– P\u00ebrsh\u00ebndetje Dr. Evi. Ju lutem, m\u00eb ndihmoni me mendimin tuaj. Un\u00eb jam 45 vje\u00e7e dhe i fejuari im \u00ebsht\u00eb 51 vje\u00e7. Jemi nga veriu dhe jemi fejuar me mbles\u00ebri. I fejuari e ka problem virgj\u00ebrin\u00eb dhe un\u00eb m\u00eb par\u00eb nuk kam kryer marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie seksuale, pasi nuk kam patur t\u00eb dashur. Her\u00ebn e par\u00eb q\u00eb donim t\u00eb kryenim marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie seksuale n\u00eb sht\u00ebpin\u00eb e tij, ai u prish shpejt dhe ne nuk kryem marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie. N\u00eb moment nuk kisha hemorragji, por pas 2 or\u00ebsh pash\u00eb q\u00eb kisha pak. Pas dy jav\u00ebsh ne tentuam p\u00ebrs\u00ebri t\u00eb kryenim marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie, madje disa her\u00eb, por un\u00eb nuk ndjeva penetrim, ndon\u00ebse i fejuari ushtroi disa her\u00eb forc\u00eb t\u00eb futej brenda. N\u00eb moment p\u00ebrs\u00ebri nuk kisha hemorragji dhe i fejuari m\u00eb b\u00ebri mua me faj, duke m\u00eb th\u00ebn\u00eb se nuk u fut dot se un\u00eb isha qepur. Pas 3 or\u00ebsh, pash\u00eb p\u00ebrs\u00ebri hemorragji te mbathjet. N\u00eb pasqyr\u00eb pash\u00eb q\u00eb i fejuari kishte \u00e7ar\u00eb di\u00e7ka nga forca q\u00eb ushtroi dhe un\u00eb kisha hemorragji, por i fejuari nuk e pranoi dhe m\u00eb tha se e kisha un\u00eb fajin q\u00eb ai prishej pa kryer marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie dhe se nuk u fut fare tek un\u00eb. V\u00ebrtet marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnia midis nesh nuk ndodhi, se nuk kishte penetrim, por a u prish virgj\u00ebria nga forca q\u00eb ai ushtroi ai tek un\u00eb? Pse mendoi i fejuari q\u00eb un\u00eb jam qepur, kur un\u00eb nuk kam kryer kurr\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie seksuale m\u00eb par\u00eb?
\nDr. Evi Dani, seksolog-androlog: – T\u00eb qenurit e virgj\u00ebr apo jo n\u00eb momentet e martes\u00ebs apo t\u00eb kryerjes s\u00eb aktit t\u00eb par\u00eb seksual me at\u00eb q\u00eb do t\u00eb jet\u00eb burri i ardhsh\u00ebm \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb koncept q\u00eb sa vjen e po zbehet. \u00cbsht\u00eb kryesisht nj\u00eb rit apo koncept p\u00ebr fen\u00eb myslimane apo ata q\u00eb besojn\u00eb te kjo fe, por n\u00eb koh\u00ebn e sotme, ku shoq\u00ebria \u00ebsht\u00eb liberalizuar dhe hapur, edhe marr\u00ebdh\u00ebniet seksuale jan\u00eb tashm\u00eb m\u00eb liberale, ndaj edhe ky koncept pothuajse po zhduket. Nga nj\u00eb v\u00ebzhgim i b\u00ebr\u00eb n\u00eb klinik\u00ebn time u konstatua se 70 % e t\u00eb pyeturve nuk e kishin problem virgj\u00ebrin\u00eb te partnerja q\u00eb do t\u00eb kishin n\u00eb krah, ose do t\u00eb ishte gruaja e tyre e ardhshme. N\u00eb qoft\u00eb se nj\u00eb djal\u00eb e p\u00eblqen dhe e dashuron nj\u00eb vajz\u00eb dhe do t\u00eb mendoj\u00eb se kjo do t\u00eb jet\u00eb n\u00ebna e f\u00ebmij\u00ebve t\u00eb tij, pra, gruaja me t\u00eb cil\u00ebn t\u00eb kaloj\u00eb nj\u00eb jet\u00eb t\u00eb gjat\u00eb, do t\u2019i vler\u00ebsoj\u00eb n\u00eb radh\u00eb t\u00eb par\u00eb virtytet q\u00eb ajo do t\u00eb ket\u00eb si fem\u00ebr. Besnik\u00ebria q\u00eb ajo do t\u00eb ket\u00eb karshi burrit t\u00eb saj, dashuria nd\u00ebrmjet nj\u00ebri-tjetrit e shum\u00eb cil\u00ebsi t\u00eb tjera jan\u00eb tashm\u00eb ato \u00e7far\u00eb shikon pjesa m\u00eb e madhe e \u00e7iftit dhe prania e himenit (cip\u00ebs s\u00eb virgj\u00ebris\u00eb) nuk do t\u00eb ndikoj\u00eb aspak n\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie.
\n– Sigurisht, mospasja r\u00ebnd\u00ebsi e himenit t\u00eb defloruar u vu re kryesisht te djemt\u00eb q\u00eb jetonin n\u00eb qendrat urbane dhe koncepti i tyre p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb ishte i avancuar. \u00c7far\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsie do t\u00eb ket\u00eb q\u00eb nj\u00eb vajz\u00eb e cila ka gjitha virtytet e saj shum\u00eb t\u00eb mira, p\u00ebr nj\u00eb moment n\u00eb nj\u00eb mosh\u00eb t\u00eb re e ka humbur k\u00ebt\u00eb virgj\u00ebri? \u00c7far\u00eb mund t\u00eb thot\u00eb i fejuari juaj n\u00ebse i themi se shum\u00eb femra b\u00ebjn\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie seksuale orale dhe anale q\u00eb t\u00eb mbajn\u00eb himenin e tyre t\u00eb padefloruar? Do t\u00eb ishte i k\u00ebnaqur ai me nj\u00eb rast t\u00eb till\u00eb!? Do t\u00eb kisha th\u00ebn\u00eb q\u00eb ju, me sa po kuptoj, jeni nj\u00eb vajz\u00eb q\u00eb nuk keni b\u00ebr\u00eb v\u00ebrtet marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie seksuale, por edhe sikur t\u00eb jet\u00eb dikush tjet\u00ebr t\u00eb ket\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb moment t\u00eb caktuar nj\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie seksuale, \u00e7far\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsie do t\u00eb kishte, n\u00eb qoft\u00eb se ju jeni e p\u00ebrkushtuar dhe e doni burrin tuaj? Sidoqoft\u00eb, n\u00eb shum\u00eb raste ka edhe himen (cip\u00eb virgj\u00ebrie), q\u00eb ka nj\u00eb nd\u00ebrtim t\u00eb till\u00eb q\u00eb nuk nxjerr gjak n\u00eb momentin kur ndodh marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnia seksuale. Pavar\u00ebsisht nga k\u00ebto, n\u00ebse e shikoni t\u00eb udh\u00ebs, do t\u00eb d\u00ebshiroja t\u00eb komunikonim bashk\u00eb dhe un\u00eb do ta informoja t\u00eb fejuarin tuaj, duke e bindur at\u00eb dhe ta qet\u00ebsoja p\u00ebr mendimet q\u00eb ka. Jeni t\u00eb mir\u00ebpritur. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
– P\u00ebrsh\u00ebndetje Dr. Evi. Ju lutem, m\u00eb ndihmoni me mendimin tuaj. Un\u00eb jam 45 vje\u00e7e dhe i fejuari im \u00ebsht\u00eb 51 vje\u00e7. Jemi nga veriu dhe jemi fejuar me mbles\u00ebri. I fejuari e ka problem virgj\u00ebrin\u00eb dhe un\u00eb m\u00eb par\u00eb nuk kam kryer marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie seksuale, pasi nuk kam patur t\u00eb dashur. Her\u00ebn e par\u00eb q\u00eb […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[89,219,88],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-10536","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-mjeku","category-pyetje-pergjigje","category-seksologu"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/10536","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=10536"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/10536\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=10536"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=10536"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=10536"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}