{"id":10255,"date":"2015-08-25T10:30:21","date_gmt":"2015-08-25T08:30:21","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/?p=10255"},"modified":"2015-08-24T14:32:34","modified_gmt":"2015-08-24T12:32:34","slug":"tja-shpreh-dashurine-apo-jo-shoqes","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/2015\/08\/tja-shpreh-dashurine-apo-jo-shoqes\/","title":{"rendered":"T\u2019ja shpreh dashurin\u00eb apo jo shoqes?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><strong>&#8211; Kam nj\u00eb shoqe q\u00eb e njoh prej vitesh, e konsideroj shoqe t\u00eb ngusht\u00eb dhe flasim bashk\u00eb p\u00ebr \u00e7do gj\u00eb. Problemi \u00ebsht\u00eb se un\u00eb e ndjej q\u00eb kam r\u00ebn\u00eb n\u00eb dashuri me t\u00eb, por m\u00eb vjen zor t\u2019ja them, kam frik\u00eb se mos prishet dhe shoq\u00ebria m\u00eb pas. Si mendoni ju t\u2019ja them, un\u00eb fundja kam q\u00ebllime serioze p\u00ebr t\u00eb, dua t\u00eb martohem me t\u00eb, por kam friken e p\u00ebrgjigjes s\u00eb saj. Pres nj\u00eb mendim tuajin si psikologe?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong><em><u>Borana Marku, psikologe:<\/u><\/em><\/strong> &#8211; I nderuar lexues, ajo \u00e7far\u00eb ndjeni p\u00ebr vajzen \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb ndjenj\u00eb e bukur fisnike, dhe nuk ka asgj\u00eb t\u00eb keqe n\u00ebse ja shprehni asaj. Q\u00eb ju t\u00eb shmangni frik\u00ebn e p\u00ebrgjigjes s\u00eb saj, do t\u2019ju k\u00ebshillonim q\u00eb me pak zgjuarsi t\u00eb zbuloni n\u00ebse vajza ushqen ndonj\u00eb ndjenj\u00eb p\u00ebr dik\u00eb tjet\u00ebr, pastaj ju duke q\u00ebn\u00eb shoku i saj i ngusht\u00eb duhet ta dini n\u00ebse ajo ka dik\u00eb n\u00eb jet\u00ebn e saj, apo \u00ebsht\u00eb e lir\u00eb. Megjithat\u00eb di\u00e7ka m\u00eb thot\u00eb q\u00eb p\u00ebrderisa ju ndjeni p\u00ebr t\u00eb, dhe jeni gati t\u2019ja shprehni dashurin\u00eb, do t\u00eb thot\u00eb q\u00eb ajo \u00ebsht\u00eb e lir\u00eb dhe besoj koh\u00ebn m\u00eb t\u00eb madhe e kalon me ju. Si ja shprehet dashurin\u00eb, si nuk ja shprehet, s\u00ebrisht ju vuani. K\u00ebshtuq\u00eb m\u00eb mir\u00eb n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb rast \u00ebsht\u00eb t\u2019ja thoni t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00ebn q\u00eb ndjeni p\u00ebr t\u00eb. K\u00ebto marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie, ose kalojn\u00eb n\u00eb dashuri, ose kufizohen n\u00ebse p\u00ebrgjigjia e vajz\u00ebs \u00ebsht\u00eb negative. Natyrisht, \u00ebsht\u00eb mir\u00eb kur kalojn\u00eb n\u00eb dashuri, sepse sipas statistikave, martesat m\u00eb t\u00eb mbara dhe m\u00eb t\u00eb sh\u00ebndosha jan\u00eb pik\u00ebrisht ato kur nga miq\u00ebsia dhe shoq\u00ebria, lind dashuria. Ju keni r\u00ebn\u00eb n\u00eb dashuri, dhe urojm\u00eb q\u00eb dhe vajza t\u00eb ushqej\u00eb t\u00eb nj\u00ebjtat ndjenja p\u00ebr ju, dhe ju t\u00eb p\u00ebrfundoni s\u00eb bashku. Pra, mendimi yn\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb q\u00eb ju t\u2019ja shprehni dashurin\u00eb shoqes tuaj t\u00eb mos e mbani p\u00ebrbrenda se nuk ju b\u00ebn mir\u00eb as ju dhe as shoq\u00ebris\u00eb tuaj. Ju uroj shum\u00eb fat.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>&#8211; Kam nj\u00eb shoqe q\u00eb e njoh prej vitesh, e konsideroj shoqe t\u00eb ngusht\u00eb dhe flasim bashk\u00eb p\u00ebr \u00e7do gj\u00eb. Problemi \u00ebsht\u00eb se un\u00eb e ndjej q\u00eb kam r\u00ebn\u00eb n\u00eb dashuri me t\u00eb, por m\u00eb vjen zor t\u2019ja them, kam frik\u00eb se mos prishet dhe shoq\u00ebria m\u00eb pas. Si mendoni ju t\u2019ja them, un\u00eb fundja [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[86,219],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-10255","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-psikologu","category-pyetje-pergjigje"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/10255","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=10255"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/10255\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=10255"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=10255"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=10255"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}