{"id":10394,"date":"2015-09-08T17:30:15","date_gmt":"2015-09-08T15:30:15","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/?p=10394"},"modified":"2015-09-08T11:49:32","modified_gmt":"2015-09-08T09:49:32","slug":"sapo-jeni-lidhur-kujdes-me-pyetjet","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/2015\/09\/sapo-jeni-lidhur-kujdes-me-pyetjet\/","title":{"rendered":"Sapo jeni lidhur? Kujdes me pyetjet!"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Keni r\u00ebn\u00eb dashuri me shikim t\u00eb par\u00eb me nj\u00eb djal\u00eb simpatik. Q\u00eb nga ai moment, keni d\u00ebshir\u00eb t\u00eb m\u00ebsoni gjith\u00e7ka p\u00ebr t\u00eb: Filmin dhe muzikantin e preferuar, cil\u00ebt jan\u00eb shok\u00ebt e tij… Megjithat\u00eb, nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb mir\u00eb t\u00eb dish gjith\u00e7ka q\u00eb n\u00eb fillim t\u00eb nj\u00eb lidhjeje…<\/em><\/p>\n

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Jemi dakord, besimi dhe sinqeriteti jan\u00eb \u00e7el\u00ebsi i nj\u00eb lidhjeje t\u00eb sh\u00ebndetshme p\u00ebr shumic\u00ebn e \u00e7ifteve. Ju keni d\u00ebshir\u00eb (dhe \u00ebsht\u00eb normale) q\u00eb lidhja juaj t\u00eb funksionoj\u00eb. Si arrihet kjo? Duke ruajtur pak misterin, sidomos kur b\u00ebhet fjal\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb kaluar\u00ebn dashurore t\u00eb secilit prej jush. S\u00eb pari, sepse n\u00ebse i zbuloni t\u00eb gjitha n\u00eb fillim, nuk do t\u00eb ngelet m\u00eb gj\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb zbuluar. Dihet se pritja \u00ebsht\u00eb fillimi i k\u00ebnaq\u00ebsis\u00eb dhe ta zbulosh tjetrin pak nga pak, \u00ebsht\u00eb 100 her\u00eb m\u00eb eksituese. S\u00eb dyti, ka subjekte q\u00eb zem\u00ebrojn\u00eb edhe \u00e7iftet q\u00eb shkojn\u00eb mir\u00eb me nj\u00ebri-tjetrin dhe t\u2019i prek\u00ebsh m\u00eb von\u00eb, kur lidhja do t\u00eb jet\u00eb m\u00eb e q\u00ebndrueshme, \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb vendim i men\u00e7ur. Ja, pra, 4 subjekte q\u00eb duhet t\u2019i lini p\u00ebr m\u00eb von\u00eb.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

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  1. Me sa vajza ka shkuar<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    N\u00ebse ka nj\u00eb person n\u00eb bot\u00eb q\u00eb ka arritur ta prek\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb subjekt pa shkaktuar reaksione negative te pala tjet\u00ebr, at\u00ebher\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u2019i hequr kapelen… Ky \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb subjekt q\u00eb duhet ta evitoni si murtaj\u00ebn. Cilidoqoft\u00eb numri, duke pranuar se djali do t\u00eb p\u00ebrgjigjet n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb t\u00eb sinqert\u00eb, ai do t\u00eb zgjoj\u00eb te ju nj\u00eb kriz\u00eb paranojake. 2 apo 3? \u201cO, ai paska eksperienc\u00eb seksuale sa nj\u00eb adoleshent 17 vje\u00e7ar\u201d. 15 apo 20? \u201cObobo, paskam r\u00ebn\u00eb n\u00eb dashuri me nj\u00eb donzhuan\u201d. At\u00ebher\u00eb, ia vlen m\u00eb mir\u00eb t\u00eb mos ia b\u00ebni k\u00ebt\u00eb pyetje. M\u00ebsoni t\u00eb mposhtni kuriozitetin tuaj.<\/p>\n

    Pastaj, kjo pyetje do t\u00eb t\u00ebrheq\u00eb nj\u00eb tjet\u00ebr: Edhe ai do t\u00eb ket\u00eb d\u00ebshir\u00eb t\u00eb m\u00ebsoj\u00eb sa djem kan\u00eb kaluar n\u00eb shtratin tuaj. Nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb subjekt shum\u00eb romantik, sidomos n\u00ebse lista juaj \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb e gjat\u00eb se e tij. Egoja e tij mund t\u00eb vuaj\u00eb dhe kjo rrezikon t\u00eb njollos\u00eb imazhin e vajz\u00ebs s\u00eb past\u00ebr q\u00eb ai ka krijuar p\u00ebr ju (eh, po, \u00ebsht\u00eb e padrejt\u00eb, por \u00ebsht\u00eb ende aktuale n\u00eb vitin 2105, q\u00eb nj\u00eb burr\u00eb q\u00eb ka pasur shum\u00eb t\u00eb dashura \u00ebsht\u00eb i zoti, nd\u00ebrsa ekuivalenti i tij fem\u00ebror konsiderohet si nj\u00eb vajz\u00eb e leht\u00eb, p\u00ebr t\u00eb mos th\u00ebn\u00eb epitete t\u00eb tjera).<\/p>\n

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    1. N\u00ebse ka tradhtuar n\u00eb jet\u00ebn e tij<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

      Sigurisht, n\u00ebse djali i ri q\u00eb ka hyr\u00eb n\u00eb jet\u00ebn tuaj \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb tradhtar kronik, ju keni t\u00eb drejt\u00eb ta m\u00ebsoni dhe, sa m\u00eb shpejt, aq m\u00eb mir\u00eb (p\u00ebrve\u00e7se n\u00ebse keni vendosur t\u00eb keni nj\u00eb \u00e7ift t\u00eb hapur). Por, n\u00ebse ai nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb tradhtar kronik dhe \u00ebsht\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb pishman pas nj\u00eb tradhtie, m\u00eb mir\u00eb t\u00eb mos e merrni vesh menj\u00ebher\u00eb, bile m\u00eb mir\u00eb t\u00eb mos e merrni vesh fare. Ju keni d\u00ebshir\u00eb t\u00eb m\u00ebsoni pse dhe si, \u00e7far\u00eb pamjeje kishte kjo vajz\u00eb, si ka reaguar, etj. Me nj\u00eb fjal\u00eb, shum\u00eb detaje intime dhe jo shum\u00eb t\u00eb lavdishme, q\u00eb mund t\u2019ju faniten edhe n\u00eb \u00ebnd\u00ebrr dhe t\u00eb prishin k\u00ebt\u00eb ndjenj\u00eb q\u00eb sapo ka lindur. \u00cbsht\u00eb mir\u00eb t\u00eb dini di\u00e7ka m\u00eb shum\u00eb, m\u00eb von\u00eb. K\u00ebshtu, mund t\u2019i tregoni edhe ju ndonj\u00eb sekret tuajin, ndonj\u00eb mbr\u00ebmje, pasi keni pir\u00eb, por n\u00eb p\u00ebrgjith\u00ebsi, \u00ebsht\u00eb mir\u00eb t\u2019i evitoni subjekte t\u00eb tilla.<\/p>\n

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      1. Pse lidhja e tij e fundit nuk ka funksionuar<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

        Kur fillon nj\u00eb histori dashurie premtuese, ke d\u00ebshir\u00eb t\u00eb mos riprodhosh gabimet e b\u00ebra n\u00eb t\u00eb kaluar\u00ebn. Ju doni t\u00eb keni nj\u00eb \u00e7ift t\u00eb p\u00ebrkryer? Shum\u00eb mir\u00eb, por nuk do ta arrini k\u00ebt\u00eb duke e bombarduar t\u00eb dashurin tuaj t\u00eb ri me pyetje mbi lidhjen e tij t\u00eb m\u00ebparshme: \u201cSa her\u00eb b\u00ebnit dashuri n\u00eb jav\u00eb?\u201d, \u201cKur grindeshit, kush t\u00ebrhiqej i pari?\u201d, \u201cKush komandonte n\u00eb \u00e7ift?\u201d. \u00c7\u2019r\u00ebnd\u00ebsi kan\u00eb k\u00ebto pyetje tani? L\u00ebreni veten t\u00eb qet\u00eb n\u00eb rrjedh\u00ebn e lumit t\u00eb madh t\u00eb dashuris\u00eb dhe shijoni lidhjen pa e analizuar shum\u00eb n\u00eb detaje k\u00ebt\u00eb gj\u00eb. N\u00eb dashuri, duhet t\u00eb dish t\u00eb jetosh momentin.<\/p>\n

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        1. \u00c7far\u00eb mendon ai p\u00ebr ish-in e tij<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

          Ah, subjekti delikat i ish-it, q\u00eb e nxjerr kok\u00ebn n\u00eb t\u00eb gjitha lidhjet q\u00eb fillojn\u00eb! Mundohuni ta vononi n\u00eb maksimum k\u00ebt\u00eb bised\u00eb. Pse? Sigurisht, n\u00ebse lidhja ka marr\u00eb fund me nj\u00eb marr\u00ebveshje t\u00eb p\u00ebrbashk\u00ebt dhe gjith\u00e7ka \u00ebsht\u00eb rregulluar mes tyre, nuk ka probleme n\u00eb horizont, por n\u00eb 90% t\u00eb rasteve, t\u00eb prek\u00ebsh k\u00ebt\u00eb tem\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00ebsoj si t\u00eb hap\u00ebsh kutin\u00eb e Pandor\u00ebs. Ju nuk keni d\u00ebshir\u00eb t\u00eb m\u00ebsoni q\u00eb i dashuri juaj \u00ebsht\u00eb l\u00ebn\u00eb si nj\u00eb \u00e7orape e vjet\u00ebr, ose q\u00eb ai ka humbur gjith\u00eb dinjitetin e tij duke u qarravitur n\u00eb dritaren e k\u00ebsaj vajze, ose q\u00eb ish-i i tij i fundit ishte nj\u00eb vajz\u00eb histerike q\u00eb i shkon gjithmon\u00eb nga pas dhe atij i \u00ebsht\u00eb dashur t\u00eb nd\u00ebrroj\u00eb num\u00ebr telefoni, sepse ajo i d\u00ebrgonte 100 sms n\u00eb dit\u00eb. M\u00eb keq akoma, mund t\u00eb m\u00ebsoni se ai \u00ebsht\u00eb ende i dashuruar pas asaj q\u00eb ai konsideronte gruan e jet\u00ebs s\u00eb tij. Ah!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

              Keni r\u00ebn\u00eb dashuri me shikim t\u00eb par\u00eb me nj\u00eb djal\u00eb simpatik. Q\u00eb nga ai moment, keni d\u00ebshir\u00eb t\u00eb m\u00ebsoni gjith\u00e7ka p\u00ebr t\u00eb: Filmin dhe muzikantin e preferuar, cil\u00ebt jan\u00eb shok\u00ebt e tij… Megjithat\u00eb, nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb mir\u00eb t\u00eb dish gjith\u00e7ka q\u00eb n\u00eb fillim t\u00eb nj\u00eb lidhjeje…   Jemi dakord, besimi dhe sinqeriteti jan\u00eb \u00e7el\u00ebsi […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[86,219],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-10394","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-psikologu","category-pyetje-pergjigje"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/10394","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=10394"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/10394\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=10394"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=10394"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=10394"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}