishin t\u00eb zakonshme, me mallin e familjes, me stresin e t\u00eb p\u00ebrshtaturit n\u00eb nj\u00eb qytet t\u00eb ri, si edhe me hallet e shkoll\u00ebs. Vuajm\u00eb t\u00eb gjith\u00eb kur kujtojm\u00eb fillimet tona. Mua ma ndjente trupi dhe shpirti q\u00eb t\u00eb kisha nj\u00eb ngroht\u00ebsi, nj\u00eb p\u00ebrkujdesje fem\u00ebrore dhe nj\u00eb lidhje. Dita-dit\u00ebs isha n\u00eb gatishm\u00ebri dhe v\u00ebzhgoja vajzat kur kalonin, normalisht, si \u00e7do djal\u00eb tjet\u00ebr. Nj\u00eb dit\u00eb ndodhi ajo q\u00eb mos ju ndodht\u00eb kurr\u00eb juve! Nj\u00ebra vajz\u00eb m\u00eb ktheu buz\u00ebqeshjen dhe ishte shum\u00eb sensuale. M\u00eb hyri n\u00eb zem\u00ebr thell\u00eb, q\u00eb me shikimin e par\u00eb. Thash\u00eb \u201ckjo me patjet\u00ebr duhet t\u00eb b\u00ebhet e imja\u201d. Vajza quhej Ina. Ishte vajz\u00eb \u00e7apk\u00ebne dhe shum\u00eb e bukur. Mezi u afrova me t\u00eb dhe nuk e di, por n\u00eb qoft\u00eb se edhe asaj nuk do t\u2019i rrihte zemra e t\u00eb ishte kjo t\u00ebrheqja\u2026 do ta kisha shum\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebshtir\u00eb p\u00ebr ta b\u00ebr\u00eb p\u00ebr vete. Nis\u00ebm t\u00eb takoheshim normalisht\u2026 Dit\u00ebt e para rrinim shum\u00eb koh\u00eb n\u00eb kafe. Sh\u00ebtisnim bashk\u00eb n\u00eb dimrin e ftoht\u00eb, hanim bashk\u00eb ushqim n\u00eb mens\u00eb dhe koha nuk kishte si t\u00eb kalonte m\u00eb bukur. U miq\u00ebsuam aq shum\u00eb, saq\u00eb nj\u00eb dit\u00eb u b\u00ebm\u00eb t\u00eb dashur. K\u00ebtu filloi makthi im dhe kuptova se si \u00ebsht\u00eb t\u00eb ndjesh p\u00ebr gjakun t\u00ebnd e m\u00eb pas t\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00ebrmbyset gjith\u00eb bota. N\u00eb fillimet tona, si p\u00ebr ironi t\u00eb fatit, e pyeta se nga ishte.<\/p>\n
– Nga Italia \u2013 m\u00eb tha dhe qeshi.<\/p>\n
I thash\u00eb se n\u00eb Itali kisha edhe un\u00eb disa kush\u00ebrinj t\u00eb larg\u00ebt, po vet\u00eb nuk kisha qen\u00eb ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb n\u00eb at\u00eb vend. \u201cJan\u00eb shum\u00eb t\u00eb larg\u00ebt, le t\u00eb themi si lakra n\u00eb kop\u00ebsht\u2026\u201d, i thash\u00eb dhe ajo qeshi. Tani mallkoj veten q\u00eb nuk e zgjat\u00ebm at\u00eb bised\u00eb dhe q\u00eb muhabetet q\u00eb duhet t\u00eb ishin konsumuar t\u00eb parat, i b\u00ebm\u00eb t\u00eb fundit fare.<\/p>\n
Si p\u00ebr ironi t\u00eb fatit, e keqja ishte n\u00eb an\u00ebn ton\u00eb. I keni parasysh vajzat q\u00eb jan\u00eb t\u00eb ndrojtura me prind\u00ebrit e tyre dhe ua mbajn\u00eb t\u00eb fsheht\u00eb nj\u00eb lidhje? Ashtu e planifikuam edhe ne lidhjen ton\u00eb. Menduam t\u00eb mbaronim bachelorin e nd\u00ebrkoh\u00eb, kjo t\u00eb ishte edhe si periudh\u00eb prove, ose bashk\u00ebjetese, se si do t\u00eb na ecte dhe m\u00eb pas do ta vazhdonim lidhjen m\u00eb seriozisht\u2026 drejt fejes\u00ebs. Ina pranoi, madje ajo nuk e kishte problem t\u00eb kishte nj\u00eb lidhje t\u00eb till\u00eb, duke qen\u00eb se kishte jetuar shum\u00eb vjet n\u00eb Itali, nj\u00eb vend ku kishte nj\u00eb kultur\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb hapur se n\u00eb Shqip\u00ebri. Neve na p\u00eblqente t\u00eb flisnim vet\u00ebm p\u00ebr veten, t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt nuk na hynin n\u00eb sy fare, madje kur isha me t\u00eb, isha aq i dashuruar sa harroja gjith\u00eb bot\u00ebn\u2026 e ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb harroja t\u2019i telefonoja edhe familjes, se humbja n\u00eb \u00e7astet tona q\u00eb p\u00ebr at\u00eb koh\u00eb, n\u00eb ato rrethana, mbeten m\u00eb t\u00eb bukurat, por t\u2019i kujtosh tani, t\u00eb duken ferr. Prisni pak se nuk keni lexuar akoma pjes\u00ebn m\u00eb kulminante\u2026<\/p>\n
Drama ime filloi kur ishim n\u00eb gjasht\u00ebmujor\u00ebshin e dyt\u00eb t\u00eb lidhjes son\u00eb. Ndjeheshim mir\u00eb me nj\u00ebri-tjetrin. Edhe prind\u00ebrit i kishim p\u00ebrgatitur pak a shum\u00eb p\u00ebr lidhjen ton\u00eb, por pa u dh\u00ebn\u00eb shum\u00eb detaje. T\u00eb dyja familjet tona e mor\u00ebn me g\u00ebzim lajmin, duke par\u00eb q\u00eb ne bashk\u00eb studionim, ishim mir\u00eb me m\u00ebsime, t\u00eb lumtur dhe n\u00eb Tiran\u00ebn e madhe kujdeseshim p\u00ebr nj\u00ebri-tjetrin. Nj\u00eb dit\u00eb e mora In\u00ebn te sht\u00ebpia ime. Ina m\u00eb k\u00ebrkoi paraprakisht q\u00eb mamaja ime mos i b\u00ebnte shum\u00eb pyetje pasi ndihej shum\u00eb n\u00eb siklet. Ah, ato t\u00eb shkreta koh\u00eb, \u00e7far\u00eb nuk do t\u00eb b\u00ebja q\u00eb t\u2019i ktheja prap\u00eb mbrapa. E lam\u00eb t\u00eb takoheshim te sht\u00ebpia ime. Gjith\u00e7ka ishte nj\u00eb drek\u00eb ku familja ime e p\u00eblqeu shum\u00eb In\u00ebn. Pas drek\u00ebs shkuam direkt n\u00eb Tiran\u00eb se do t\u00eb fillonte viti i ri shkollor. E pyeta mamin n\u00eb telefon kur Ina nuk ndodhej me mua.<\/p>\n
– H\u00eb, o ma, si t\u2019u duk Ina?<\/p>\n
– Mir\u00eb, biri i n\u00ebn\u00ebs, vajz\u00eb yll ishte, e kulturuar, e sjellshme dhe dukej q\u00eb vinte nga familje e mir\u00eb.<\/p>\n
Edhe babai ishte n\u00eb t\u00eb nj\u00ebjt\u00ebn mendje. Nd\u00ebrkoh\u00eb, un\u00eb prind\u00ebrit e In\u00ebs nuk i takova dot se ishin n\u00eb Itali dhe flisnin me Skype. T\u2019i prezantoja me prind\u00ebrit e mi as q\u00eb m\u00eb shkonte n\u00ebp\u00ebr mendje se ne nuk po fejoheshim e as martoheshim q\u00eb t\u00eb hidhnim hapa kaq t\u00eb pjekur, por faji im, q\u00eb m\u00eb vret sot e k\u00ebsaj dite ishte se si nuk pyeta m\u00eb shum\u00eb e sot e k\u00ebsaj dite q\u00eb e kujtoj, qaj brenda vetes.<\/p>\n
At\u00eb koh\u00eb, un\u00eb dhe Ina filluam pun\u00eb n\u00eb call center dhe gjet\u00ebm af\u00ebr Qytetit Studenti nj\u00eb sht\u00ebpi me qira t\u00eb leverdisshme. N\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb ishim edhe me nj\u00ebri-tjetrin e kalonim m\u00eb shum\u00eb koh\u00eb bashk\u00eb, q\u00eb mos m\u00eb th\u00ebn\u00e7in m\u00eb me em\u00ebr mua\u2026 Gjat\u00eb jav\u00ebs s\u00eb par\u00eb, ne pat\u00ebm nj\u00eb bised\u00eb shum\u00eb intime dhe e ndjem\u00eb veten gati p\u00ebr nj\u00ebri\u2013tjetrin. Ina m\u2019u dha at\u00eb nat\u00eb. Kaluam nj\u00eb nat\u00eb pasionante me d\u00ebshir\u00ebn e t\u00eb dyve. Kjo gj\u00eb vazhdoi m\u00eb pas si nj\u00eb lidhje normale dhe e konsoliduar. Ishim \u00e7do dit\u00eb bashk\u00eb, fryma e saj zgjonte timen derisa arrit\u00ebm edhe n\u00eb p\u00ebrfundimin e bachelorit. Kishim shum\u00eb koh\u00eb bashk\u00eb, por gjith\u00e7ka kaloi shum\u00eb shpejt. Ina dhe un\u00eb, pas shum\u00eb vitesh sakrifica, iu betuam nj\u00ebri-tjetrit q\u00eb nuk do t\u00eb ndaheshim kurr\u00eb; nuk do kishte fem\u00ebr tjet\u00ebr p\u00ebr mua e mashkull tjet\u00ebr p\u00ebr t\u00eb. Kishim r\u00ebn\u00eb brenda me nj\u00ebri-tjetrin kok\u00eb e k\u00ebmb\u00eb. Nd\u00ebrkoh\u00eb, po afronte vera dhe prind\u00ebrit e In\u00ebs do t\u00eb vinin nga Italia. Un\u00eb, kur vajta te familja ime n\u00eb qytetin tim, u dhash\u00eb telefonin prind\u00ebrve t\u00eb mi q\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00ebrsh\u00ebndeteshin edhe me t\u00eb In\u00ebs. E lam\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb fejoheshim, por para saj t\u00eb kishim nj\u00eb takim formal ku prind\u00ebrit tan\u00eb t\u00eb takoheshin m\u00eb shum\u00eb e njiheshin familjet p\u00ebrpara se ne t\u00eb vendosnim. E k\u00ebshtu, Ina e un\u00eb ishim shum\u00eb t\u00eb emocionuar. Mezi e prisim. M\u00eb n\u00eb fund do t\u00eb dilnim bashk\u00eb xhiro n\u00eb qytetet tona pa u ruajtur e pa ndrojtje. Shkova n\u00eb qytetin e In\u00ebs ku u takova me prind\u00ebrit e saj. Pasi biseduam, u nis\u00ebm drejt qytetit tim, se babai In\u00ebs kishte makin\u00eb. Aty na priste familja ime, me nj\u00eb banket modest t\u00eb p\u00ebrgatitur nga ata. Ina e un\u00eb ishim shum\u00eb t\u00eb lumtur e gjat\u00eb gjith\u00eb rrug\u00ebs shtr\u00ebngonim duart. Sa arrit\u00ebm n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi, d\u00ebgjova mamin e In\u00ebs t\u00eb b\u00ebrtiste:<\/p>\n
– O Zot, jo!<\/p>\n
Aty d\u00ebgjova edhe mamin tim: – O bo bo, fati i djalit tim\u2026<\/p>\n
In\u00ebs i ra t\u00eb fik\u00ebt, kurse un\u00eb nuk po kuptoja asgj\u00eb. M\u00eb von\u00eb mora vesh q\u00eb mami im e kishte goc\u00eb daje mamin e In\u00ebs, me t\u00eb cil\u00ebn un\u00eb kisha ndar\u00eb jet\u00ebn time dhe shtratin.<\/p>\n
Nuk mund ta p\u00ebrshkruaj si ndihem tani dhe as nuk kam fuqi ta vazhdoj m\u00eb\u2026. Di t\u00eb them q\u00eb nga ajo dit\u00eb un\u00eb kam vdekur dhe jam shum\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00eb psikologjikisht. Flok\u00ebt m\u00eb bien nga stresi, jam dob\u00ebsuar shum\u00eb dhe do t\u00eb m\u00eb ngel\u00eb peng gjith\u00eb jet\u00ebn. Ina ka ikur jasht\u00eb shtetit as nuk e di se ku, nd\u00ebrsa un\u00eb jam ngujuar n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi dhe dua t\u00eb largohem sa m\u00eb par\u00eb nga ky vend. Kjo histori dhe ai premtim m\u00eb kan\u00eb shkat\u00ebrruar dhe duket se do t\u00eb m\u00eb ndjekin gjith\u00eb jet\u00ebn. Ju lutem, ju q\u00eb e lexuat historin\u00eb time, m\u00eb thoni \u00e7\u2019do t\u00eb kishit b\u00ebr\u00eb po t\u00eb ishit n\u00eb vendin tim. Do isha shum\u00eb kurioz t\u00eb lexoja k\u00ebshillat tuaja e ndonj\u00eb fjal\u00eb q\u00eb do t\u00eb m\u00eb jepte forc\u00eb, se gabimin e m\u00ebkatin tim e di…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Un\u00eb q\u00eb po ju shkruaj dua t\u00eb identifikohem me emrin Mario. Shkruaj nga nj\u00eb qytet i vog\u00ebl i Shqip\u00ebris\u00eb. Para se t\u00eb nis historin\u00eb time, q\u00eb b\u00ebni mir\u00eb ta lexoni sepse mund t\u2019i ndodh\u00eb kujtdo prej jush, dua t\u00eb b\u00ebj nj\u00eb apel: pyesni, interesohuni n\u00eb maksimum kur jeni n\u00eb njohje e sip\u00ebr me nj\u00eb vajz\u00eb […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[95],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-11036","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-rrefime-mekatesh"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/11036","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=11036"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/11036\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=11036"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=11036"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=11036"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}