{"id":10230,"date":"2015-08-14T16:30:47","date_gmt":"2015-08-14T14:30:47","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/?p=10230"},"modified":"2015-08-14T11:37:46","modified_gmt":"2015-08-14T09:37:46","slug":"si-te-mbroni-femijet-ne-rastin-e-nje-divorci","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/intervista.al\/web\/2015\/08\/si-te-mbroni-femijet-ne-rastin-e-nje-divorci\/","title":{"rendered":"Si t\u00eb mbroni f\u00ebmij\u00ebt n\u00eb rastin e nj\u00eb divorci?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><strong><em>Ndarja nga nj\u00eb bashk\u00ebshort\/e apo partner mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb nj\u00eb nga periudhat m\u00eb sfiduese dhe m\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebshtir\u00eb emocionale n\u00eb jet\u00ebn e nj\u00eb njeriu. Situata \u00ebsht\u00eb edhe m\u00eb e tendosur dhe e nd\u00ebrlikuar kur jan\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00ebrfshir\u00eb edhe f\u00ebmij\u00ebt. P\u00ebr shumic\u00ebn e njer\u00ebzve gj\u00ebja m\u00eb e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb t\u00eb rregullojn\u00eb \u00e7\u00ebshtjen e kujdesit ndaj f\u00ebmij\u00ebve. Emocionet shpesh jan\u00eb t\u00eb ndezura dhe pro\u00e7edurat ligjore mund t\u00eb jen\u00eb t\u00eb frikshme. Sado e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb t\u00eb jet\u00eb, \u00ebsht\u00eb thelb\u00ebsore t\u00eb rregullohet \u00e7\u00ebshtja e kujdesit ndaj f\u00ebmij\u00ebve sa m\u00eb shpejt t\u00eb jet\u00eb e mundur, n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb mbrohen f\u00ebmij\u00ebt nga problemet emocionale. Sigurisht, ky \u00ebsht\u00eb objektivi i \u00e7do prindi.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong><em>Pra, nga duhet filluar? Megjith\u00ebse nuk ka rregulla t\u00eb p\u00ebrcaktuara mir\u00eb, k\u00ebto pes\u00eb hapa praktik\u00eb do t\u2019ju ndihmojn\u00eb t\u00eb arrini nj\u00eb marr\u00ebveshje miq\u00ebsore me partnerin p\u00ebr t\u00eb vepruar gjithmon\u00eb n\u00eb interes dhe n\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00eb t\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebve.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<ol>\n<li>S\u00eb pari duhet t\u00eb vendosni n\u00ebse nj\u00ebri nga personat do t\u00eb q\u00ebndroj\u00eb n\u00eb sht\u00ebpin\u00eb e vjet\u00ebr familjare me f\u00ebmij\u00ebt. Kjo do t\u00eb ishte nj\u00eb zgjedhje e mir\u00eb, sepse f\u00ebmij\u00ebt do t\u00eb vazhdonin t\u00eb jetonin n\u00eb t\u00eb nj\u00ebjtin mjedis t\u00eb q\u00ebndruesh\u00ebm ku ndjehen t\u00eb sigurt\u00eb, qoft\u00eb edhe p\u00ebr nj\u00eb koh\u00eb t\u00eb shkurt\u00ebr.<\/li>\n<li>N\u00ebse nj\u00ebri nga prind\u00ebrit do t\u00eb largohet, diskutoni sesa shpesh, kur dhe si ai apo ajo do t\u00eb kontaktoj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebt. Kontakti i shpesht\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb i r\u00ebnd\u00ebsish\u00ebm, sidomos p\u00ebr f\u00ebmij\u00ebt e vegj\u00ebl. M\u00eb mir\u00eb do t\u00eb ishin takime t\u00eb shpeshta periodike, sesa t\u00eb gjata dhe rrall\u00eb dhe sigurohuni q\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebt t\u00eb ken\u00eb mund\u00ebsi kontakti n\u00eb \u00e7do koh\u00eb me secilin nga prind\u00ebrit me telefon apo sms, q\u00eb t\u2019i kontaktojn\u00eb ata sa her\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb e nevojshme.<\/li>\n<li>Uluni dhe b\u00ebni nj\u00eb plan t\u00eb orareve t\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebve dhe orareve tuaja t\u00eb pun\u00ebs. Q\u00ebllimi juaj \u00ebsht\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb menaxhoni vajtjen n\u00eb shkoll\u00eb t\u00eb tyre, si edhe n\u00ebp\u00ebr aktivitetet jasht\u00ebshkollore. Kur vjen koha q\u00eb do t\u00eb ndaheni, ju duhet t\u00eb jeni t\u00eb aft\u00eb t\u2019u siguroni f\u00ebmij\u00ebve pjes\u00ebmarrjen n\u00eb t\u00eb gjitha aktivitetet q\u00eb ata zhvillojn\u00eb brenda dhe jasht\u00eb kuadrit shkollor dhe q\u00eb atyre u p\u00eblqejn\u00eb.<\/li>\n<li>F\u00ebmij\u00ebt, edhe n\u00eb mosh\u00eb t\u00eb vog\u00ebl, duhet t\u00eb kuptojn\u00eb ndryshimin q\u00eb po b\u00ebhet n\u00eb familje, prandaj \u00ebsht\u00eb mir\u00eb t\u2019ua sqaroni situat\u00ebn q\u00eb n\u00eb fillim. Kur keni vendosur p\u00ebr rolet q\u00eb do t\u00eb keni p\u00ebr \u00e7uarjen e f\u00ebmij\u00ebve n\u00eb shkoll\u00eb, etj, vendosni se si dhe kur t\u2019ua komunikoni ndarjen e f\u00ebmij\u00ebve. Sigurisht, b\u00ebjeni k\u00ebt\u00eb me but\u00ebsi dhe komunikojini edhe t\u00eb gjitha ndryshimet praktike me t\u00eb cilat ata do t\u00eb p\u00ebrballen n\u00eb jav\u00ebt q\u00eb do t\u00eb vijn\u00eb. Ndarja dhe divorci zakonisht jan\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebshtir\u00eb p\u00ebr f\u00ebmij\u00ebt, edhe sikur ata t\u00eb mos tregojn\u00eb shenja stresi menj\u00ebher\u00eb. K\u00ebshtu do t\u00eb ishte mir\u00eb t\u2019u shpjegonit atyre se \u00e7far\u00eb duhet t\u00eb presin nga kjo \u201cjet\u00eb e re\u201d, n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb q\u00eb t\u2019i pranojn\u00eb m\u00eb leht\u00eb ndryshimet, megjith\u00ebse ju mund t\u00eb mos keni p\u00ebrgjigjen e t\u00eb gjitha pyetjeve.<\/li>\n<li>N\u00eb fund, n\u00eb rastin kur nj\u00ebri nga ju fillon nj\u00eb mar\u00ebdh\u00ebnie t\u00eb re brenda nj\u00eb kohe t\u00eb shkurt\u00ebr nga ndarja, b\u00ebjeni prezantimin me kujdes, gradualisht dhe (idealisht) me mb\u00ebshtetjen e ish partnerit tuaj. N\u00ebse \u00ebsht\u00eb e mundur, p\u00ebrpiquni q\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebt t\u00eb jen\u00eb stabilizuar mir\u00eb n\u00eb rutin\u00ebn e tyre t\u00eb re, para se t\u00eb b\u00ebni k\u00ebt\u00eb prezantim. Ka gjasa q\u00eb ju t\u00eb p\u00ebrballeni me reagime negative nga ana e tyre, por duhet t\u00eb punoni q\u00eb ta mbani komunikimin e hapur dhe pozitiv, nd\u00ebrkoh\u00eb q\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebve tuaj u duhet kohe t\u00eb m\u00ebsohen me nj\u00eb person t\u00eb ri n\u00eb jet\u00ebn e tyre.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p>Emocionet dhe tensionet mund t\u00eb jen\u00eb t\u00eb fuqishme n\u00eb rastin e ndarjes dhe mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb t\u00eb injorosh ndjenjat e k\u00ebqija kundrejt ishit tuaj. N\u00ebse n\u00eb mes jan\u00eb edhe f\u00ebmij\u00ebt, ata nuk kan\u00eb asnj\u00eb faj, prandaj duhen mbrojtur sa m\u00eb shum\u00eb t\u00eb jet\u00eb e mundur, nga stresi dhe trishtimi q\u00eb shkakton ndarja. Bashk\u00ebpunoni me ish partnerin\/en tuaj p\u00ebr t\u00eb mir\u00ebn e f\u00ebmij\u00ebve, k\u00ebshtu do t\u2019u jepni atyre shanset m\u00eb t\u00eb mira p\u00ebr t\u2019iu p\u00ebrshtatur gjith\u00eb ndryshimeve.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Ndarja nga nj\u00eb bashk\u00ebshort\/e apo partner mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb nj\u00eb nga periudhat m\u00eb sfiduese dhe m\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebshtir\u00eb emocionale n\u00eb jet\u00ebn e nj\u00eb njeriu. Situata \u00ebsht\u00eb edhe m\u00eb e tendosur dhe e nd\u00ebrlikuar kur jan\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00ebrfshir\u00eb edhe f\u00ebmij\u00ebt. P\u00ebr shumic\u00ebn e njer\u00ebzve gj\u00ebja m\u00eb e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb t\u00eb rregullojn\u00eb \u00e7\u00ebshtjen e kujdesit ndaj f\u00ebmij\u00ebve. 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