Dua t\u00eb jetoj si gjith\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt!<\/p>\n
Kjo histori mund t\u00eb prek\u00eb shum\u00eb zemra, por fatkeq\u00ebsisht, nuk do t\u00eb mund t\u00eb prek\u00eb ato zemra q\u00eb duhet t\u00eb prekte… Mirela \u00c7. \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb vajz\u00eb nga Tirana, e bukur, e zgjuar dhe me shum\u00eb \u00ebndrra e d\u00ebshira, mir\u00ebpo preferenca e saj seksuale p\u00ebr seksin e nj\u00ebjt\u00eb ia ka shkat\u00ebrruar jet\u00ebn.
\nMirela kishte nj\u00eb jet\u00eb normale, nj\u00eb familje t\u00eb dashur, me ekonomi t\u00eb mesme, por m\u00eb e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme \u00ebsht\u00eb se mes tyre kishte shum\u00eb dashuri, nd\u00ebrsa tani jeta e saj ka ndryshuar totalisht. Familja q\u00eb e donte aq shum\u00eb, e dhunoi, p\u00ebrgojoi edhe braktisi. Njer\u00ebzit q\u00eb deri m\u00eb dje e mbajt\u00ebn n\u00eb krah\u00eb si f\u00ebmij\u00eb, ushtruan tortura nga m\u00eb t\u00eb ndryshmet mbi k\u00ebt\u00eb vajz\u00eb. Tani ajo shprehet se nuk ka m\u00eb asnj\u00ebri. N\u00ebse flasim p\u00ebr shoq\u00ebri, aq m\u00eb pak. Si mund t\u00eb afrosh nj\u00eb vajz\u00eb q\u00eb dashurohet m\u00eb nj\u00eb vajz\u00eb tjet\u00ebr n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb ambient ku t\u00eb gjith\u00eb priren t\u00eb paragjykojn\u00eb?!
\nKur e takova Mirel\u00ebn, m\u00eb transmetoi nj\u00eb gjendje frike, q\u00eb n\u00eb v\u00ebshtrim. Syt\u00eb q\u00eb her\u00eb-her\u00eb iu p\u00ebrlot\u00ebn gjat\u00eb bised\u00ebs son\u00eb, mbartnin shum\u00eb emocione, t\u00eb cilat e kam t\u00eb v\u00ebshtir\u00eb t\u2019i hedh n\u00eb let\u00ebr, ndaj do ta l\u00eb at\u00eb vet\u00eb t\u2019ju tregoj\u00eb m\u00eb shum\u00eb n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb bised\u00eb t\u00eb sinqert\u00eb, ku ajo rr\u00ebfen historin\u00eb e jet\u00ebs s\u00eb saj…<\/p>\n
– Mirela, sa vje\u00e7e je dhe ku jeton?
\n– Jam 19 vje\u00e7e dhe jetoj n\u00eb Tiran\u00eb.
\n– \u00c7far\u00eb t\u00eb dallon ty nga bashk\u00ebmoshataret e tua?
\n– Vet\u00ebm preferenca seksuale, asgj\u00eb m\u00eb shum\u00eb… N\u00eb fakt, edhe un\u00eb jam nj\u00eb vajz\u00eb si ato; flas, luaj, qesh, jetoj si ato, madje edhe vuaj si ato p\u00ebr l\u00ebndimet e mosh\u00ebs, ama ato jan\u00eb t\u00eb lira t\u00eb dashurojn\u00eb, t\u00eb shprehin ato q\u00eb ndiejn\u00eb, nd\u00ebrsa un\u00eb nuk mundem as t\u00eb shpreh dashuri n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00ebn time. A \u00ebsht\u00eb gabim t\u00eb duash dik\u00eb?! Si ato duhet t\u00eb jem edhe un\u00eb!
\n– Si do t\u2019i p\u00ebrshkruaje ndjesit\u00eb q\u00eb ke tani?
\n– Si mund t\u00eb ndjehet nj\u00eb person t\u00eb cilit tashm\u00eb i ka humbur \u00e7do e drejt\u00eb? Jam nj\u00eb njeri q\u00eb t\u00eb gjith\u00eb e paragjykojn\u00eb dhe e dhunojn\u00eb n\u00eb m\u00ebnyra t\u00eb ndryshme. Ndjehem shum\u00eb e posht\u00ebruar nga realiteti shqiptar.
\n– Pra, ti mendon se shoq\u00ebria jon\u00eb i fsheh problemet?
\n– Pjesa m\u00eb e madhe e shoqeve e shok\u00ebve q\u00eb kam i fshehin brenda vetes, sepse po t\u00eb shprehin at\u00eb \u00e7far\u00eb ndiejn\u00eb dhe mendojn\u00eb, e kuptojn\u00eb q\u00eb nuk do t\u00eb pranohen. Un\u00eb nuk jam e para q\u00eb kam k\u00ebto prirje, por shum\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00eb e vuajn\u00eb brenda vetes, si\u00e7 kam b\u00ebr\u00eb un\u00eb deri m\u00eb tani. Kjo ishte edhe arsyeja pse nuk doja t\u00eb bashk\u00ebbisedoja me ty, sepse e di q\u00eb shum\u00eb nuk do t\u00eb m\u00eb kuptojn\u00eb…
\n– Askush nga shoq\u00ebria jote nuk t\u00eb mb\u00ebshtet?
\n– Shoq\u00ebria q\u00eb kisha, jo vet\u00ebm q\u00eb nuk m\u00eb mb\u00ebshtet, por tashm\u00eb ka filluar t\u00eb m\u00eb paragjykoj\u00eb e t\u00eb m\u00eb tall\u00eb sa her\u00eb rastis p\u00ebrball\u00eb tyre. Deri dje isha shoqja e tyre e mir\u00eb dhe diskutonim shum\u00eb gj\u00ebra, kurse tani din\u00eb vet\u00ebm t\u00eb m\u00eb paragjykojn\u00eb, m\u00eb injorojn\u00eb, m\u00eb p\u00ebrbuzin.
\n– \u00c7far\u00eb b\u00ebn n\u00eb t\u00eb tilla situata?
\n– Ul kok\u00ebn dhe vazhdoj rrug\u00ebn… Kam qar\u00eb shum\u00eb her\u00eb me or\u00eb t\u00eb t\u00ebra p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb, madje shpesh kam tentuar t\u00eb pi ila\u00e7e p\u00ebr t\u2019i dh\u00ebn\u00eb fund jet\u00ebs.
\n– Pse nuk bisedon me nj\u00eb psikolog?
\n– Me mund\u00ebsit\u00eb q\u00eb kam, nuk p\u00ebrballoj dot jetes\u00ebn minimale e jo m\u00eb t\u00eb shkoj n\u00eb psikolog! Ata k\u00ebrkoj\u00eb pages\u00eb p\u00ebr \u00e7do seanc\u00eb… Do t\u00eb mundohem t`ia dal me forcat e mia.
\n– Si e kalon koh\u00ebn e lir\u00eb?
\n– Kur familja ime ende nuk e dinte se un\u00eb jam lesbike, dilja me shoqet, ikja n\u00eb pun\u00eb, pija kafe me motr\u00ebn etj., nj\u00eb jet\u00eb normale si \u00e7do 19 vje\u00e7are. Kur gj\u00ebrat ndryshuan dhe n\u00eb shoq\u00ebri nis\u00ebn ta kuptonin prirjen time, q\u00ebndroja gjat\u00eb gjith\u00eb koh\u00ebs e mbyllur n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi, b\u00ebja sikur isha s\u00ebmur\u00eb, deri kur e mori vesh edhe familja…
\n– Po familja si reagoi?
\n– Ndryshe nga shoq\u00ebria q\u00eb m\u00eb dhunonte vet\u00ebm me fjal\u00eb e p\u00ebrbuzje, familja nisi t\u00eb m\u00eb dhunonte edhe fizikisht. N\u00eb sht\u00ebpin\u00eb ton\u00eb sikur ra zia, kishte z\u00ebnka t\u00eb p\u00ebrditshme, biseda shum\u00eb t\u00eb gjata me ta. M\u00eb pas, kur e pranova se nuk kisha si t\u00eb ndryshoja, pasi un\u00eb jam kjo q\u00eb jam, m\u00eb p\u00ebrjashtuan, m\u00eb nxor\u00ebn jasht\u00eb nga sht\u00ebpia. Tani enden fare fillikat rrug\u00ebve t\u00eb Tiran\u00ebs…
\n– A kishe m\u00eb par\u00eb probleme me familjen, p\u00ebr gj\u00ebra t\u00eb tjera?
\n– (I mbushen syt\u00eb me lot) Jo, jo p\u00ebr gj\u00ebra t\u00eb m\u00ebdha. P\u00ebr mua, familja ime ishte familja m\u00eb e mrekullueshme n\u00eb bot\u00eb. Ishim t\u00eb lumtur. Ishin ata q\u00eb m\u00eb falnin dashuri m\u00eb shum\u00eb se askush tjet\u00ebr, por sot \u00ebsht\u00eb krejt e kund\u00ebrta. Nuk e di se si mund\u00ebn t\u00eb hiqnin dor\u00eb kaq leht\u00eb nga un\u00eb dhe t\u00eb harronin se m\u00eb lind\u00ebn e rrit\u00ebn me shum\u00eb sakrifica. Un\u00eb, edhe pse ekzistoj si njeri, nuk i ndjej m\u00eb si prind\u00ebr.
\n– M\u00eb the se kan\u00eb ushtruar edhe dhun\u00eb mbi ty…
\n– Nj\u00eb dit\u00eb debati yn\u00eb degradoi dhe babai ngriti dor\u00eb mbi mua. K\u00ebt\u00eb e ka b\u00ebr\u00eb shum\u00eb her\u00eb edhe n\u00eb prani t\u00eb mamit dhe t\u00eb motr\u00ebs. M\u00eb ka goditur edhe me sende, si p\u00ebr shembull me rripin e pantallonave. M\u00eb ofendonte me fjal\u00ebt m\u00eb t\u00eb r\u00ebnda. Mami dhe motra nuk ishin n\u00eb gjendje ta kund\u00ebrshtonin… Motra m\u00eb ka folur gjat\u00eb dhe n\u00eb ndryshim nga prind\u00ebrit, m\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb lutur t\u00eb ndryshoja. Sa e sa net\u00eb kemi qar\u00eb n\u00eb krah\u00ebt e nj\u00ebra-tjetr\u00ebs, por ishte e kot\u00eb! Edhe ajo, n\u00eb fund t\u00eb fundit, nuk m\u00eb kuptonte…
\n– E ke menduar ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb ta denoncosh babain?
\n– S\u2019e kam marr\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb guxim. Ku t\u2019i denoncosh?! N\u00eb Shqip\u00ebri \u00e7far\u00eb nuk po ndodh! Asnjeri nuk merret me mua… Edhe pse shpeshher\u00eb e kam menduar, n\u00eb fund t\u00eb fundit ata jan\u00eb gjith\u00e7ka kam dhe jetoj me shpres\u00ebn se nj\u00eb dit\u00eb do t\u00eb m\u00eb falin. E di q\u00eb s`do t\u00eb jet\u00eb e leht\u00eb, por un\u00eb do t\u00eb mundohem q\u00eb edhe mbas shum\u00eb vitesh t\u00eb lidh kontaktet me ta. Babain nuk dua ta shikoj e t\u2019i flas m\u00eb, se m\u00eb ka l\u00ebnduar shum\u00eb, por n\u00ebna edhe motra s\u2019kan\u00eb faj. Ndiej q\u00eb i dua p\u00ebrs\u00ebri. I shikoj n\u00eb \u00ebnd\u00ebrr, flas me to, m\u00eb duket sikur i prek e i p\u00ebrqafoj. Shikoj \u00ebndrra sikur jemi kthyer si m\u00eb par\u00eb.
\n– Kur e kuptove m\u00eb s\u00eb pari se ti kishe prirje homoseksuale?
\n– Q\u00eb nga viti i par\u00eb i gjimnazit… Un\u00eb p\u00eblqeja m\u00eb shum\u00eb shoqet e mia sesa djemt\u00eb e klas\u00ebs q\u00eb m\u00eb afroheshin. Ato gjith\u00eb koh\u00ebs flisnin me djem dhe ngacmoheshin, nd\u00ebrsa un\u00eb vet\u00ebm luaja rolin sikur m\u00eb interesonin djemt\u00eb. E kam kuptuar p\u00ebr her\u00eb t\u00eb par\u00eb ndjenj\u00ebn time kur shoqja e ngusht\u00eb u lidh me nj\u00eb \u00e7un. Aty u ndjeva p\u00ebr her\u00eb t\u00eb par\u00eb xheloze, e m\u00ebrzitur… Kur ajo puthte at\u00eb, doja t\u00eb isha un\u00eb n\u00eb vendin e tij.
\n– A je e dashuruar?
\n– Jo, nuk jam e dashuruar…
\n– Ma p\u00ebrkufizo me pak fjal\u00eb dashurin\u00eb…
\n– Pa familje s`ka dashuri, k\u00ebt\u00eb e them me plot bindje, sepse familja \u00ebsht\u00eb ajo q\u00eb t\u00eb fal ndjenjat m\u00eb t\u00eb bukura n\u00eb bot\u00eb.
\n– Por tani, familja t\u00eb ka nxjerr\u00eb jasht\u00eb… Ku po jeton?
\n– P\u00ebr momentin jam vet\u00ebm, fle n\u00eb nj\u00eb garsoniere me kushte minimale. Net\u00ebt e para nuk flija fare nga frika, por pastaj u m\u00ebsova, ndoshta edhe nga lodhja. Shpresoj t\u00eb largohem nga qyteti im dhe do t\u00eb mundohem t\u00eb gjej nj\u00eb pun\u00eb sa p\u00ebr t\u2019u ushqyer, diku ku nuk m\u00eb njeh askush. \u00cbsht\u00eb e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb, u b\u00ebn\u00eb 20 dit\u00eb q\u00eb nuk kam lar\u00eb rrobat e trupit. Mundohem t\u00eb pastrohem sadopak, por kushtet nuk i kam aspak t\u00eb mira. Ti mund ta kuptosh edhe vet\u00eb nj\u00eb fem\u00ebr q\u00eb ka dy muaj q\u00eb nuk jeton n\u00eb nj\u00eb sht\u00ebpi p\u00ebr s\u00eb mbari. Edhe tani q\u00eb po bisedojm\u00eb bashk\u00eb, ndihem shum\u00eb n\u00eb siklet…
\n– Gjat\u00eb k\u00ebsaj kohe, a ke pasur kontakt me njer\u00ebz q\u00eb donin t\u00eb shfryt\u00ebzonin rastin t\u00ebnd?
\n– Fal\u00eb Zotit, jo, sepse e veshura si djal\u00eb m\u00eb ka mbajtur shum\u00eb larg shfryt\u00ebzimit seksual. Jam munduar t\u00eb rri larg njer\u00ebzve. Sidomos kur shikoj maniak\u00eb nat\u00ebn, vet\u00ebm eci, largohem nga ai vend pa e ditur se ku po shkoj.
\n– E njeh LGBT?
\n– Po, kam d\u00ebgjuar n\u00eb televizor.
\n– Nuk je munduar ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb t\u00eb k\u00ebrkosh ndihm\u00eb tek ata?
\n– Nuk do ta marr fare k\u00ebt\u00eb iniciativ\u00eb. Ata dhunohen ashtu si un\u00eb. Ajo \u00ebsht\u00eb thjesht nj\u00eb organizat\u00eb, nuk besoj te ndihma e tyre. P\u00ebrderisa mua nuk po m\u00eb mb\u00ebshtesin njer\u00ebzit m\u00eb t\u00eb af\u00ebrt, si mund t\u00eb m\u00eb mb\u00ebshtes\u00eb nj\u00eb organizat\u00eb?
\n– Sa ka ndryshuar jeta jote?
\n– 360 grad\u00eb. \u00c7do gj\u00eb m\u00eb ka ndryshuar… I kisha t\u00eb gjitha e tani nuk kam asgj\u00eb… Asgj\u00eb.
\n– Si e imagjinon t\u00eb ardhmen?
\n– M\u00eb mungon imagjinata. Imagjinoj nj\u00eb streh\u00eb t\u00eb ngroht\u00eb, nj\u00eb cop\u00eb buk\u00eb, rroba t\u00eb pastra. N\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb pik\u00eb, nuk e di a do t\u00eb kem t\u00eb ardhme…
\n– D\u00ebshira m\u00eb e madhe q\u00eb ke?
\n– D\u00ebshira ime m\u00eb e madhe \u00ebsht\u00eb q\u00eb familja t\u00eb m\u00eb pranoj\u00eb k\u00ebshtu si\u00e7 jam dhe ta kuptojn\u00eb q\u00eb un\u00eb linda k\u00ebshtu, nuk desha t\u00eb b\u00ebhesha e till\u00eb. Kam koh\u00eb q\u00eb p\u00ebrjetoj dhun\u00eb psikologjike, p\u00ebrve\u00e7 asaj fizike q\u00eb m\u00eb ka shkat\u00ebrruar totalisht si njeri. Shum\u00eb her\u00eb kam menduar dhe vdekjen si rrug\u00ebzgjidhje. Nuk jetohet me frik\u00eb. Kam nevoj\u00eb edhe un\u00eb p\u00ebr mb\u00ebshtetje, t\u00eb m\u00eb p\u00ebrqafoj\u00eb dikush, t\u00eb ndjehem e mbrojtur… Mjaft m\u00eb kam duruar p\u00ebr nj\u00eb gj\u00eb q\u00eb s`mund ta zgjedh un\u00eb!<\/p>\n
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